Can a relationship work if one partner is highly religious?

Profile photo of Leah Smith Leah (@Leah-Smith) 1 year ago

Okay, so I’ve only just become a member of this site purely to post this question – can a relationship work if one partner is more religious than the other?

So I’ve been seeing this guy for the past couple months and we really like each other, possibly even love … I know it’s pretty soon. We’ve had sex as most couples tend to these days, but in the past couple weeks he’s been feeling really down about things and just in general. He has realised that he needs to accept God back into his life as he has been pushing him away for as long as he can remember, but he knows that this maybe the last chance he gets to welcome God back into his life.  We both know that if an when he does this, it will mean that he’ll have to stop taking drugs, stop partying and also, stop having sex until marriage (potentially). The solution, he thinks, is to take a couple weeks apart from each other in order for him to establish the role that God needs to play in his life and for him to know that God only wants whats best for him. 

He still wants to be with me, and I obviously still want to be with him yet I’m worried that after this ‘break’ he’s going to have to choose between me or God, and obviously although I am not a Christian myself, I understand that he would have to put God first, above anything or anyone. I think the fact that I know this makes it all the more heartbreaking for me. He keeps reassuring me that this is not the case, but I think even he knows deep down that there is a possibility that this may happen. 

I just want to know if anyone else has gone through this situation or anything similar … if so, how do you cope with it? Is it actually that bad? Or am i just overthinking everything?

Thanks guys in advance! :)

January 12, 2016 at 12:56 pm
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jayki (10) (@jayki) 1 year ago ago

yawa doesn’t make us love anyone but him. We call him a he because it’s written that way god is the shepherd. Which is man. The man leads the house and creates order and authority. Your relationship has no authority and it has no order. Yawa is god if that didn’t make since. Your partner isn’t religious. No more then I am christian. Which should be telling you something considering I am the biggest universalist there is. My belief is that a relationship will fail if there isn’t one person calling the shots. I also think the first time you have sex should be planned. I think a year is perfect. If you cant go a year with out having sex with someone chances are you wont make it as a couple. I also think It doesn’t matter. Your boyfriend is failing to be a good partner because he’s flaking on you. He needs to be more confident with his decisions and not back down. Tell him that Christianity makes it’s followers wait for fear that they are not ready to be real men. Ask him if he really loves you or if he’s just trying to run away. Those are serious things to consider good luck and if the two of you would like more help with this please feel free to ask. 

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BitterOldMan (17) (@BitterOldMan) 1 year ago ago

It’s probably not what you want to hear for a response, but stay true to who you are. Sometimes you’ll meet somebody for whom you really care, but you don’t match. This could be values, choice of lifestyle or something else. It sucks so bad, but if you cannot be with him and stay true to yourself at the same time, you have to let him go. 

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Karol (1) (@RysioMisio) 1 year ago ago

Of course it can work, Christian values are mostly pretty universal so its easy to follow them. Just talk to him and ask how he feels about the whole thing and if he has a problem with you not being Christian.

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Hopeful (0) (@Beleive) 2 weeks, 1 day ago ago

Well I’m currently in a relationship where religion has consumed her life! I am religious I don’t go to any said church but I am a believer and talk with God on a daily basis but I don’t live every moment of my life asking God what I should do she has become a dooms dayer believing the end times are here that we need to learn more about God it has become extremly taxing on me ask I don’t profess my faith to people with a baseball bat lol I beleive it is not up to me to save people from themselves and they can beleive what they wish does a relationship work if one is more religious no not if you forget God is love and you don’t realize you your love for God is different than your love for each other and make no room for the love of each other over your love for God that is what can’t be forgotten

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seer (0) (@stricnine) 3 days, 20 hours ago ago

Religion and spirituality, constantly evolves. The wanting for understanding. Love is blind not knowing of religion. Walk the path of love. And walk the path. 

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