Hello fellow HE’s…
I’ve had this thought for a long time and now I feel like I need to get it off my chest.
I’m a somewhat normal 18 year old guy, studying, playing soccer and hanging out with friends just like anyone else.
However, I can’t seem to overlook the growing differences between me and my generation. Every single day I see people at my school, who care extremely much about what others think of them (at least that’s what I’ve come to conclude). Having the latest phone, gadgets, shoes and a specific haircut seems to overweigh some of the more important things in life (at least in my opinion) and I just don’t see why? I don’t mind being a little weird from time to time and do some of the things others might not do since I don’t really care what others think of me… Furthermore, having a large number of friends on Facebook, constantly being available and in touch online etc. has also risen in popularity. It seems like people are chasing some kind of unachieveable dream. I mean, what’s the big deal about being yourself and just relaxe instead of being someone you’re not?
I don’t know.. I just feel like I’ve sometimes outgrown most people at my age. I listen to old music (The Doors, Jimi Hendrix, The Beatles, Dire Straits and so on..) I hate smartphones which nowadays only seem to hypnotize people around me, disabling them from any kind of social activities and in general I find many things i dislike about my generations acting, manners and way of living (the fear of talking to strangers, not standing up for old people on the bus, constantly being on the phone etc.)
I feel like this was a confusing explanation but hopefully you know what I mean. How do you feel about the youngsters of our society?
Peace and love,
As a 20 year old, I feel the same way. It seems like most people just skim the surface of life. They seek the approval of other people more than trying to cultivate their most natural self. I find it very hard to find peers who are able to peel back the surface of society to find the psychological mechanisms hidden underneath. Maybe I’m just a pessimist but it feels like young people are becoming more and more controllable and are easily trapped into the current system. Buy hey, without a mass population of people with their heads in the clouds, our current consumer society would never work because we would see the damage it causes our species and the planet as a whole and we would decide to stop.
I feel somewhat the same way. I really just hate how we are no longer connected to our surroundings, but only to our own egos. Nearly everything we do is in favour of our own. I really get pissed when people are on their phones when you’re talking to them. It’s like some kind of crazy addiction. As if people are chained to their smartphones and have the key in their own hands to unlock, but yet they cant. I agree that it’s gotten very lonely. There’s a time and place for anything. Smartphones and real life interaction dont go so well together.
I couldnt agree with you on the music thing. Your preferenes dont make you superior to others. Yeah Jimi Hendrix, Beatles, Rolling Stones etc were good bands, but I’m sure as hell that in those times there were loads of crappy bands too. I’m sure that in those times people thought the same about the Beatles as we would think about Justin Bieber. There’s tons of good music nowadays, you just should dig deeper than the surface. And I honeslty can enjoy some of nowadays pop music. And that’s chill about living in times like these, you can browse through so many options, you can find information about anything in a fraction of a second. It’s just up to the individual how “deep” you go.
Maybe you are one of these people who go to the core of everything, someone who is more concious than others. Just remember that there are a lot of people who are superficial, with or without smartphone. In the 70s (for example) people may had talked more with each other, but the majority of them probably talked about glamour and the superficial too, just as people do on the internet now. It’s just more obvious. Before the internet everything that was said was said and it was forgotten. Now everything that had been written has been stored and could be tracked. So I would be careful of idealising those past generations and disdain ours.
I hope this somewhat made sense lol.
I think that between every generation there is a gap,even we have different habits than our grandparents.Also, trends spread very rapidly and all over the world because of the media , so it’s easy for a large group of people to have access to the same idea at exactly the same time. Things like taste in music,art,fashion is subjective , they can reflect personality but almost never the level of maturity ,I mean even a small child can like songs that aren’t current right now if he is exposed to them.Old songs are almost never played on the radio or on TV ,you have to actively search for them,so a large group of people can’t be exposed to the same old song at the same time for it to become again a trend. I think that the reason why most “youngsters” don’t listen to old music is because they didn’t have much contact with it, it’s not played constantly in clubs or linked on the Home page of YouTube. How can you really know that people are faking what they like?
Things like not opening the door for a girl ,or not giving the seat to an old person on the bus happens because it is sociable accepted in the present, these social “rules” became social “choices”with time. Let’s imagine what would happen if 100.000 of those youngsters would suddenly travel back in time 100 years with no possibility to come back to the present day.They would have to conform to those social rules eventually because they are the minority and they would probably grow to like the songs played in that time. What if you would travel back in time ,in a society where the norm is to kiss the hand of every girl that is introduced to you,otherwise it would be considered a lack of respect,would you conform and start doing it or not and risk the chance of insulting your bosses’s wife? These social rules,customs were taken very seriously in the past ,so everybody adhered to them no matter their personal preference,nowadays we have more freedom.
People are meant to be sociable because of the self preservation instinct. I think that the Internet is best at giving us that sense of belonging to a group while being “safe” , hiding our “weak spots” .We can lie very easily,we have time to think when posed a question, we can argue with someone without being intimidated by their facial expression ,physical built,tone of voice etc. On the Internet we feel mentally connected to people , we have that “safe”/I am not really alone ” feeling ,even when we are, let’s say ,in outer space.!
The fact that you love old music,hate smartphones and prefer talking face to face are more of a personal preference ,because nowadays we have multiple choices for everything ,it’s not something that happens to everyone when they grow up . You can’t distance yourself from your generation because you are part of the generation,I am part of the generation ,those people that stay on the phone all day are part of the generation ,those that watch TV all day are part of this generation because the definition of a generation is “all of the people born and living at about the same time, regarded collectively.”
