No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
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Ludwig (0) (@Ludas) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

OK I’m on board. I’ve only gone about 2 weeks without porn or masturbating before while road tripping with friends and I hadn’t even challenged myself to do it. But I feel like porn is destructive for my life now so I’m hoping this might have positive effects on my every day life.

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Alex (63) (@alexsabus) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

7 months and 17 days done. Feeling really great. I feel more spiritually connected.
One thing I have noticed is that many of my peers are not able to accept this. Many of them are not able to go without masturbation even for a day. Its so normalized in their mindsets, that, they say its not healthy for you not to masturbate.

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Yourname54321 (0) (@Yourname54321) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

I just thought of something. Even if you take out all the other problems with jacking off and watching porn. If you jack off an hour a day for a year you just wasted 15 days of that year watching porn… We could do a lot better things with that time.

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RobbysHigh (1) (@RobbysHigh) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

@JJJ, thanks for your reply. I don’t have my calendar in front of me, but I think I’m on day 17 of no porn. I jacked off to orgasm once in those 17 nights (about 10 days ago), and once rubbed and tugged on my balls and massaged my perinium till i got rock hard and felt awesome (about 4 days ago), but kept my hands off my cock. I just felt the need to have an erection. Like other guys who have posted here, I feel less social anxiety, more confident and relaxed, in social settings, since having quit porn. I haven’t hooked up with anyone (because I’m not attracted to the one girl who’s after me), and am being patient about that. Usually, only people I find pleasant but not physically attractive go after me – sad story of my life. I keep having thoughts that I’ve given up on women, but I think I just have to get over a life-long low-self-esteem, “I’m a victim” mindset. It’s a long, hard road. When you’re short, and don’t have wealth or financial assets, like me, it’s hard to attract a woman. But, again, I’ll be patient, and am focusing my energy away from porn and exhibitionism (camming) and stroking, and am working on, well, working. Projects such as writing and acting, where my talents lie.
As for JJJs discussion of being in the moment vs. jacking off: I think it’s totally ok to jack off, and even healthy to do so. However, except in adolescence, every day is probably too much, if you don’t want to negatively affect your libido and mental state. Every man has to figure his own brain out, but it seems like once a week is not too much. I really love the feeling of my hard cock, and stroking, all of it. And no one can get you off better than yourself (usually). Nothing wrong with that. But yeah, no porn! Less than 2 weeks till 30 days!

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GoldJacketLuke (9) (@GoldJacketLuke) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Hey guys,

I have a popular video on no porn / fap:

Happy to chat with anyone about it. I definitely recommend it!

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Light in Heart (12) (@Daas) 3 years ago ago

Thats so inspiring and motivating ,I started that but i did not crossed even 20 days , on 20th day i was so stressed and anxious so i masturbated but that was really nice to gain cosmic energy and chakras charging up but sadly drained all that energy .
Thanks a lot bro for help

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RobbysHigh (1) (@RobbysHigh) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Luke, thanks for posting that video. I watched it, and the subsequent one in which you said you gave in and jacked off after about 10 days; and I watched your video about the power of being vulnerable. Thanks for being brave enough to share your personal experiences, and for your insights. We appreciate ye!
I happened to find myself in bar earlier this morning that had some porn on (these things happen when one lives in a big city, and you’re a “freak” like me). I looked at it a little bit, and figured since I wasn’t using it to get off, it was no big deal. The main thing is I’m training my brain not to get off on pixels, but instead on real life.
I jacked off this morning, too. for the 1st time in 8 days. So, I guess you and I agree that once a week or even 2 or 3 times a week is not too much stroking. I didn’t ejaculate when I jacked to orgasm, which is often the case with me, even when I don’t want it to be. I’m not sure if it’s me subconsciously holding it in with my pvc muscle, as I trained myself to do for years when stroking (to stay young, and to be a super, multi-orgasmic man in bed), or if it’s a combination of that, and my having developed “anejaculation” due to years of porn addiction (just like erection dysfunction can be caused by the same thing).
I’ve found over the last year that I’m more likely to shoot it when I cum if I’ve edged it a long time, and am doing something freaky like jacking it in the great outdoors, or I’ve tied up my junk with rope like I’ve seen in porn…so, um, just saying, that as I break my porn addiction (on day 20), I’m looking at (in addition to my improved mental state, energy levels, and my sense that I’m more attractive to women) whether my inability to shoot a load when jacking off most times will go away in the future. We’ll see. (I still have no girlfriend, so of course, if and when I have one, that could make a huge difference in making me shoot).

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Charlie (10) (@charlie7400) 3 years ago ago

day 6 here, already noticing huge differences

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Charlie (10) (@charlie7400) 3 years ago ago

failed on the 8th day, starting over today lol

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 3 years ago ago

That’s a pretty good first attempt. Keep it up. I believe in you, mate!

