No Porn: No Masturbation: 30 Days

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I’m signing up. I’ve been reading some articles on that YourBrainOnPorn site.

I do it like twice a week. But I do it like 3 times in a row. So I guess thats 6 times a week. Shit.
Folks, Tomorrow will be my first day! And I will use this post to update the status daily. Feel free to comment….
And feel free to sign up with me!

Gotta start tomorrow cuz it’s too late today ; ).

edit by Filip: check http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for useful information about this subject

Check out our blog post about this subject: http://www.highexistence.com/how-porn-rewires-the-brain-is-porn-bad-for-you/

February 14, 2012 at 4:27 pm
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Steven (40) (@steven) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Im in, day two!

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Stony Island (114) (@emjay) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Day One:
What’s the best way to describe it? I don’t know. Probably in one word I can describe it as: Start… It felt like a brand new day. Not because of some random shit I had posted onlline, or the things I said the day before. Just because today was new. It was different… I took a look in the mirrorthe night before, my beard was 3 months in. My eyes hazy, red and watery. Too much smoke I guess. Whatever… I stood and I looked… looked and stood… My eyes just looking at the ‘overall’ picture of the man in the mirror… When finally, I made eye contact with, myself. Shit… ”Who the F.. are you?” I didn’t even answer THAT question, I just said to myself ”Really dude? FUCK? That’s your best word to ask yourself questions? Really dude? Your lack of vocabulary just reflects your stupidity”..

I stopped.. I’m talking to myself again. Shit.

I looked again… I asked once again ”Who are you”? Why are you here?? what are you doing??… I just stared blankly at myself.. I didn’t know what to say. These questions are easy. I’ve asked them before, to other people and I always noticed how they went blank when looking for the answer. I was looking blank too. I couldn’t get to a ‘conclusion’, a ‘set point’.. My mind just kept wandering… I don’t know how many seconds or minutes passed by, when I looked up, made eye contact (with myself) and simply said: ”It is your time, it is your moment, it is your hour.. Go take it”

Where did the words come from? Yeah, they’re lyrics from ‘Stomp’ by the Roots.. But they came to me in words, not in song and I thought at that moment: It’s been in front of me the whole time. It’s all me… Everything is me… When I change, EVERYTHING around me will change. Everything will be different, but only until I make the change first….
I took the clippers out…. Caressed my beard one last time with my dirty hands that still smelled like the weed I just smoked, splashed the water on my face and went to my bottom drawer for the clippers… It didn’t take long. My nude face was being exposed with every ‘clip’ of the clipper… Wow… ”25yrs old and I’m still THINKING of change?? Fuck gettin’ fucked! It’s time.” I thought to myself…
Woke up the next day, DAY ONE. Showered, had breakfast and took the long way to work on bike.. All that was in my head was ”Today is the day.. Today is the day to be different, fuck everybody else”… (Really dude?) Really…
The masturbation thing was one of many things I wanted to change. There’s a saying that goes ”Only the departed know whats in the casket”…. I felt like that.
My ‘friends’ online, they won’t get it.. They’ll just read it and go on like it’s nothing. And that’s OK. They will read it, and probably not understand me either, and that’s OK too.. But, they’ll get it. Because I know everyone has their own ‘inner struggle’ with change. You all have that same voice in your head telling you ”Really dude? That’s what you gonna do and that’s what you think is right??” I know it. You’ll get it when you’re in it… But I won’t go too far into the science of MY personal change, I just wanted to share WHY it’s special. NOT just ‘Man, I committed online to no jerkin for 30 days’. It’s much more than that.

Day 2: Feeling good. Real good. Woke up with an erection that lasted about an hour. Whatever, I went through my day ‘mentally’ till it went away, got up to piss and make a pot of coffee… ”Should I light this…? Nah, fuck this too. I’ll smoke it in the afternoon, I want to take advantage of every second before I waste any of them”… I drank my coffee, it tasted bitter (Was this because I ONLY drink coffee AFTER smoking? I don’t know, maybe I didn’t boil it long enough, whatever) and had my breakfast. Did the rest of the small things, change clothes, brushed my teeth, washed my naked face and rode out. Today is only day 2, but I feel like it’s only another afterthought for the reflection in the mirror. Tomorrow it will be an afterthought, so today I gotta CHANGE and show that change every second I’m allowed to inhale oxygen… Let’s get it.

