How to move past Numbness.
My life is full of stimulation and fun. I met my share of interesting people and I am generally happy. Except, I get numb. Everything is becoming boring and insignificant. I used to enjoy intellectual conversations. But now all that goes through my head is what’s the point? It’s all bullshit. And honestly, I feel like people talk too much. lol About nothing. All the time. All the time. And I’m tired. And bored. And Uninterested. Nothing amazes me. HOW THE HELL DO YOU PEOPLE GET EXCITED ABOUT EVERYTHING? hahahahaaha. I mean… it’s inspiring and all (well not really, I’m numb remember?)… but I don’t get it.
somewhere along the line you are telling a lie, no offence
no stimulation and fun are boring, perhaps they are not stimulating to you, perhaps they are believed to be by you environment and are you trying to please others……. but… perhaps you need to be honest about that.
If you don’t like where you are, move you are not a tree
works for me.
my 2 cnts
Yeah you’re right. Let me clarify my self. I have social numbness, I’m not talking about other forms of stimulation. I get pretty excited about some things. And I want to get over that. Any suggestions?
talk to people who talk about things that do float your boat, join a knitting club, if thats your passion, but a lot of times our relations or professions dictate our social environment… and still most people are not their job and have different interests, the ones who realize that and dare to break social patterns i believe are more happy. in that sense
but that is my opinion…
fix what is broken, but then first identify what that might be….
The truth is all social functions require a beginning. And since I’m meeting new people all the times, it means new beginnings. Things that float my boat, are things that are not discussed with total strangers, but long term friends. And I have 3 friends that I always want to talk to.
It’s just that the conversations you have with strangers feels too well-practiced, for me. And I can only talk about things I know, and about my field. And I don’t blame people for discussing the same issues. But it’s getting old. Changing networks? I don’t have the time. I don’t have the topics to talk about. I don’t have any commonalities with people outside of my network. It takes too much energy and effort. And it’s impractical. The only reason to network in the first place is to serve you, career wise.
However, I regret complaining about it. All I need is a challenge. I’ll find it.
Thank you! I appreciate it.
You have located the source of your problem, it is now a matter of overcoming the obstacle. in this case the obstacle is you. It is in my opinion a choice to network only in a career setting, I just meet people and if they are interesting it might happen again, as for work related… that is what business hours are for. You are not your work, and in my life they are means to an end, resources which I treat as such. The spare time is me time, as it takes 100% of fulfilled me to perform well professionally. it is all mixed up it seems … focus on who you are, not what you do to be that.
and I am truly sorry Iuvenesco
Talk is cheap . . . doing is where the action is.
Well I don’t mean to undersell talk but some people can chew the fat endlessly because they don’t want to take any action. and yeah eventually it gets dull unless you go out and do new and interesting things, which leads to new and interesting experiences and people. then, when the talk starts up, it has new and interesting content instead of just all the same theory.
so, maybe, you’re at the beginning of a phase in life in which you’ll be a little more to yourself, little calmer. nothing wrong with that. on the other hand, maybe you are a little afraid of social situations, which makes you avoid them, which makes you more afraid, and so on. then it would be time to break the vicious circle. is it more like a small uncomfortableness or more like bigger anxiety? we’ve had some posts on social anxiety, and how to have meaningful conversations mostly boils down to where to meet good people. that’s what comes to my mind, anyhow. good luck with everything!