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Ellie (1,357)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 3 years ago ago

This thread fascinates me endlessly. I wanna ask you people something. Have any of you noticed in the past while trying to quit addictive habits (cigarettes, alcohol, weed, drugs, etc) that your libido goes crazy and you get extra horny?

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 3 years ago ago

Oxytocin, serotonin and androgens.

Addictive stuff fucks with your neurotransmitters. That’s where the sensations come from.
Oxytocin (the “cuddle hormone”) is a very strong contributor in most women’s sex drive and social behaviour. Many drugs can indirectly reduce the levels of oxytocin, others such as mdma directly drain it to produce their signature high.

Serotonin also affects people’s sexual and social urges, as well as general energy levels, and again the effects are much more pronounced in women. Serotonin level is what takes the worst blow from any drug, that’s how they fuck up your mood.

Androgens are usually considered the main driving force of libido. People with less androgens are more passive and submissive, things with more androgens are more aggressive and active. Things that are calming reduce androgen levels. While the previously mentioned neurotransmitters make people feel lust and affection, androgens are what make people fucking horny. Testosterone in particular.

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St Emilion (2,991) (@manimal) 3 years ago ago

va?

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AMusoke (8) (@AMusoke) 3 years ago ago

Read your links and decided to go to the YBOP website. I’ve decided to pull some friends into this challenge and see what we make of it :P. Thanks for the links!

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Jason Tarun Misir (11) (@Philo8) 3 years ago ago

you don’t need to stop masturbation thought! but it’s advised not to do it too much because you’re vital energies will hit the ground

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Will (27) (@TheBigElectron) 3 years ago ago

I’ve been trying to quit porn for about a year now.

My longest streak has been 30 days, achieved around July 2014. That felt great, but it wasn’t long before I fell right back in the pit.

When I decided to quit, I was watching porn for hours every day.

But pretty much all my quitting efforts have amounted to, so far, is turning me from a daily user into a weekend binger.

This is so embarrassing because I think of myself as a strong-willed person; I’ve been able to quit other serious addictions cold turkey with little trouble.

But I can’t get caught up in how many past attempts have failed. I have to keep trying and keep looking ahead.

The biggest challenge I’m facing now is that porn strikes in the night. YBOP makes it clear: indulging in “porn-like fantasizing” is basically the same as viewing porn, to your brain. This means that you can relapse by entertaining thoughts of pornography for long enough to get aroused.

The biggest challenge I’m facing is that, lately, porn strikes me in my sleep:
My first memory upon waking this morning is of gripping my tool, thinking of a very porn-like fantasy. I caught myself pretty quickly this time and did not continue to indulge; I said to myself, “I’m not going to do that today.” Then, I rolled over and went back to sleep, whereupon I had a very porn-like dream, complete with orgasm.

This is the second time I’ve had this kind of experience.

Right now, I’m trying to tell myself that it’s ok; that I don’t need to reset my count of days gone without porn; that this “sleep porn” represents an unfair fight because it strikes when my conscious mind is nowhere around to defend me.

… But deep down, those thoughts are no comfort. I feel like I’ve relapsed again; like I’ve betrayed myself. Because, even if it’s my SUBconscious mind that made the decision to have such a fantasy and orgasm, against the will of my conscious mind, it is all still MY mind. It is still I who did this to myself; no one held my eyes open and forced me to watch porn “Clockwork Orange”-style.

Yesterday, I felt so much optimism and motivation to continue on this journey and stay porn-free. Even 3 days in, I was already experiencing some of the early benefits.

Now, in this moment, I feel I’ve thrown away yet another attempt. I feel like I might as well go nuts and watch as much as I want, now. I don’t intend to, but I want to.
See, my conscious mind can do that. It can say, “I want to, but I shall not.” But when I’m confronted in my sleep… That voice isn’t there; those thoughts don’t occur to me.

In their early days of recovery, alcoholics and drug addicts often take steps to separate themselves from the substance of their addiction.
I wish that I could do that with porn. That I could somehow “lock up” all my memories of porn inside a mental vault, and throw away the key, so that no part of my mind – conscious or otherwise – could access them, whether it wants to or not.

As far as I know, though, there’s no way to do that.

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Ellie (1,357)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

I don’t think entertaining sexual thoughts is as bad as porn or even comparable. In my experience porn addiction makes you become reliant on the images and your own brain is no longer sufficient. If you’re at the point where your brain is sufficient again, I don’t see a problem. Fantasizing is natural, staring at a screen while getting yourself off seems a bit less so.

Another thing I have to add is addicts take steps to separate themselves from the substance of their addiction, but just like pornographic images, thoughts of it are still there.

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Eric (1,818)M (@blankey) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

Yeah you do not want to demonize your sexuality. The porn is the main thing here. Yes, the masturbation as well but even that is natural. It turns “unnatural” when you are doing it to avoid pain, fear, etc., in your life, however. If you are trying to stop though, porn and masturbation are the key things to stop.

Also just a heads up I have been trying this on and off for months now and I am currently at a week! I made two weeks a couple weeks ago. Fuck this is hard.

