No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
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Will (4) (@lostinthestreet) 4 years, 10 months ago ago

So I’m 4 days in now, and have been going to the gym regularly… and can I tell ya, I feel great. A lil full (if ya know what I mean) but tons and tons of energy

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Ray Butler (1,422)M (@trek79) 4 years, 10 months ago ago

I could go 30 days without porn and masterbation if I wanted to, that is the important thing. Abstaining from anything, be it celebacy, fasting or whatever, is about attachments and materialism and if you cannot deny something that is not absolutely nessecary for your survival, then chances are you are addicted or weakened of will. Will power is an exercise of your focus and control. Not control of your life or the world, these are futile to attempt, but self control.
A big time Buddhist teaching is about attachments and abstainence, but it can be found in every religion, with varying degrees of expectation and detriment to health, physically and psychologically. Discipline is healthy, guilt not so much, the positive and negative sides of the same abstainence coin. But just remember that guilt in itself is an attachment, as is obligation, discipline is an exercise of will.

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Seth (0) (@sethhe) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

I’m in as well. I have never in my life tried this before. I’m 32 and really want to not masturbate or see any porn for 30 days!

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R.M.Odom (3) (@prodigy) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

@beyond, everyone is stupid, not just dudes.

anyway

and i love to jerk off, and its not wrong, but internet porn is causing ED because of its addictive nature. Im not jerking off because its a way of strengthening my will power, and when i do decide to fap then I will fap without porn, not that i would need any at this point.

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

Actually, people dudes/girls who talk about masturbation (guys to girls and girls to guys) are not stupid in my opinion. They don’t keep it privately and they may even love seeing each other doing it. Now that may sound disgusting to people who don’t talk about it with other people. But it’s part of the foreplay and the connection between these people. Especially those who think they have a problem. If they don’t think they have a problem, it’s very likely that they don’t have problems with the other sex and still masturbate. And making connections with people from the opposite sex is really more interesting than porn. I am more interested why when someone “falls in love” they find porn repulsive and disgusting? At first people feel guilty that they don’t have any human contact, then they start feeling guilty looking at porn. Problem is that people who feel guilty really have problems with erections. I’m out.

Oh, that video really answered some of my questions. Thanks @prodigy,

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Hi I’m Ben (12) (@cantbe123) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

I’d have to agree with Sasho here. Everything he says just makes more sense and erybody is thinking way too deep into this topic.

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Seth (0) (@sethhe) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

@stonedragon21,

Wow those were good wordings from you. It was good to hear some wit and wisdom.

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Sara (4) (@sjds84) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

I think this cruel and unusual punishment. I think the world would be a better place if we all just made love more often…..whether it be with your self or someone else :) I don’t believe one should feel guilty or ashamed, its natural, its organic i mean lesbi-on-ix people!!! I know it would utterly impossible for me to go a month without getting my rocks off, even if i did refrain from sex or masturbation my dirty mind would just give all kinds of wet dreams. I mean how am i supposed to control it if happens while i’m sleeping??!!

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

Some copy paste from a book that Mikey posted. Copy/paste is in order. I’m sorry to distract people from their challenge, I’m just sharing.

If you are without a lover, the Taoists offer a modification of
this practice known as “single cultivation.” This teaches a single
man how to put his sex energy to work creatively in daily life or
simply to enjoy life in good health without the plague of sexual
frustration. The goal of the Taoist masters was not to create a new
myth of a super macho orgasm which everyone would struggle to
achieve and thus create competition. Rather it was to teach men
and women practical ways of using natural energies to go more
deeply into life’s greatest gift, the freedom to love.
So what does all this cultivation of sexual energy have to do
with love, of either the personal romantic type or the compassionate
religious variety? The Taoists teach it is the responsibility of
man and woman to balance the powers of Heaven and Earth harmoniously
within themselves and that harmony in other spheres of
life will follow thereafter. On the esoteric level, all acts of human
love are the spontaneous transformation of our seed essence. Our
seed essence, the seed of our very soul, is physically stored in the
body as sperm or ovarian energy. When we love someone, we not
only help them, but we also transform some of our own essence to
a higher level of energy. Thus the Taoists see sexuality as a primary
source of power behind love on the human level. Anyone
following “the path of the heart”—the spontaneous and continuous
loving of all that one meets—will find their way much strengthened
by the Taoist insights into using the power of sexuality to that
end.

