No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
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TheAppetizer (49) (@TheAppetizer) 2 years, 11 months ago ago

im totally in thanks for spreading the word my man

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Cheers! How’s it been?

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Stony Island (115) (@emjay) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

Is it me that started this thread? I can’t really tell.. but I’m glad its still going strong a few years in to the future now

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 8 months ago ago

Yep it was you. Has your view on the matter changed since?

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Yes mate, it’s been a life changer for me! Thanks a million!

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Pyotr_S (0) (@starbreaker23) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

I was planning on starting this March 1st already. I guess I already knew it was creating problems for me. Just saw this, though, so I’m going for it starting now.

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Good luck mate! I also advise reading this article http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

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Tone Tone (69) (@spreadthelove) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

I joined the 90 day challenge on Reddit. http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap. Interestingly, today is my 90th day! On my first try! It’s definitely good for you, but annoying when you’re not having a lot of sex. Good luck.

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Congrats man!

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

150 days.

Today I’ve reached 5 months. No Porn, no masturbation.

And now, like an egotistical eccentric, I’ll proceed to interview myself.

-“Wow dude, first of all, congrats. What has the journey been like, and what does it mean to you?”

Well thank you. The journey, I’m not gonna lie to you, has been an emotional roller coaster, and I was quite challenged at times but I stuck to it and persevered. It started out like some sort of a challenge at first. I sometimes like to challenge myself in weird ways just out of curiosity, like the time I tried out not sleeping for nearly 4 days just to see how my perception changes, or like when I challenged myself to only shower with cold water for a year. I did try out veganism and vegetarianism for a similar reason too. So yeah. But now I realize this is more than a challenge. It’s a lifestyle change for me.

-“Did you have hard moments (pun intended) when you nearly quit, and is there a moment when it becomes easier to bear?”

Yes, there definitely were moments that I had to actively fight my thoughts and I was on the verge of failing.
I’ve noticed a sort of plateau at the 2 month mark, after which it gets easier. The first two months your brain, or atleast mine, is fighting the cravings and you have to find a way to keep away from the triggers. This meant for me that I had to keep away from being bored at the computer, and also I couldn’t be at home alone without plans that much. I stopped using my smartphone before bedtime too. I could recommend doing exercise when the cravings come, like pushups or pullups, or going for a walk outside instead.
After the two months I simply stopped thinking about the whole thing, and completely forgot that I was doing a “challenge”. It really does get easier.

-“So have you noticed any change in yourself, and would you recommend others to try it?”

Guys, I’m going to have to let some of you down with this. The simple answer is no. Or not that much. Before starting I did a quick research on the net, and found countless accounts of a “surge of energy that I never had before” and similar. I don’t necessarily feel any more energized than before I started, and don’t have any more “positive” feelings either. HOWEVER. Regarding women, I have noticed an increment in what I perceive to be “hot” or sexy. I do notice women more and have no abnormally high expectations they need to meet, for me to like them.
And I attribute this to the “No porn” part of the challenge. I haven’t been looking at perfectly hot women doing incredibly sexy things on my computer for me to salivate over, and my brain has rewired itself. I am very confident in stating this. So if you had a problem with not getting aroused by the “normal women” you see in your daily life, that have normal names that isn’t Candy or Spice or whatever Cumz, then you could simply abstain from porn. No need for the no masturbation part. For you I recommend it.
I must add that I wan’t strictly a hardcore addict to porn either, so if you fear that you are, then you need this. Seriously dude.
The no masturbation part is a choice you make. Your brain is definitely addicted to it, but if you are okay with it, I really can’t give you a reason to stop. I highly doubt that it’s unhealthy, unless you’re starting to have blisters on your one-eyed snake.

Also, if you simply like a good ol’ challenge, why not try this out?

-“Some might argue that what you’re doing here is unhealthy. What do you have to say about that?”

I really have nothing to say about it. I highly doubt that it is unhealthy, but I’m no physician or health expert so my opinion doesn’t really count.
Many people who complain about it being bad for you, could be the same people who then go and have a burger at McDonalds, or smoke a cig on their lunch break. Hell, even NOT doing a minimum 30 minutes of daily exercise is considered to be unhealthy. So if you must be so pedant to keep on spanking your monkey, in case it is unhealthy to stop, you should first have a perfect lifestyle of healthy food and exercise. If not, you are just being a big ol’ ironic wuss. If it is unhealthy for whatever reason, I’m assuming it, and this is my unhealthy habit, or lack thereof, which I proudly admit to.

-“Now that you’ve achieved the challenge and, in fact, surpassed it, do you still feel the need to continue or are you gonna let the champagne pop, so to say?”

The habit, which I only now realize is in fact an addictive habit, has gone away and I strangely don’t feel a craving for it.
So just as I wrote exactly 5 months ago, on my first day, this is a lifestyle change for me, and have no inclination to start watching porn or masturbating again. It is simply something I don’t think about anymore. So why go back?

-“Ok, you have convinced me, at least for the moment. Do you have any pointers for those who wish to start this painful journey of self-celibacy?”

There is one thing that did help me a lot. Before this, I had tried the challenge on two separate occasions and failed both times. The only thing that I did differently this time is simple. I wasn’t counting the days.
So many people fail to realize that by “crossing days off the calendar”, they are keeping the focus on exactly what they are trying to abstain from. It is counter productive. The best thing I can say is, when the thought or urge comes, observe the thought, feel the urge, and then let go of it. Have something else to focus your attention on. Like I said before, doing something active especially during the first two months, will help. A simple session of exercise and turning your computer off, will usually do the trick. Taking a cold shower is an extreme way to refocus on something else. And in shrinking your willy to baby size. Most importantly, don’t fight it. You can’t win against your own brain. Accept the urge, contemplate it, and let go.
Also, post on this site the day you start, along with the reasons you did so, and whenever you want to check how long it’s been, just check the date of your comment. No need to cross off calendar days this way. That’s what I did :)

-“Thank you for the interview. You made a lot of good points, and gave us something to think about.”

