A week ago i posted about how i’m not over a guy due to continuous infactuation. Well, i’m still not over him. Once again let me point out I am NOT in love. I’m not in love with the boy, i am in love with the memories. The late night walks on the golf course in my neighborhood. The dancing in the rain at a kids park at 3 o’clock in the morning. The way we could stay up all night in either mine, or his bed, JUST talking. The way he’d stare at me from across the room at awkward family gatherings at my grandmas house. The way he’d hold my hand and kiss me in front of EVERYONE because he wanted them to know i’m “his”. The way we could drive around and sing boy band songs (mostly mayday parade) and not be enbarrassed at all.
These are just a few of the things I miss more than anything.
If I made a list of EVERYTHING, you’d probably be reading for another 2 hours.
Basically, what i’m trying to say is, I’ve tried everything to get over this shit. Painting, making music, even doing the things i’m told, and not rebelling against authority. I just can’t seem to get him out of my mind, even though i don’t like him, honestly, he disgusts me.
But thats just life i guess.
Only time can heal.
@taylordacreator, What are you looking for by posting this? I see no questions or asking for advice, mostly something that looks like a journal entry. and Im tempted to throw out a “cool story, bro”, but I suppose we can meet somewhere in the middle.
Everyone has someone like this. There is a lot of different ways to deal with it, but mostly time is what helps the most. Get over it, there are far more important things in life to worry yourself over then some guy that disgusts you.
@ilooklikeawaterbottle, what the douce. So you tell me to fuck off because of my advice, then repeat the last line of the OP’s post, then repeat what I said? You didnt bring anything new to the table and just copied what everyone else said. Maybe you should be doing a little more of the fucking off yourself, sir.
Fuck me? No, I highly doubt that would be accomplished by posting online, I even more highly doubt that was anyone’s intention.
How did you reach that conclusion?
That title could mean anything. It could be anything, for example an update such as “heartbreak isn’t real” which would be a good informative post.
You don’t get what you pay for. It’s like a Kinder surprise egg, you don’t know what’s inside until you open. And it’s usually disappointing.
@taylordacreator, When you see comments by people that show no weaknesses, remember that they’ve been through it and don’t want to remember it, because now they’re kings of their world.
Also, Heart break in the title and emphasizing on the fact that you’re not in love surely is a self-convincing bullshit. I’m also not in love with him, but I never had amazing memories with him, you know. But if you dump your pride, you might get ridiculously sincere responses here. :)
@taylordacreator, How are they being assholes? It’s a legitimate question.
Usually people come here and ask questions, to provoke discussion. You just posted a “journal entry”, like you said, so the question of “why did you post this?” stands.
It doesn’t have to be a negative question, it’s a curiosity question. When you do something outside the norm, you will get questioned. Sometimes mean questions, sometimes nice questions, sometime neutral questions that can be taken either way. The trick is to take the neutral questions in a positive way, instead of projecting negative influence into them and making them into negative questions.
@xyver, I really wish i knew how to delete this now hahaha, i just didn’t think it’d be wrong to post this. Like, I didn’t think people would get on my ass about it. you know?
I’m really not looking for any trouble.
@taylordacreator, You’re not finding trouble, you’re finding questions. This is a place of questions and discussions, and since you never created one, the people replying created them for you :P
If you really want to delete the whole topic, I can do that for you, or you can keep it to discuss further. Whichever you please.
Taylor ignore them, this site is also a place where people say their thoughts to people, where they wouldn’t have to people around them. These posts are unwarranted and you guys need to realize this teenager here is only venting out in hopes of finding good advice.
Don’t let a few bad apples spoil everything.
Forums are always going to contain assholes, dwelling on their bullshit means they win. Just pass it off.
@taylordacreator, I know that this topic will be deleted soon, if all goes according to plan. But I wish you luck in moving past this, these love scenarios can be tough on people. So I will tell you what I tell myself……..just work on being the best possible “you”, remember all your interests and hobbies and dreams you had BEFORE you found the person who put your heart in a blender. You can’t let your interests and hobbies go, you know, and only have a person as your sole interest – life will get boring, and ironically, it also acts as a turn-off. And also, nothing has to be any certain way. Just because you’re alone now doesn’t mean you’ll be alone for the rest of your life. It’ll happen if you want it to. I myself have been alone my whole life, and I’m considerably older than yourself. But I know it will change. Good luck to you!
@grandkintaro777, Except she wasn’t asking for good advice, she was just venting.
Like I said before, how are they being assholes? It’s easy to pounce on someone and call them names, but can you support it with evidence?
@taylordacreator, And why did you feel offended? If you are looking for advice, one that’s popular around here is you have to change your perspective. So, your current perspective of the responses are that they are negative, so here you can practice having a positive perspective on things.
Like I said to grandkintaroo, it’s easy to pounce and call something a names (in this case, you’re calling a statement offensive), but can you have evidence to support your call? What about the statement makes it an offensive statement?
@xyver, You are an asshole too.
“The way he’d hold my hand and kiss me in front of EVERYONE because he wanted them to know i’m “his”. The way we could drive around and sing boy band songs (mostly mayday parade) and not be enbarrassed at all.
These are just a few of the things I miss more than anything.
If I made a list of EVERYTHING, you’d probably be reading for another 2 hours.”
She was venting in hopes of someone posting something meaningful to cure her of her heart break, but instead she gets blown off to the point she got offended.
Did you also know there’s a relationship category featured on HE? People saying her venting doesn’t belong on this forum is quite idiotic.
So because it’s different from the “norm” it’s reasonable to blow her and her venting off?
I know you’re fond of those memories you have, but you can always try to relive those memories with someone different or create even better experiences with someone else. You probably know the chances of you guys becoming together again, but if the chances are very low, move on and try to find someone else that makes you happy.
Live in the present more then anything to create a better future, reliving your past will only create more depression. Put a lot time in your present, instead of your past and you’ll be a lot better off.
If you become heart broken again remember this message.