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LeftyLefty (3) (@leftylefty) 4 years, 9 months ago ago

@sjds84, Sara, it’s not about punishing yourself. It is not to cure your guilty and shameful feeling after masturbation although some people may feel that way. And while the mainstream media started a brainwash campaign promoting masturbation, this “love yourself and masturbate” is a total crap. masturbation is not the same as love making.

Make love not war, yes I agree. But Yoko Ono didn’t say masturbate, not war! And even she advocates not wasting sperms / sexual energy through masturbation in her book.

This challenge is all about channelling the sexual energy to something more productive. People are doing it for different reasons; ED, social anxiety, porn addiction, or simply to get horny enough to actually talk to girls and find a GF for real sex instead of jerking off. I don’t even think anyone is really feeling guilty or ashamed of masturbating really.

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Martijn Schirp (112,711)A (@martijn) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

Bumpiditybump.

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Brendan Barstow (182)C (@eyesopen) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

@martijn, I’m on day 70 at this point, the real challenge of it stopped after the first month, but refraining has shown me that it feels much more natural to go without, and to feel the pressure of the drive empowering you in your everyday life.

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James (100) (@ilooklikeawaterbottle) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

ok dammit , i am going to start this challenge today

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Mr. Arbiter (86) (@snaysler) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

Hmm… I think I shall partake as well. I prob jerk off anywhere from 20 times a week to 2 times a week depending on my mood. I’m going to stop entirely from now on and see how I feel.

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yoinkie (1,497)C (@yoinkie) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

Of all the dumb things ive read on the internet, this thread might top them all. There is nothing wrong with sex, masturbation, or even porn. Whoever told you otherwise was just fucking with you. Unless you are jerking it to porn 5x a day or something, but in that case your an addict. And if you are an addict, you are silly to think that just up and stopping something will work. Having known addicts in all forms, rarely have I seen one quit their “drug” cold turkey. You need a support group, help from others, maybe even a facility of some sorts where you can talk about your conditions.

But if you are a normal human being, Sex is very healthy for you and great for you in everyway. If you arent currently able to have a sexual partner, Porn and Fapping it is nearly as good of a release. Going on a 30 day “cleanse” is just fucking stupid. I talked to my doctor friend about this the other day and he just laughed at the stupidity of this so called experiment.

As far as the yourbrainonporn website, I only read an article or two, but I get the jist of what they are saying. And my response to that can only be summed up by a quote from Billy Madison: “what you have just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.”

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Nam (22) (@lyon) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

Wow. I’m just enjoying reading all the personal things everyone is sharing here haha

Good luck to the boys :)

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Julia (120) (@collinsj2009) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

@yoinkie, I agree that nothing is wrong with masterbation or porn in moderation. But why not do something that most people don’t do and just see how you feel on an individual basis after 30 days? Life is one big experiment and what’s 30 days in the grander scheme of things?!

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yoinkie (1,497)C (@yoinkie) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

@collinsj2009, because I dont believe anything changes in those 30 days except maybe your libido is more active and you crave sexual intamacy more. I have no problem with either, so I dont see why I would refrain from something I love doing for 30 days just to test my self. Any notion that it helps you in any other way is just created inside your own mind. I havent read most of the posts in this thread because, well, its a laughable subject matter, but the jist I get from it is people saying its making them more healthy, and want to go out and workout or do more things. Lunacy, you can achieve all those things and still have sex and fap it. You are actually much better off doing those other activities and having sex or fapping it once a day or so. More so, I read some comment somewhere where someone said fapping it or masturbation in a waste of sperm, if you do this 30 day challenge you will save it and have better odds at having a kid one day. I really really hope that wasnt taken from that website, because that would make that website 10x dumber. Sperm only lives for 2-3 months, fapping it isnt wasting no sperm. Also, you create millions a week without even trying. There is far too much false information on that website and this thread for my liking, so I must fight it.