Oh please, it was my pleasure. Thank you for the opportunity.

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Great story dude! It resembles so much with my first time when I did this challenge. For me it was 96 days and indeed the less I paid attention to the number of days, the easier it got. I am almost 3 years further now, have watched porn on a few occasions to see how it would be and what it would do to me. My view of women has definitely changed and I believe this is one of the biggest advantages of not watching porn anymore. I also did not feel as if suddenly I got a lot more energy than before and I think it’s a combination of various factors in my life which have lead to a general improvement on my personal journey. The cold shower challenge was also part of it, I don’t remember for how long I did it, I think 1.5 years or so.

Cool man, thanks for sharing this story!

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Thanks Filip! yeah I agree, not masturbating is arguable but the benefits of not watching porn are unequivocally positive.
Why did you stop btw? Both the cold showers and this

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

To be honest I don’t exactly remember what it was that triggered me to masturbate after those 96 days. It was not that I had the strong urge to do so, I think I just felt that I accomplished my challenge by way more than I initially expected and I just felt like doing so again. Man, what an intense orgasm that was!

@mikeyw829 since I quit porn, I get turned on easier and not only by pornstar type of women, just like Lowry said.

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Mike Wuest (508) (@mikeyw829) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Do you still get sexually aroused/turned on? I feel like you may be bordering on suppression.

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Sure I do! Haha. Hell, even more than before because I’m not only turned on by pornstar types of the specific porn category I most often browsed. I find normal women sexy too.
I have to agree with you though, the first months were indeed suppression. Now I have nothing to suppress because I don’t get the physical craving to masturbate, that we all know too well. I do have sexual thoughts and dreams however, as is natural. This is also not a celibacy from normal sex.
So if your question is, what do I do when I get aroused alone instead of masturbating, the answer is that I indulge in the thought and have fun with my imagination. it isn’t as boring as it sounds

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Mike Wuest (508) (@mikeyw829) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

But what do you do with that energy when you get turned on, that otherwise would have been released in masturbation? It’s gotta go somewhere.

The main thing I was commenting on was that you said there were no real changes in your energy level or mindset other than how you perceived women. Maybe that’s just your natural disposition (I’m not saying it’s wrong), I don’t know. But from my experience with this, I eventually noticed that the reason I would jerk off was to release energy that would otherwise go into fueling my neuroses. Masturbating would leave me feeling empty, which was better than feeling neurotic.

For me, there definitely is an increase in energy, because if you don’t masturbate, and you’re not repressing that energy, it HAS to go somewhere else. It doesn’t just disappear. For me, the experience has mostly been that it went into fueling my “mind chatter” and analyzing, and also all my emotional patterns. It’s like these patterns grew from seeds into full blown weeds. It just amplified everything.

It’s like since I wasn’t expelling that energy, it provided nourishment to my emotional/psychological self. For a while, I become so “intense” and angry and hostile and could not stop thinking and analyzing. It took me forever to realize that it was because I wasn’t jerking off. I have since learned how to deal with this better and channel the energy into productive ends. But that was just where my initial question was coming from. But maybe you are just wired differently.

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

“The energy HAS to go somewhere” – Well yeah, I do exercise, I go running, my recent job is quite demanding physically too, I go out with my friends, play volleyball on the beach, do a bit of gardening and whatnot.. You talk like there is no way to spend energy.

I think I am more active and spend my days better than before. That is true. I don’t really attribute it to not masturbating, but rather to a conscious voluntary decision, but maybe it IS because of the extra energy from not masturbating. I haven’t really thought about that to be honest.

Also, as of this last site challenge, I meditate too, and I really feel like it calms my mind when I need to calm it.

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Jannis “Yogkurt” de Reu. (45) (@yogkurt) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Sure, was planning to anyway.

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Newday (17) (@Newday) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Hello? Women masturbate too. They watch porn too!!!

Just saying because It seems that only guys have responded to this post.

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Over two months now. It does get easier

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Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 2 years, 10 months ago ago

Over 2 months now. It does get easier

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Ellie (1,357)M (@tangledupinplaid21) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

I don’t think entertaining sexual thoughts is as bad as porn or even comparable. In my experience porn addiction makes you become reliant on the images and your own brain is no longer sufficient. If you’re at the point where your brain is sufficient again, I don’t see a problem. Fantasizing is natural, staring at a screen while getting yourself off seems a bit less so.

Another thing I have to add is addicts take steps to separate themselves from the substance of their addiction, but just like pornographic images, thoughts of it are still there.

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Eric (1,818)M (@blankey) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Yeah you do not want to demonize your sexuality. The porn is the main thing here. Yes, the masturbation as well but even that is natural. It turns “unnatural” when you are doing it to avoid pain, fear, etc., in your life, however. If you are trying to stop though, porn and masturbation are the key things to stop.

Also just a heads up I have been trying this on and off for months now and I am currently at a week! I made two weeks a couple weeks ago. Fuck this is hard.

One time I did this without trying it around 17. I felt like Jesus. I was lucid dreaming like crazy, meditating all the time. It was cool. Lasted a couple months then one night I was just… fuck it!

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

Cheers mate! It definitely helped me opening up about this issue to others. Sharing = caring and it is a great way to deal with feelings of shame

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Filip (2,819)M (@filipek) 2 years, 7 months ago ago

A massive orgasm!

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