30 and completely lost in life

 silver0 (@silver0) 5 years, 11 months ago

I’m a 30 yo male that moved to NYC around December after trying to find a job remotely and decided I needed to move here to find something. I have always loved the city when visiting and the idea of living there seemed so far outta reach… and I decided I just have to move and make it happen. I have been trying to find a job since, but it has proven more difficult than anticipated. The problem is I have been out of work for almost 2 years now. I was doing sales straight out of college for an IT/Communications company for 6 years before they closed their door, but it wasn’t my passion, just a paycheck. The job burnt me out because I was so unhappy for so long and I took time off to travel the states and figure out where I wanted to live after being in one state my whole life, and thats when I decided on NYC. I thought maybe I should try to get into a more creative company here and I would be happier, and maybe start off doing some marketing (closest transition from sales experience) or advertising but it seems hard to get into said fields with little experience. I have been applying like crazy and got a few interviews but I’m either over qualified (as I’m trying to start low), or under qualified and they go with someone else. I know the gap in employment is hurting me but there is nothing I can do about that (why does this time loss hurt someone in our society). At this point I really dont even know if that is something I want to do, how does one find passion this late in the game? I would love to do something that helps people and is actually rewarding but I want to be able to survive here financially and I have no other experience apart from the sales. I feel like I have to choose between a paycheck and doing something I dont like because of lack of other experiences or happiness.

June 6, 2012 at 2:44 pm
Alicia Lee (146) (@aliwine) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I don’t see the reality in “over qualified”.. to me that translates to “perfectly qualified”. If I was you and one of those “over qualified jobs” seemed like something you would like I would have asked them to hire you. So you know more than you “should” is there really a problem with that??

This is a situation many people find themselves in because they choose to go to college for something “easy”, “pays well” or “I guess I will like it”. A career is a VERY important choice- perhaps the most important choice of your life. It’s not too late to start over, you are only 30, but now you’ll probably retire 5-10 years later than you would have hoped.

silver0 (0) (@silver0) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@aliwine, Yeah I was once told that I was over qualified and that they thought I would be bored. I explained I wanted to start low and learn from the bottom up, but basically they went w/ a younger guy recently outta college which I’m guessing means they paid him less than they would me (or they just didnt want to hire me). Its just a little disheartening not even being able to find something like that, and it makes me feel unhirable at this point.

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