One time I did this without trying it around 17. I felt like Jesus. I was lucid dreaming like crazy, meditating all the time. It was cool. Lasted a couple months then one night I was just… fuck it!

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GoldJacketLuke (9) (@GoldJacketLuke) 3 years ago ago

What SUPER helped me was opening up about the problem and telling friends / people in my life.

Try it out.

Jung and Freud talk about the unconscious. You have to make the unconscious, conscious. Get it out there in the open. Get a counselor. Tell friends.

If you truly want to overcome this problem.. you will make it happen.

Sharing the problem with others is what helped me the most.

–Luke

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

Cheers mate! It definitely helped me opening up about this issue to others. Sharing = caring and it is a great way to deal with feelings of shame

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seanders (0) (@seanders) 2 years, 2 months ago ago

I’ve found the same man. I told my two closest friends about my problem and they have been a huge support. Just talking about it and explaining to them what porn does to your brain and the benefits of abstaining from it has really helped me stay committed. I’ve tried it before without any outside support and it is infinitely more difficult.

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Zayn (17) (@Apollo777) 3 years ago ago

I can vouch for this. Like many young male teenagers, Ihad an addiction to porn that transpired as a habit. It lasted for years (on and off), until recently.

I have tested this out and feel the “jing” energy eastern teachings talk about when you conserve it. My voice is deeper, my body temperature increases and I feel stronger, mentally, spiritually, physically, morally, emotionally, and every other aspect of life you can think of. When I feel it get tense down there, I do a breathing meditation, and “pull it all back up” and go on to do something productive. I can literally feel a cold fluid move up my spine and caress my brain. Life seems to sky rocket afterwards. Almost as if its easier to manifest things with my mind, be it positive or negative. Do not waste your life to the floor people. If you must release, at least do the real thing (if you’re prepared for the risk)

Only challenge I am learning to overcome, at this point, is conserving it when in the act of real sex, which, I’m finding is easier said than done.

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alexander1 (0) (@alexander1) 3 years ago ago

I am in.

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Bose_Skipper (5) (@BoseSkipper) 3 years ago ago

what is at the end of the 30 days?

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

A massive orgasm!

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jjj (32) (@crackedout6pack) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

Lol broooo!!! Loving the absolutely brutal honesty. You gangster.

Anyway. Back to the business of the ragin hard ons.

Can I ask your goal in all of this?
What is it that you wanna achieve by not spanking the monkey??

I personally am doing ok.. I think MAINLY because I have lost the war of the future.
I am currently focusing on being balanced and PRESENT in the now.. That tends to keep me feeling balanced and not get too over worked.

I do however, in the next couple days wanna masturbate.. Not sure why.. Do you know what, I’ve just cracked it.
I was speaking in the future, and I wasn’t speaking in the present.
That’s the key…. It’s an ego thing…

Like cats or dogs. If you watch them, they don’t wank. They have penises etc, but they just go about their daily business!!
When the time comes, yeah, they fuck like crazy.. But they don’t get caught up in unnecessary desires.

It’s an ego addiction that we’re talking about here. Not porn addiction or sex addiction.
Get out your minddd mann its a prison!!!

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jjj (32) (@crackedout6pack) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

I noticed the other day, all this talking about shit is so unnecessary man.
It’s like.. Super unnecessary.
I don’t know why… It just seems unexplainable.

I think there’s a balance between sharing info, how tos and all that, and then just going with the flow and being present..
There’s my mistake though.. I thought. I think about this shit.
I’m pretty much always wrong lol!!

Fuck thinking lool.

Nah but seriously.. When you get involved in all this sexual energy cultivation/balance etc or the perfect spiritual life, you end up with all these breathing practices, all these meditations for each chakra and shit..

When in reality, what you’re looking for is ONE thing that’s gonna give you peace internally. There’s no point having a massive routine everyday of meditations and stuff, it’s gonna get boring and a chore pretty soon.

So if you find one thing, which I have personally, in disidentifying with the ego.. It seems to do all these things at once..
Balances me out, brings synchronicities, calms all the sexual stuff, spreads out energy all over my body, I instinctively heal myself.. Dunno how.. I’m aware of my emotions, so everything just gets dissolved..

It’s like I’m actually conscious, and all those things I previously used to get hung up on are like fuel for the flames of my new fresh way of seeing life!

Jokes.

That’s how I see it anyway. My field of vision.

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RobbysHigh (1) (@RobbysHigh) 3 years, 1 month ago ago

I’m not trying to quit jacking off as much as I’m trying to quit porn, as well as a general addiction to the internet. Porn addiction has my brain all wrong – so I’m trying to re-boot my brain to the healthier place I was before I got hooked on internet porn.
I’m doing it for my mental health, to reboot my libido, and to happier, in general.
I appreciate your chat ;o)

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 3 years ago ago

A month and nearly two weeks now. Still going strong :)

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