No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
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TheSkaFish (961)M (@theskafish) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@optimystic, porn is a lie because it tricks the body and mind into thinking it is having sex, and thus tricking body and mind into thinking its desires are fulfilled when they are actually not. It leaves the body and mind satisfied at the expense of the soul. Porn is exactly like a substance, like getting drunk/high to feel artificially happy instead of being happy as a result of actually having a rewarding life. When one uses porn, they are missing out on the experience of actually having sex with a person, the way it’s meant to be.

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Anonymous (127) (@) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@theskafish, All of that is valid, but applies only to those wishing to make sex a priority (in other words, it doesn’t apply to everyone).

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@theskafish, “it can also corrupt your thoughts to the point where simply thinking about porn causes you to relapse” Same goes with food and anything you put your mind and body to. Love also does the same thing addictive substances do to your brain, the same thing also applies to any passion you may have, oxytocin can make you an addict. People get addicted to their own producing of hormones in a way. Researches about this are as inaccurate for individuals just like the researches for marijuana usage and what effects they may have on your emotions.

“and thus tricking body and mind into thinking its desires are fulfilled when they are actually not” – Same goes with simple dreaming about a better life and having hope that motivates people or just people that actually have a greater issue – not being able to be satisfied with what they already have.

Emotional availability is key to “healthy” way of life and everything that makes you less emotionally available for the people you “should” care for is labeled as bad. And still being emotionally available can lead to different interactions that may concern inspiration. A person may not be searching for the love and happiness of another person, and be “addicted” to the NEED to be in a relationship, he may be “married” to his job or passion or just feed his narcissism. I haven’t even seen anyone on here talking about love, true love or making someone else happy, I’ve seen people not being able to talk to others and needing to get laid.

Anyway, that’s why I’m interested in a movie. Has anyone got the chance to see a screening of the movie Don Jon? I’ve seen it’s a new movie and the summary is about a guy who has unrealistic expectations from his addiction to porn that gets in the way of his true love. I haven’t seen it because it’s not released in my country and it keeps getting released worldwide.

“This comes from wanting to talk about that and poke fun at that. If you’re busy comparing your life to the expectations and … overly simplified fantasies put forward in various forms of media, you’re bound to be disappointed. And I felt like pornography was a really great and extreme example of that.”; “I think this movie is about how media contributes to the way that we objectify each other” – Joseph Gordon-Levitt

It might be a good addition to this thread.

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Martijn Schirp (112,711)A (@martijn) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@beyond, Thank you for the movie recommendation. Will watch it tonight with my girl :)

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Martijn Schirp (112,711)A (@martijn) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@beyond, Can’t seem to find it anywhere. Will have to wait.

Will watch a Single Man tonight then.

A recommendation I have for this topic is this one – really good in my opinion: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1723811/

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Emile (1) (@emilemathieu) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

I’ve started reading the blog, and I’ve read the first and last page of this thread, but I have not seen anyone talk about masturbation without porn.

Is there any difference? If this has already been answered somewhere in the thread, let me know.

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Emile (1) (@emilemathieu) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

So I’ve been reading and watching stuff about porn addiction for the past few hours and I haven’t seen anything that just talks about masturbation. The problem here really seems to be porn and heavy usage of it as opposed to masturbation alone.

Will try quitting porn for the next month, but not masturbation. That being said I don’t only masturbate to porn, but most of the time I do. We’ll see how this experiment goes!

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Thus Spoke Haze (102) (@ehsan) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@theskafish, “dehumanizes sex and women”

What on earth does that mean?

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TheSkaFish (961)M (@theskafish) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@ehsan, Sex is a natural human process, a natural living process. Porn dehumanizes sex by taking the humanity out of it, reducing it to something crass, vulgar, and degrading. Women are often degraded in it, they are not treated as humans but as sex toys. It’s pretty straightforward.

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

Thank God (or something) there’s at least discussion going on and not a declaration fest.

@theskafish, I think you need to review your perspectives on humanity, because as natural as it is, the more you’re going to see it. It’s not dehumanizing, it’s what adults do and think about, apparently, more than they’d be comfortable with themselves because of humanity and it’s strictly their problem. It is a fucked up habit for people that have troubles connecting with others, but it isn’t anything out of the ordinary for people with no such issues. And for the love of humanity, no one should watch porn without real emotions and sensuality in it that will inspire beauty and openness in people. That’s what’s dehumanizing, but it stems from stupidity, not from our bodies.

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kalle (0) (@1233-ping) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@emjay, I’m in it is about time i gave it a break lol

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m so naive.

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Will the Lost Wanderer (7) (@wtljr96) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m starting this Monday! I’m actually somewhat excited. I’m giving myself tomorrow as a sort of “last hurrah” before I go on this challenge. Wish me luck! And good luck to all you others who are trying this!

