Achieving your goals, but at the expense of others

 travel man (@travelman) 5 years, 5 months ago

Hey HE Family. I’m new to HE and feel I might have finally found a forum of like minded individuals to share ideas with.

Ok. So my topic of discussion is how important are your life goals if achieving them is at the expense of others happiness?

To explain: Over the duration of my previous relationship of 7 years I frequently traveled overseas for a period of around 30 days a year. These trips were my own private trips to climb mountains around the world and undertake other personal adventure goals. Achieving these goals greatly changed my life.

Now the relationship has ended I’m torn between a mix of satisfaction that I still chose to follow my personal dreams, but also that perhaps my relationship would have been stronger had I just stayed home with her instead of leaving once a year for travel.

A thought provoking question would be:

Would you hurt 1 person in your lifetime if if meant all your dreams could come true?

December 12, 2012 at 11:15 am
Ray Butler (1,422)M (@trek79) 5 years, 5 months ago ago

@travelman, I am lucky because all I want can’t possibly involve harming others, but I’d say yes. It depends on a whole weighing of personal gain versus severity of harm, it takes good judgement to figure that out. I think a big reason why most people feel unfulfilled is because they refuse to give themselves permission to be selfish and if a person who is harmed does not understand why you would behave that way then that person will most likely be one of those who remain unfulfilled.

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