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Bryan Hellard (302)M (@xyver) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Whelp, I was weak. Back to day one!

This is my one vice…. I’ve tried this so many times before… I will succeed!

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Stony Island (114) (@emjay) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@bryan Hellard
Yo Bryan, take a long look in the mirror and tell me whose face it is.

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Michael (26) (@mike) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Could use some clarification regarding semen retention technique. While reading the Taoist sexual practices Wiki page, I noticed it mentions: ” While, if done incorrectly can cause a retrograde ejaculation[…]”.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taoist_Sexual_Practices#Male_control_of_ejaculation
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Retrograde_ejaculation

This can apparently lead to various health concerns. I’ve become rather adept at ‘edging’, having practiced this in the past, and even reaching orgasm without ejaculation.

My question is how can I be sure I’m doing this correctly? Is there a way to discern between proper semen retention, and retrograde ejaculation?

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St Emilion (2,990) (@manimal) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@mike Get some good books on the subject (like the ones I mentioned) and listen to your body.

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Michael (26) (@mike) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Haha alright, so no easy way of telling then. I’ll have to try and pick up some of your recommendations when I get the chance.

In the meantime, I’m not sure if I should continue based on my current uncertainties regarding the practice. I mean, I’m rather sure I’m doing it right. But, not being very well versed in the subject, I then again could be wrong.

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St Emilion (2,990) (@manimal) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@mike If you wait until you’re certain before you begin, you won’t accomplish much in life. And it’s not like it’s dangerous to do it just for a short span of time, the risks appear when you do it for a long time. But it’s not like you have to (or can) do complete retention right away, busting one once in a while is fine, and pretty much inevitable until you get really good at retention.

Complete retention is quite extreme, and not really necessary, busting one once in a while is no problem. It’s only when it’s too often that it’s harmful. Complete retention is only for those who really wish to stop ejaculating.

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Megan Wilson (5) (@poefan2490) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Day Two: I hate my imagination sometimes. Any tips on how to get rid of a dirty mind?

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Stony Island (114) (@emjay) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@megan
Try reading… Or listening to some good music.
You can also carry your thought out to completion all the while REMINDING yourself that it’s just a thought. This will help you realize how ridiculous it would be to sexually satisfy yourself with ‘thoughts’… although the latter is very difficult, it’s the best way to go. It will help you to control your urges and take charge.

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Luigi (1,454) (@luigiblue) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@tony, Very interesting post. I’ve been through the whole “Stare at yourself in the mirror” thing so I know what you’re going through.

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Colton (25) (@emecom) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

I had just finished when I came to this site and saw this thread, so now that I feel guilty I guess that I will join you folks.

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Psychonaut (88) (@soulpilgrim) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Day 3 of not flogging the one eyed purple headed custard chucker & may I say I feel stronger, calmer, sharper & happier. I’ll never abuse myself so frequently again.

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Travis (1) (@zebabirul) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Thats it, I am in :P I have a feeling this is going to be very difficult though :/

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Martijn Schirp (112,722)A (@martijn) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Im in too :) Informative site, makes you think about alot of other stuff you’re addicted to but is socially acceptable (internet comes to mind).

Also, I saw the movie Shame yesterday, I think it showed the suffering of a compulsive disorder really well. Definitely recommended viewing for the people in this challenge :)

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stonedragon (142) (@stonedragon21) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

please dedicate the merit of this worthwhile cause to the peace and sexual safety and respect of all beings, women and men, boys and girls. that humans may heal from all of their sexual abuse.
… may the energy you accumulate in this powerful excersize be used for true LOVE….

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Josh (19) (@yoshknows) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@ stone, that’s what it should be about, and personal development of will power and strength.

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Stony Island (114) (@emjay) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Day 3:
What? Focus? Yeah, I can see the end of the journey in my mind’s eye… ”Yeah I’m feeling better, calmer, with more energy…. I guess all the things they said on HE were true, I should post about this tomorrow, yeah that’s a cool topic. Or maybe I’ll post about how I saw Jesus’ bloodied face in the shadows of a tree.. Was that cuz I had read about the weed and vision distortions? Idk… Hey FOCUS!
Who the fuck…… is this?” The girl I lost my virginity to walks in… She doesn’t wanna make love, she just wants to fuck. ”Ok baby, let’s do this, but I gotta ‘take care of business’ first cuz I wanna enjoy you a long time!” I start masturbating….

