I created my account a while ago but then forgot all about it. Then one day, as I read my journal, I found my handwritten note, and heavy underline “HIGH EXISTENCE” and it brought me back to this site. I thought I would with you all a life long question of mine.
What is happiness? What does happiness mean to you?
What words/feelings/images that you first thought about when you heard the word Happiness?
I feel like that’s the tagline of becoming human. We just need that guy who does the movie trailers…
Are you looking to discover yourself in ways never known possible!?
“Are you in control of your own happiness?”
… sometimes X
Can’t put it any better than mr eckhart.
“Don’t seek happiness. If you seek it, you won’t find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is rather than making up stories about it.”
@arielnguyen, We can always choose happiness, or any emotion for that matter. Becoming aware that we have a choice is the game of life.
External conditions aren’t what create emotions, it’s us. You can feel something based off a complete lie. Realizing we don’t require external proof to feel a certain way is what frees us to create anything we want. Including happiness!
Emotions are one of the most powerful tools a human being is given to shape their experience, we’ve just forgotten how to use the damn things!
@arielnguyen, Short answer: yes.
But when you realize/remember you can feel happy for no reason, it’s actually the least manipulative thing ever. The world stops being a means to an end, it becomes a playground to share your own happiness. You don’t need people to be a certain way, you don’t need to have certain things.
Feelings don’t always have to be just a reactive thing. Reactive feelings are there to uncover your beliefs, proactive feelings are to create new ones :)
@dominickjohn, I did not see hapiness like this before, but what you said(everything you said) has changed my view. It is so true. I find myself letting my emotions take control of me, but you are right my emotions are mine to choose. I will remember your words for a long time to come.
“Hapiness to me is a state of being that can be chosen at any time.”
To want to be happy is to be selfish because I think the only thing that we have to do should be living without making mistake. However, there are so many people that most of them want to live with happiness. As things which is wrong bring them happiness, they would rather do wrong things than others. That’s a weakness of human beings. Indeed, this is a necessity for them because they are being tested with these right and wrong choices. Yet, we can get happiness by knowing that what is right and what is wrong. Shortly, I think the way of happiness is to live without making mistake..
I think you guys are confusing happiness with all-encompassing love. Happiness is a chemical cocktail that the ego tends to get addicted to. Attachment to happiness causes sadness to manifest. Do not seek happiness, you will quickly become very bad at acquiring it.
You didn’t hear this from me but the best way to achieve happiness is to put it out of your mind.
@kedukc, You mean like ignorance as bliss? That’s something different imo. A shortcut to a present state of mind (all-encompassing love). The feeling amplifies if you have control over your affairs however (playing God).
@yukselsarac, I have to disagree. Making mistakes is an integral part of acquiring happiness. The life aiming for making no mistakes is not a happy life, instead we should focus on living and doing the right thing and when we do make mistakes, we learn from it. Life can’t be perfect. I can see what you’re saying as doing wrong – perhaps making bad decision to attain short term pleasure vs long term happiness.
@trek79, I don’t think the opposite of sadness is happiness. THe opposite of sadness is nonsadness – or the lack of sadness. But that doesn’t mean not being sad will automatically make us happy.