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TheSkaFish (961)M (@theskafish) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@wtljr96, good luck. But if I were you, I’d ditch the “last hurrah” and just start tomorrow. Once you start building up a good streak of days, then weeks, then months, you won’t want to throw your progress away. It gets easier, believe me. I myself have gone most of this whole year clean, only messed up a couple times and, like I said, felt really bad that I lost my progress, and just felt like a scumbag for using it in general. Now it’s just smooth sailing.

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Will the Lost Wanderer (7) (@wtljr96) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@theskafish, Maybe I will start tomorrow. There’s no better time than now to start anything.

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TheSkaFish (961)M (@theskafish) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@beyond, I see what you mean, and maybe I am projecting my own feelings on everyone a little bit with my views on this. But for me personally, using it always felt shitty in a mental and physical sense, and just plain wrong, and I am much happier without it.

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TheSkaFish (961)M (@theskafish) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@wtljr96, that’s the spirit. Get aggressive with this thing, if you really want to change, commit to change and commit as soon as possible. There’s a good Tony Robbins video I watched lately called “New Year, New Life” which I really like, it doesn’t just have to apply to New Year’s Resolutions but it can apply to any resolution. To resolve something means, to say this is how it will be. Set a new standard for yourself, “I don’t masturbate or watch porn.” If this is only something you want to do, you won’t be disappointed if you fail. But if it becomes your standard, you will feel more inner strength, you will feel more resolved not to watch. Don’t think about what you will lose, think about what you will GAIN from this: more energy, more confidence especially with girls, and a clearer mind. The longer you wait, even a day, the more time your mind will have to come up with justifications and excuses for using. Be mindful of your thoughts too, because even thinking too much about porn or sex with no material present can send you into a relapse, especially within the first few months and especially if you were a long-time user. Practice controlling your thoughts. Good luck!

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Will the Lost Wanderer (7) (@wtljr96) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@theskafish, Will do! I’m reading a book on mindful meditation so I’m practicing feeling my thoughts as passing clouds so hopefully that’ll come in handy during this!

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@manimal, Oh, a person hasn’t touched his own body in two years. Shut the fuck up, please?

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

I’m giving you too much chance, retarded fucks.

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St Emilion (2,990) (@manimal) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@beyond, Boy, that escalated quickly. Out of nowehere too haha.

People ask questions, people answer. If you don’t wanna hear, shut your fucking ears.

What’s with that attitude?

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 3 years, 7 months ago ago

@manimal, I don’t know. I thought I could say anything. It’s raining dicks.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 3 years, 6 months ago ago

I’m in.
Masturbation has been plaguing me for a long time now and I wish to let it go.
I’ve tried before. Was able to do it for 20 days until it became meaningless to stop. The great benefits I’ve heard about just didn’t came. I was frustrated and discouraged.

Now I see a flaw on my approach. I tried to repress it, not overcome it. How? This is not about faping. It’s about self-gratification. Faping is just the mechanism through which some of us fulfill that. When I tried to stop I would not cease to stop thinking about lustful thoughts. Seeing women as objects of pleasure. Realizing this (that the fight is not against masturbation, but the selfgrt mechanism) makes it a lot easier. Because I feel like I’m taping at the source, not the symptoms.

I only think about women like that because that’s an easy access to gratification. But I’ve been known to cheat myself in other ways, namely excessive tv (which I’m also successfully quitting), excessive sleeping (I’m maintaining a routine now, feeling great) and other forms of procrastination. I know it’s all the same now.

No more porn and masturbation for me. I’m done. When you realize the source of the problem is very easy to muster the strength you need. I’ve not read the 30 pages of this thread but I hope people succeeded. I also hope my experience will help others. Remember this is not about faping. Ask your self sincerely why do you fap. I’ve seen people talking about hormones. Well it may be in some cases. I know it was never the thing with me. Few were the times I felt aroused out of the pure moment. If ever. I don’t fap because I’m horny. And that “horny” feeling I now see as a path to gratification.

I remember a time when I was studying really hard and was really enjoying it. It went for like 30 to 40 days. During that time I never though about women with lust or faped. Now I see that I only feel like faping when I’m bored or sad, because I want that instant canned fake happiness. And then I feel like crap. I saying no to it.

I’m confident I will reboot and be able to have meaningful relationships in the future. It’s a completely new zone for me. Today I see that this porn and fap thing made creat a whole artificial world in regard to relationships. Lots of expectations that made relationships impossible. I’m 23 and never had real intimacy with a woman. I will reboot and then explore this new land. Living in the moment.

I’m five days in already and it has been great so far.

Thank’s for this.
Peace and light.

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Chance (0) (@zorgono) 3 years, 6 months ago ago

It’s a mistake your sexuality will be out of control when this is over.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 3 years, 6 months ago ago

@zorgono, I find your lack of faith disturbing.. *choke*… on auto-erotic asphyxiation.

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