”PAAAAAAANNNNNN!! PAAAAAAAANN!!” Arrgh, I wake up… The bread man is here and he’s gotta scream at the top of his lungs to sell that bread. Waking the whole fuckin neighborhood up. It’s 7:47 AM…. I lay back and think of that dream I just had.. ”Dang, howcome I panicked when I started touchin myself? Why didn’t I realize I was Lucid dreaming? Ahh Whatever… It’s just a dream” I’m talking to myself again…
Day 3, that’s all I see… Now that Im up and conscious, I’m ready. I’m focused. Are you?

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clintbeastwood (6) (@clintbeastwood) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Day 54, feeling pretty good so far. I find it best to keep myself busy and to exercise until exhaustion in order to keep me from doing it.

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Megan Wilson (5) (@poefan2490) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Day Three: Hmm… it does seem to be getting easier to not think about, though my imagination is still working overtime. I’ve noticed there’s a strong disconnect between my imagination and desire though, so I guess that’s a good thing.

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John (27) (@jblisstaz) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@tony: dude, I had the most vivid dream last night where I was with this attractive girl and we started to fondle eachother, then we started watching porn together and we were in the middle of a gang bang while watching porn… then i’m watching porn alone and jerking it and feel really bad that I couldn’t resist but it feels so good…

Then I woke up feeling really strange. Strange, because I got very little sleep last night but felt very energized and ready to take on the day.

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Bryan Hellard (302)M (@xyver) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@ Tony. It’s my face. The one who questions why I’m doing things, the one who always wonders. Why am I denying myself pleasure? I have yet to agree with the people who say it’s bad for you, or it makes real sex less good. Real sex orgasms are always better then masturbating orgasms. I don’t agree that it’s good to keep it all inside you either, I still think that it’ll go stagnant and bad things will happen (keep semen inside you, that is).

But most of all, I hate being told “just because”. So suppressing all these urges for the sake of “Let’s try to not masturbate for 30 days!”, I reply to myself “Why?” “Just because.”

I hate it when other people tell me that, and its even worse when I do it to myself. I’ve always wanted a pet bearded dragon, and my parents said “No.” They had a list of reasons (it’s smelly, its bad to take them out of the wild, its cruel to keep them in cages….) and I’ve disproved every one of them. At the end, its still “No.” “Why?” “Because we’re the parents and we don’t have to have a reason to say no.” It bugs me to no end. Things need to have a reason.

So far, the only reason I have is “Let’s test how much self control I have”. It’s similar to seeing how long one can hold ones breath. It’s interesting to see how long you can do it for, but sooner or later the need to breathe will win.

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John (27) (@jblisstaz) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

@bryan, dude check out the other thread that sort of started this whole challenge:

http://www.highexistence.com/discussions/topic/i-want-to-talk-about-masturbation/?topic_page=4&num=15

and I think you need to re-read this thread, because everyone has talked about why they want to stop. Self control is a huge part of this, but there are many reasons why one would want to push themselves to stop masturbating and watching porn. And seeing how long you can go without watching porn is not similar at all to seeing how long you can go without breathing because breathing is required in order for you to live. It’s more like seeing how long you can go without eating ice cream.

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andresni (9) (@andresni) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Not to destroy all your fun fellas, but testicular cancer is a major problem for those living the “no expulsion” lifestyle, ofcourse, that means also no sex.

Bonus trivia: If your trying to create a baby, wank it! Semen die off after a couple of days or so, and start losing their tails and such, also production goes down, so those little dead buggers in there dont get flushed out. More like floating around in a big ocean of death :)

Back on topic: I did this challenge two years ago, and once you get past the first week or so, the urges looses up, and your libido kinda shrinks. Also, the first intercourse after 30 days without nothing at all, wasnt spectacular. Just normal I guess.

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Mardah (1) (@vedran) 5 years, 4 months ago ago

Day 5 is here and the rationalizations have started. Not about porn (I think that’s the major problem and should be left for good), but about masturbation and ejaculation.
Is this really healthy? should it be left to once per week? etc..

Also the mostly flirting and sexual dreams I have been having aren’t helping :)

As far as the effects of this.. there aren’t any major changes, maybe I’m a bit calmer, and more focused, not sure tho.

How are you guys and gals holding out? Noticing any effects?

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