Is marriage a covalent or ionic bond?

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December 14, 2011 at 3:52 am

Humans are on to large of a scale to compare to atoms.

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BirdFlyingHigh (152) (@birdflyinghigh) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

A working marriage is a covalent bond. An amazing one-night stand is an ionic bond. ;)

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eastsighed (1) (@eastsighed) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I disagree tits. Patterns everywhere.

But can’t marriage be an ionic bond? Aren’t there marriages like that?

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BirdFlyingHigh (152) (@birdflyinghigh) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

idk. You can’t be completely opposite on the important stuff… and I think that is stuff like “how should we spend money?”

Then again, you also hear about people bringing balance to each other. I really don’t know.

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Matt (25) (@greenthinker) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I’m confused. Can you explain what you mean a little more?

To me Ionic would mean that one partner needs something (physically, emotionally, mentally) while the other has something to give, in the end they are both happy.

Covalent would mean that the 2 partners are at an equal level in need/want and just share emotions/thoughts effectively.

Both certainly sound possible and healthy.

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Daniel Tate (11) (@dctate) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Some of us like to be metals, taking on all sorts of ligands =)

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Flynnstone (813) (@flynnstone) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I think a healthy marriage is covalent, both parties on an equal level, stronger than an ionic bond, while unhealthy marriages are ionic, where one is giving and the other takes, where one person needs the other for something, where it can break off with the right electrical charge.
I may not remember my high school chemistry, though, so maybe take my post with a grain of NaCl, yeah?

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Rajiv Nelvoy (6) (@rajivnelvoy) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I think covalent bond. Because the way i look at it, I think a covalent bond takes a bit of compromise because you actually have to share. But yes, I have seen two people who are completely different get attracted to one another and sometimes the differences have made their relationship stronger or the differences have made them want to kill each other :D

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eastsighed (1) (@eastsighed) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

joshua….. chu mean?

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jake arends (10) (@jakexx) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

first answer was the best answer.

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Opposites attract. I say Ionic, there is always one dominant person in a marriage, always one person giving more, always one person who is more attached. An ionic bond isn’t as strong, not as clingy.

An unhealthy marriage would be like a covalent bond. Stagnant, clingy, codependent, and not as fun.

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James (18) (@jameslarson13) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

when it comes to relationships, opposites don’t attract.

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@james Funny, then how do you explain that 99% of realtionships are heterosexual? How come not every couple is gay twins?

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Anonymous (1) (@) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

Personality-wise, opposites don’t attract. Even though there may seem like there are big differences, there are more similarities.

I say screw marriage; why would you feel the need to legally bind yourself to another when you can live together as independents?

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@animus Generalisations. I don’t want anyone who’s a bit like me, I want someone who’s very different. I want a very feminine woman, and I’m not very feminine. And what’s the point in having someone who’s just like you? Gray and gray make gray. Black and white make the whole damn grayscale.

Only in dysfunctional relationships the partners are more similar than different.

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Anonymous (1) (@) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@manimal I’m not talking about instances with how much someone identifies with their biological sex; femininity is socially constructed anyways, therefore you already have one point on the board for similarity. Go try to date a girl living in Ciudad Juarez who is a member of Los Zetas and will cut off someone’s head if she is told to do so. Guarantee you two don’t end up having a vacation home in Tahiti. Why? Because you are completely opposite and share nothing.

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Ray Butler (1,422)M (@trek79) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

I don’t understand the question but Manimal is right about there being a “Reacher” and a “Settler” in a relationship. I don’t even know if a covalent relationship has ever happened, married or not. I’d say all relationships are more ionic.

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@animus Femininity constructed? Haha, what? Seriously? Come on.

And I have lots in common with that girl. We’re both human, both brutal, etc. etc. You’re not looking at the big picture. That girl is in no way my opposite. Of course we could have a nice time in Tahiti, don’t be so prejudiced. You don’t know me, and you don’t know her. She’s not my opposite at all, and she’s too masculine for my liking.

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Anonymous (1) (@) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@manimal I should be the one laughing at you. Yeah femininity is socially constructed, not talking about the matter of an XX chromosome. How Americans see women in the the US as being feminine is very different from how a Nigerian would see femininity in a women. Sure you’ll try to come up with some way to argue against it…

As for that type of girl I described; I don’t think you even know the direction in which the big picture is hanging. Even though I don’t know you, I think the fact that you’re posting on this message board would make you, and the rest of us, look like pussies in her eyes. Far from brutal. If you want to see brutal go to (www.blogdelnarco.com).

Edit: I guess someone reporting the gang violence on the site had his head chopped off a few weeks ago so it’s not the same. Here is a more related version of what I was trying to post (www.mundonarco.org)

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@animus That’s not fucking femininity, that’s a gender role. Completely different fucking things. Femininity is real, don’t be daft.

That stuff doesn’t look all that brutal either. This is off topic shit though, let’s get back to the fucking topic.

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Anonymous (1) (@) 5 years, 11 months ago ago

@manimal Well I just typed in femininity on google and the second sentence on Wikipedia starts with, “Though socially constructed….”.

Sorry to go off topic but I felt the need to defend my point, as did you.

Edit: Which is why I love this site because I would never be able to debate that with anyone I know.

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Anonymous (170) (@) 5 years, 5 months ago ago

@eastsighed, either depends on the people.

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The_truth_is_ (91) (@sirensetmefree) 5 years, 5 months ago ago

Well, this conversation was derailed by manimal…

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Anonymous (1) (@) 3 years, 3 months ago ago

I think it can be both but people are better off with the covalent bond.

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