Money & Security vs. What Really Matters

 Jay (@punker96) 5 years, 6 months ago

Hey everyone,

There is a topic that I want to get your thoughts and possibly even advice on. I’m at this stage in my life where, career wise, I’ve found something that I am passionate about that truly makes me happy. All I want to do is utilize that passion and pass on that positive energy in the future, use it to live a fulfilling life pursuing something that truly matters to me. Sounds good right?

Well, of course! That is, until that familiar feeling comes sneaking up on me. It’s almost like an anxiety in the back of my mind. A feeling that takes away that confidence in me that allows me to achieve anything I desire. A feeling that tells me I need to worry about things like how much money I will make as a result of my choice, how I’ll be able to survive without securing steady income in some form and where I’ll end up if I don’t have something to fall back on. I guess what I’m trying to say is, I know that I don’t want to fall into a situation in my future where I feel trapped or obligated to stay there just to “get by”, but sometimes it seems completely unavoidable to survive in this system society has created.

I’ve found something that makes me perfectly happy, and there is more to discover within that realm, but with that comes the doubt. I feel the weight of the chains that this income=success centered society forces upon me. It freaks me out, it causes me to hesitate when I know I shouldn’t, but the feeling is hard to shake sometimes. The system we live in is definitely not natural, I know that, but then I see others living lives perfectly happy, avoiding the 9 to 5 routine, breaking convention, yet somehow they are still able to support their lifestyle and live happy. They don’t worry about income, they don’t feel trapped. I want to live like that, but sometimes I feel lost. I don’t know how to get my footing, how to live with that freedom. I don’t care at all about money. I don’t need it to feel accomplished and there is nothing I could buy that would truly provide me with the happiness that following my passion does. Unfortunately, I also realize that it’s very difficult to live without in this country without a stable income, realistically speaking, and my choice may not be as stable as it needs to be. People pay mortgages, bills, student loans, all that crap. In a way, we’re always going to be trapped. Is there a solution?

I hope I’m not losing anybody here and that I’m making enough sense. These are literally my thoughts just spilled out onto this forum. I’m sure just about everyone experiences this feeling I’m talking about at some point, but I guess I’m just curious to get some insight and hear your thoughts and wisdom on the subject. Have you been through this? What was it like? How do you break through and live happily?

Anyways, open discussion is encouraged as always. Thanks everybody!

December 18, 2012 at 1:08 am
Ray Butler (1,422)M (@trek79) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@punker96, I know how you feel. To me success is a few key points: Embracing my passions and doing my best at what I’m good at, always seeking insight that can aid my introspection in finding a more rounded psychological balance and always pushing myself to find a real or close resemblance to objective reasoning in how I interact with others (the balance between my needs and not creating obstacles for myself with others due to being inconsiderate).
Those are the three focus points of my life and if I can find an optimal synchronization of those things then nothing could touch me. But there is the fact that I have to be fed and all those types of needs that need to be met, but also that so I can actually embrace these focus points I will need the means to provide them.
That is probably the biggest fault in this system, the fact that it is contantly forcing us to put aside these things that fulfill us, just for the mundane essentials that are constantly knocking. I would just say earn enough to provide and squirrel away some for a rainy day, but try to find as much time for that passion that you can get. Don’t be too frivilent with your means and you should find a nice balance to do both comfortably.

Jay (52) (@punker96) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

I totally agree. I think sometimes I have a tendency to over think things. The task of living carefree isn’t always possible all of the time and we all have needs that need to be met aside from our aspirations and goals. I think I just have to make the most of what’s good in my life and remember that I don’t want to end up trapped or simply living paycheck to paycheck and as long as I do that, I can avoid digging myself a hole. I have dreams just like everybody else, I just think that we all get a little scared to just go out there and give it our all for fear or rejection or failure. It scares me all too often, but I’m starting to learn that by just putting yourself out there without regard to the possibility of a negative consequence, you’ll always come out with something of value. Whether it be personal fulfillment or a lesson learned as result of a wrongdoing, we keep growing. That’s what is important.

I think I just have trouble living in the moment sometimes. I think too far ahead about what will happen as a result of my actions now. I know all to well that I can do a lot more here and now than I can thinking about what can happen in the future. It’s just hard to get my head around sometimes I guess. Anyways, thanks for hearing out my ramblings. It’s nice to know there are others out there who feel the same way sometimes. The system we live in is definitely not ideal, but I think with time there will be a way that I can use my passion to provide me with a comfortable living somewhere down the line. It’s going to be a long road. What better time to start than right now, right?

Kuba (7) (@xkuba6x) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

Oddly enough I just finished watching a pretty moving YouTube video about the whole Money vs. Happiness argument. Here’s the link.

It’s pretty good and I find it to be true. We live in a society where sadly, obtaining money is the most important goal to achieve.

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