And even so, what if I have only 30 days left to live, and I spend those 30 doing this stupid test? I dont want to die horny. HAHA!

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Demetrick (8) (@ssjakuma) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

I just read this and I immediately died A LOT inside. I masturbate almost everyday at least once… But my fiancee is pregnant, so there is a viable reason. I don’t work, so there is absolutely no outlet of energy. I tried the whole not-masturbating thing… and that ended up being a disaster after 6 days. It was horrible – I was sticky in all sorts of places, there was porn history that I didn’t even know of, the towels were drenched in sweat, passion and backed-up frustration… Okay that’s a slight exaggeration, but this would prove to be an extremely difficult task.

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Olivia (90) (@lolivia) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

Nope.

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Zanjabeel (1) (@zanjabeel) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

HI,
There was a point in my life in which everything seemed to be coming down. My studies were going badly, my emotional health was just…dead and depression was getting the better out of me. And that’s when I turned into the deep dark hole of porn. I actually masturbating regularly and watching porn on and off when I was 12 (back them, it was a lot harder thanks to dial up) but then it started turning to an obsession.

On the February of this year, I decided to stop. It was easier said than done but after a few failed attempts, I managed to finally keep a 6 month streak free of masturbation. But not porn though, I fell victim twice.

The point is, we need to stop being so perfectionist and accept that we WILL make mistakes in our journey but those mistakes shouldnt matter as long as you are COMMITED to what you’re aiming for.

Never give up, many people have recovered and you can too.

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James (100) (@ilooklikeawaterbottle) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

@yoinkie, i actually recently quit cold turkey, i was horribly addicted, i try not to even look at cold turkey these days, life is getting better everyday!

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Julia (120) (@collinsj2009) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

@yoinkie haha alright, I totally get where you’re coming from BUT… if it makes people feel more energized, creative, or whatever (even if it is a placebo effect,) who cares if it works? My whole point I guess is just that I don’t understand why this is so dumb if you get something out of it? Say it doesn’t work, and worse case scenario is that after the 30 days are up you are extra horny. At least you accomplished the 30 days and now you know abstaining from rubbing it out won’t do any good for you, (something you assumes but didn’t know for certain before.) I think that’s a good enough reason to try anything once. But absolutely feel you on the 30 days to live thing!!

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Megalynne (4) (@infidelicious) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

i’m starting today. i’ll try anything if it promises a “reboot” of my dopamine receptors… no drug or sexual situation is as fun if it becomes a regular part of your life.

achieve appreciation through deprivation

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Brendan Barstow (182)C (@eyesopen) 4 years, 8 months ago ago

@yoinkie, You’ve created a false dichotomy in your post of people who are either full-blown addicts to porn or masturbation, or healthy partakers of both activities. This is just not true, as dependency and ‘healthy levels’ of anything lie on a continuum. There are many people out there who have noticed that porn or masturbation has taken something away from their life, but may not be at a point where counseling, support, or rehab is necessary and believe they can help themselves. Porn in particular is an extremely powerful idea. Just think for a second how unnatural it is for us as humans to have perceived sexual access to anyone in the world and have the ability to indulge in whatever sexual fantasies we desire with just the click of a mouse. Even if you don’t support the iffy science behind no PMO, I’m sure you can at least see the problem with training yourself to get sexual gratification with no effort expended. This induces laziness, because if you can just stay at your house and feel sexual release why would you go out and have the possibility of rejection, feelings of akwardness and restriction, and difficulty of bedding a partner? This behavior can pervade other aspects of your life as well, and many people find themselves unmotivated and unhappy as a result of this aggregate behavior.

I will agree that masturbation can be healthy in moderation. However, I find it hard to believe that any amount of porn use can truly be considered healthy.

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