So ,unless you think you can go back in time and change your year of birth , you’re stuck with us buddy :)
Your so right i cant go back in time and change it. and even if im honest over the internet i have no proof im 0N3 of many voices i have no proof well the good news is i give my self fair judgement and i try not to judge others. iv been exercising my way into the social life and/or society with others and yes i understand I’m stuck with this generation guess I better make the best out of it:-}
Iv actually became antisocial for this reason I’m 23 and I don’t like the club I don’t drink I don’t smoke I don’t cuss I’m not violent I don’t believe in religious slavery such as false teaching paying tides with money I don’t lie much at all never cheated on a girl I don’t watch TV or movies much i dont hate any one… Im in to medatation balanced chakras spirit stuff eternal love peace and telling the truth. im black but believe im more spirit then skin color thats ever the way i see others im an outcasts by a long shot.. Thankx you for this bcuz i thought i was the only young one out of touch with my generation funny thing is i really dont fit 70s 80s 90s or 2000.. I guess its because there is more like this on social media the Society…
Hi, im 25, i went through the same when i was studying, even now. But you know, i feel so different, and yet happier. Im not upset if imnot the first one in the Apple store buying the new iPhone or so. I don’t wear fancy of fashonable clothing, i just wear my own personal style you know?
We are growing living beings, i believe all your life you will continue learning, meeting new people, new places, trying to understand the world around you that never stops moving and changing. Many people tend to move along with tendencies, with fashion, with popular beliefs or so.
One day I stopped trying to fit in, so far is the best i’ve done. Ive been growing, learning and living according to my own ideas, my own values, my own vision of the universe, and things become more and more interesing as you keep on going.
What i’m trying to say is that at the moment i tried to be or pretend to be something, when i stopped going on that road of looking for acceptance, is when i became aware of all the things around me, i became aware of me and my potential, i became open for all kinds of interesing people, places, ideas, creativity, passion, love, light, energy, everything starts to flow, as you have found the frequency you belong to. You know?
I was like this years ago and people always told me I’m an old soul. Some people are just more wise than others or more conscious. You will grow more and more like that as you will strive to feed parts of your soul our culture cannot and that is okay because that is how it is supposed to be. Think of the greatest minds in history…they certainly weren’t like their buddies and they had little in common with most people. When I took a personality test it made a lot of sense – it said only 1.7 percent of the population had my personality…that made me feel a lot better as to why I don’t understand a lot of people around me and did not really get people when I was younger. Maybe that will help you too.
The same here. I’m 23 and can’t find my place among people in my age. Was very independent and too mature [and nothing hasn’t changed] starting from age 12, as far as I remember. Yes, I have a few close friends who are from the same generation as mine, but I prefer to spend my time with more older people. And I can’t do there anything else. Sometimes I’m thinking that I would love to be a bit more different like, even I know that those youngsters are often stupid in my eyes, I would like to take life simpler, as they take it. I would like to know how it feels like when only thing you care about is your ‘social status’, because I’m too mature and instead of having my social life, I prefer to read books, stay at home on the weekends and analyze/ think too deep about every situation and persons I daily collaborate with. Of course I have my sociable side, but I’m tired of it. I can bring fun more to other people than myself by socializing. Sometimes I ask the question, if everything is fine with me and, if I’m not going to end up being alone, living like this. eheh
I felt that way i had to question myself to see if I was unaware of some deep jealousy. Like my brother he has a odd freedom were he doesn’t care for other peoples feeling and he would lie with no shame and cheat. but he had no guilt with 100 friends/girl friend. And got accepted by every one. hes really content with his lifestyle its like evil freedom and here i am being my self trying to help people. Having this love for my self and others. emotional being honest as i can trying to take responsibly for my own actions and i was like my big brother when i was bout 13 so somtimes i reminisce on the freedom of running wild but I’m not looking for accepting anymore now that I am spiritually woke we should accept in these changes we go thro matter fact I’m alive because I left that life and i look bacc now and see the life i lived was goin nowhere bcuz i see the reflection of my old self in my big brother who was a straight A student:)
I can relate to this immensely; my closest friends are Jim Morrison and Frank Sinatra. Everyone else has seemingly just fed into the series of distractions being thrown at them.The only way to overcome this, I think, would be to search for people similar to you.
Im with you. Im 17 and all my friends are in there 20s. I left high school bc I hate feeling lonely when surrounded by hundreds of people. I just cant relate to the kids at school. They are all obsessed with material things and conforming so all the other pricks will accept them
Thank you so much for the response, I’m very grateful that you took the time to write advice and comments for me.
I’ve thought a lot about this during the last 6 months (btw sorry for the VERY late response haha) and I think that I can’t and mustn’t hate other people based on their preferences whatever they may be – I should try and guide/help them towards opening their minds to new ideas and maybe make their life a little better.
Furthermore I’ve realized the importance of not trying to constantly fit in and keep up a facade to please others. Now I couldn’t care less about what others think of me – I am who I am and that’s just fine with me.
The revolution starts in the individual :)
Once again thank you, you wonderful people!
I feel you on so many levels. I’m only 17 years old and , I’ve been out of touch with this generation. Sometimes I would delete my social media accounts because I honestly didn’t see a point too it , I would use it but then all of a sudden hate it again because I think it’s pointless. I listen to a lot of old music but I have my fair share of listening to new music but usually music that has meaning to it . The music they call “trap” I cannot relate too and , I don’t understand why most kids can because it’s complete garbage to me. I have more in touch with the Shirley temple ages than I do with mine. I can relate more to a high school movie made in the 70s than a high school movie made in 2016 or 2017. I hate the way teens treat old people , and teachers now a days. Students don’t try in school anymore and , it’s sickening , parents barely set discipline for their children anymore , everything is just becoming one big huge status , and I wish it wasn’t like that.