No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
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Chance (0) (@zorgono) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@garreto, Your still a simian Vik and I can almost bet you will be one exited mofo on day 30

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Chance (0) (@zorgono) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@garreto, also that was hilarious

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Anonymous (21) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@zorgono, thanks :p

I don’t know man, I think I will succeed. It feels different now. I don’t feel like a need faping anymore. Is not that I have not felt like doing it these 6 days, but it’s like I said. I wanted gratification. I was bored both times it happened. It was the automatic response in my brain.

“You’re bored bro? Why don’t you think about that girl on the gym you saw earlier and had no balls to talk to? Why don’t you fap to her, and go to sleep thinking about your wonderful life together, your marriage, children and dying old and together in a home after being visited by your grand-children? Huh bro? Why not, then you can wake-up and imagine you’re having morning sex with her while you fap. You gonna love it bro.”

And I was like.. “No, thank you brain, I’m just bored. Let me find something productive to do.”
And the brain was like.. “Stahhhhp bro, what you doin, I’m your friend, don’t rewire me.”

And bang. I did not felt like faping at all.

Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against faping. Do what suites you. It just doesn’t fit me anymore.

You say I’m a simian. I guess you mean it’s a physiological thing I cannot control. To be honest I never felt that urge to “inseminate” I hear some guys talk about. I don’t feel at all like a stallion on mating season. I also would not go, despite the similarities, comparing people to other animals. I think the differences are greater and self evident.

Moreover, I feel this is really a personal choice. You must do it when you feel like. First time I tried, it was out of guilt and shame, and hoping for instant gains. I see it in another light now. I have already let it go in my head.

It’s that time when you realize it’s not about the lightsaber anymore, It’s about the force.

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ALEC (25) (@ALEC) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

“Something should be pleasurable because it is a GOOD thing, not GOOD because it gives you pleasure.”

I will give my best effort to substitute porn and masturbation with good deeds and random acts of kindness.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@zorgono, Can you see how that was not healthy anymore?

Also notice this is not about giving up my sexuality, it’s about reclaiming it.

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Chance (0) (@zorgono) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@garreto, Well I wish you all the luck in the world and if you do slip don’t sweat it! You are a human and it’s part of the journey and if you do succeed you demonstrated powerful resolve!

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Anonymous (21) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@zorgono, Thanks man, it really means a lot. If I slip I’ll try to understand why instead of beating me up and feeling guilty. That didn’t help last time. Btw, I have not seen your previous comments and its like 30 pages…. So whats your take on the matter? I’m taking that you do it and it’s healthy for you, is that so?
Best of all man!

@everyone
I was actually reading this post right now and I’ve seen some cases where people do it because of anxiety. I’ve been there. Just ask yourself why you’re anxious and try to deal with it. That’s how I did. It makes it a lot easier. But dealing with anxieties is not always. What helped me was changing my life around. Like my sleeping hours, my eating habits, overtime things got into their places. But that’s really my case.. Cuz my anxieties were rooted in my laziness and procrastination. Anxiety is like a prison, break those shackles. Don’t treat the symptons, treat the causes.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@luigiblue, thanks for the inspirations.

@everyone, I would like to share these link, it may help others. It helped me a little.
It may be helpful in changing paradigms and thus in controlling “urges”.
It is male oriented btw. Sorry ladies? But maybe some of you can relate..

http://www.therealman.org/sexual-reset-4-breakthroughs-learnt-from-90-days-of-blue-balls/
http://www.therealman.org/warning-the-new-real-sex-paradigm/
http://www.therealman.org/stop-thinking-with-your-dick-3-wake-up-calls-for-modern-men/

Be strong!

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Chance (0) (@zorgono) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@garreto, Well I’ve tried doing little experiments like this and seeing how far I could go and for me personally for some reason I’d start having real perverted fantasies, stuff that I wouldn’t normally considered sexy, arousing whatever. Every time I tried it made me feel even more like a dirty animal so I reintroduced it back into my life and luckily because I had it as an option it didn’t feel like I HAD to do it everyday anymore.

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Anonymous (17) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

This wouldn’t be hard for me at all. Maybe it’s because I’m a girl….

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@gracyfacey719, Don’t even pay attention to these insecure morons.

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Matheus Pinheiro (44) (@Mattgood) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

day 2 right now, everything just okay.

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Baili (12) (@Baili) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

YIKES! Good Luck!

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@baili,You must be 14, still.

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Fluxface (32) (@fluxface) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@beyond, <3 u bro

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Fluxface (32) (@fluxface) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@fluxface, <3 u too. Greetings from bulgaria

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@fluxface, I’m sorry. Every piece of my heart is reserved. I can’t pretend.

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Baili (12) (@Baili) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@beyond, You MUST be kidding. You can’t tell me that I MUST be 14, still. You must mind your own business and back the fuck up. You think I could get my tongue pierced in Utah without parental consent being under 16? Back off and get a life that doesn’t have anything to do with me, THANKS!

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Anonymous (2,653) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@baili, Hey, this sounds like a trashy song that will sell a lot of records!

