Hi… I was considering making a throwaway account for this, but decided not to.
My question for you is exactly the one in the title of the post. How do you get over a sexual attraction to a teacher? I have had my own attraction to teachers make plenty of mentor relationships odd, or off-balance, or awkward enough that I couldn’t really make the most of the learning opportunity.
It is so distracting when your teacher is telling you one thing about how to do something, but all you can think about is how willing you would be to follow their directions in something else (if you catch my drift). Then, your motives for following their directions becomes skewed, as do your motives for learning the lessons they are teaching.
Have you overcome this before? What was your strategy with dealing with it?
@generaltitsvonchodehoffen, wouldn’t that make it weird also? Or just fuck them and then go about learning from them like it’s no big deal?
I’ve had teachers who would not have been ok with it in the past (due to legal issues or college regulations). I guess now that I’m out of school, though, anything goes…
@birdflyinghigh, Ya man, fuck em and act like nothing happened. Just go about your normal life. Once you’ve done that it might make your attraction easier to deal with. And hey, worst case is you just fucked a hot teacher. Win win.
@birdflyinghigh, I’m glad you didn’t make a throwaway account for this, there’s really nothing to be ashamed of. Your teachers are human beings after all, so chances are you may encounter some you find attractive. Especially if they are physically good-looking, and passionate about a subject you are very interested in as well, hence being in the class. I’ve never been attracted to any of my teachers, but I don’t think there is anything necessarily wrong with the idea either. Are there any laws against dating teachers, even if you are no longer in their class?
@theskafish, There are no laws against fucking them once you’re not in the class anymore. And especially now that I’ve graduated, there’s REALLY no way it could be illegal in any way.
It’s a serious mindfuck to go from having it be illegal for ANYONE to have sex with you (under 17) to having it be illegal for anyone in a position in authority to have sex with you (in school) to suddenly it being ok to fuck anyone you want, at any time (position I’m in now). Especially since I’ve been sexually developed this entire time… there seems like there’s no rhyme or reason to it, from my perspective.
@beyond, ummm… have sexual tension with them that lasts until we either fuck or one person seems not into it so the other pretends they’re not into it either so as to protect their ego? I don’t know. I’m not the best at dealing with sexual attraction, I get all spun out over it.
@birdflyinghigh, Attraction is always a good thing, unless it’s an obsession and becomes a great distraction, then you’ll be distracted and a creep! Not having these thoughts though would be just weird. Gotta thing of fucking if you want to be happy! It’s just that it’s not always appropriate to share how everyone is a pervert without telling it like a joke first.
Pretending to be not into it is mostly playing hard to get. Which is an interesting game. Imagine how boring it would be if it was too easy to sleep with anyone you were ever attracted to. No fantasies at all, pure boredom.