Sometimes I just get into the most weird places of my imagination to figure out what would be nice to say to someone. :)

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Denialism (9) (@mcrliveit) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@garreto, I am in too !

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Anonymous (21) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@zorgono I understand, it wasn’t until very recently that I felt like going for it. It’s like I said. It’s not about masturbation, it is about why I masturbate, that’s what I am trying to overcome.

@mcrliveit, @mattgood I wish you all of my strength

@gracyfacey719, hmm maybe, but I think this isn’t a gender thing, though I would guess is more common among us boys. Some girls go through this too.

Day 9. I feel sober. Like thing’s are in place. Travelled to the countryside and had to deal with some temptation. Was able to rationalize it and perceive a lot of association mechanisms. I notice that over the years I programed my self to look women in the breast and behind, not in the eyes. Even though I’m not lusting like before, it happens automatically. Like an auto-exe program. Women? “Check her body!” I’ll start working on this.

Nine days without doing it. I start to realize that the amount of time that revolved around this mess was ridiculously high. My body feels good, my mind feels clean, like as if I went from cloudy to sunny.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

Two weeks :DD
I guess I’ll keep this as a journal.

Well, these past two days I caught myself thinking about a girl I’ve been with and felt really tempted to do it. But I was able to rationalize it. Doing it would not get me with her, would only lead to bad feelings afterwards, It was not worth it. But boy, was I horny thinking about her. I don’t feel it is wrong, but it sure paints a good picture to doing it. So maybe thinking about the past is something to not focus on right now. I will no further undress girls in my head either. I feel it is in a sense disrespectful towards them and me. Objectification.

Luckily I am now able to direct my focus/energy elsewhere. I guess resisting it these two days and in the beginning, strengthened my will. The feeling is amazing. To know that you resisted a temptation. To know that you are capable of overriding old circuitry. Capable of defeating bad habits. I feel like this is one of the things I was struggling the most with. Discipline. Will.

I have been interacting with women recently and it feels amazing not to be focused on sex while talking to them. Before it was like. “Ohh a girl. And a hot one. I’m so faping to her when I get home. Let me talk to her while I create expectations about future relationships so tomorrow I can be desperately in love (cough lusting cough) with her”

Now I talk to them like I am able to talk to guys, face to face, no second intentions, so full of possibilities. Sometimes feels like I’m discovering something entirely new. I feel like they can sense I’m not checking them out anymore and now the conversations can really flow, they don’t feel threatened buy some guy just trying to score something.

For now I will not pursue any type of intimate relationship, I want to give it more time, like two months. Let it be 2014 for all that matter. If it happens it happens, but no expectations.

Btw, I had two nightmares with the same theme. In both I faped and felt really bad about it. Like oh my god, what the fuck I just did? When I woke up I was relived hahaha. Yeah! I didn’t do it. I guess I’m demonizing it a little bit, or maybe it is linked to fear of losing control and doing something I may regret. I’ll make my terms with it to be more ready in case of failing, and will try to see it not as something bad but something necessary to becoming something else. I guess I was already doing it. Maybe it is just about fear of defeat. I’ll look on it better.

Again, I guess stressing this is never enough. This is not about seeing sexual pleasure as something bad or evil. Is about resetting from bad behaviors linked to anxiety and other stuff. I’m not against masturbation, but to some it may become a draining habit like it has come to be with me.

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Anonymous (0) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@garreto, Hmm your post may just convince me to do this again. Have you done anything different besides no fapping?
I’ve been having anxiety issues so this may be something for me to try. Didn’t get past a week when I tried before though.

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Anonymous (21) (@) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

@vskren, Yes, It is fundamental to believe in doing it, and to believe you need it. Trying to repress it like I did before only made it worse. I remember going to sleep thinking about it non-stop, it was torturing. Being around people always aroused, drawn towards it. Looking at my sisters out there and thinking of them only as a means to sex. It was not something conscious. In my mind I was a very respecting guy. But in my attitudes I probably left another impression. Realizing this was also fundamental. Sometimes we think we are doing something and we’re only lying to ourselves.

You have to take your focus out of self gratification. Every time I got anxious I would automatically target stuff like faping, tv, videogames, and other forms of procrastination and self-grat. That’s what you have to deal with. It is not very easy, but very possible. Feel anxious? Try to find the root of your anxiety while you resist any attempt to erase it temporarily from your mind with these mechanisms.

Despite the last two days, It was really ok. I felt no urge to do it, It is like my life does not revolve around it anymore. It is very good.

Read my previous posts so you can get a sample of my mind. It goes back like a week.

Good luck man!

Edit: I guess I am here, because I was able to fight the others, but this one was tricky lefting. I guess because in my context it involves more than anxiety and self-grat. Like curiosity towards intimacy, and girls, and having a signifcant other. We try to compensate for what we don’t have emotionally and end up making it worse. So this is also about rebuilding the way I interact with women.

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Ben (62) (@Mallorn) 4 years, 1 month ago ago

im glad u can talk to girls without imagining fapping to them lol

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