My period has always been the worst week of every month of my life since its first occurrence when I was 13. My skin breaks out, I get anxious, stressed, agitated, exhausted, painfully self-conscious, bloated, introverted, depressed, angry, and experience horrible cramps. It takes 4-6 days from the beginning of my period before these symptoms relent, and then another week before my skin can heal and my depression lifts. Then I have 2 weeks to absolutely adore life again before I sink back into the horror.
I’m 25 years old, why am I still experiencing such debilitating periods? These monthly episodes are keeping me from living life to the fullest, what can I do to lessen/get rid of the crushing symptoms of having female reproductive organs without getting them surgically removed/getting a sex change?
Yell at your boyfriend.
I’m a guy so that’s all I got.
@boribori90, Yeah, I guess HE is predominantly male… but I’m still hoping someone has helpful insights. I’ve done the birth control thing, it’s unfortunately not for me. I’d prefer to try natural things that don’t involve hormones or chemicals. And I don’t have a boyfriend, though if I did I’d want to avoid him so I don’t kill him that week :P
There’s pms pills and cranberry juice at the pharmacy.
The pharmacist could suggest alternatives.
The walk there is good exercise.
Or you could go find one and then yell at him. That’s stress relief, entertainment, AND more likely to prevent pregnancy than the pill.
i have gone through much of the same. but the pill worked for me in just about all areas. it cleared my skin up, made my periods half as long (they were 8 days before) and took the pain of cramps away, which were excruciating before. I would say it took me from a level 8 pain down to 2 as far as cramps are concerned. hormones freaked me out too, and i was afraid it was giving me heart problems and contributing to my high heart rate, so i got off. i hate how i feel when i’m not on the pill though so unfortunately i got back on. i really hope it doesn’t harm my body. it might have been the pill you were on that didn’t work for the problems you’ve been having, i’ve been taking yaz.
as far as natural ways, i have a few: make sure you’re drinking lots of water, make sure your skin stays clean (i’m not talking about washing it with harsh soap 4 times a day, but maybe a rinse might help your face), and exercise even though that is the last thing you will want to be doing. exercise is probably the biggest one. it usually helps your digestive system to kickstart if you’re bloated, the endorphin release will help with stress and aid as a natural pain reliever. also i’ve found that sweating regularly helps to keep my skin more clear. also eat healthy, unprocessed foods. you should be getting as many fresh fruits and vegetables as you possibly can. don’t follow the 5 a day thing, you actually need more than that. the food pyramid is actually wrong… you should be getting more vegetables than anything else, even grain. that info comes from my vegan nutritionist sister, for anyone wanting reference.
i hope that helped you some. it sucks being a girl sometimes! just try to make the best of it and try your best to stay healthy :)
I am going through this RIGHT now. Always have as well..I know how painful and tiring this can be!
With that being said one, it can overcome you -turn you into the worst version of yourself, asking who the fuck IS this wpman?!! but this is where I have found a trick and that is mental focus, clearing and meditation breath techniques, so much of what is happening here is physical, hormonal which is out of our control, but the physical mental and emotional bodies are always interpermeated working with one another, so even though it may be hard a lot of this is first catching any negative thought that comes up- 2nd-acknowledging it, and then moving forward- if this means you cry for five minutes about who knows what- you still release it and that is what negative energy needs to do is shift and release. So much of our discomfort as humans is self manifested so begin to recalibrate and stay positive even during the times when you feel like your crazy and a blob- because thats exactly it – you FEEL this way, but choose to feel something else go for a walk clear your head or go for a swim!
Also check into some herbs for Pms :) Valerian, Chamomile, Mint are all relieving!
Hope this helps!
@boribori90, Thank you, your advice is wise… lmao
@emmaclaire, Good call on more water and exercise! I think I’ve been slacking in that area lately :P My diet has what it needs, and I’ve got a good skin care thing going, I think it’s got a lot to do with my stress and fluctuating hormone levels (besides the lack of exercise and water)
@djeflowyoga, Yes, I could do with a bit of meditation and yoga, and I often block up my unhappy emotions because I think they’re too messy (which I’m told is wrong but I dislike messy emotions anyway). And yes, a quiet stroll or swim are great suggestions! I think I can beat this the next time it rolls around :)
Thanks yous all!
@misssunbeam, I had absolutely horrible periods for a long time as well. I went onto birth control a year ago, and I’m on the lightest dosage, but it still helps to some degree. My skins a lot better and my period’s a lot shorter, and I also use to get sick often when I was on my period because it lowers your immune systems ability to fight stuff off, but I haven’t been sick since going on birth control. I also don’t like putting chemicals into my body, I don’t even take general pain meds ever, (except for cramps ;]) but the benefits of birth control keep me from things like missing class and work, which i had been doing on a monthly basis. One thing I found just this year that works amazinglyyyyy for my cramps is Salonpas. They’re these little white squares you stick on your skin, that release a like minty formula that numbs and relaxes muscle, and it’s a way more natural option than meds ! I was taking 3 to 4 ibuprofen at a time, as well as drinking liquor to dull the pain of cramps, and salonpas works better than even ibuprofen and vodka did. It’s just a few bucks for a bunch of patches at any drug store.
@misssunbeam, If you can afford, get an ultrasound to make sure you do not have uterine fibroids or anything else. Probably you don’t, but it’s good to make sure. Biofeedback and visualization helped me with the pain. Take whatever over the counter medicine for pain BEFORE the pain starts. Get ones without caffeine. Do not take aspirin as it increases bleeding. Hot water bottles help.
As for the PMS stuff, I don’t know. Nothing helped me. See above others replies; new dietary info is always coming out, too.
@vernalsoul, Cool! Never heard of salonpas before, I’ll have to check it out, thanks! And I am starting to consider getting on a very light birth control like you’re using.
@epath, I get scanned yearly, nothing wrong with my uterus :D Just the way it is I guess. I’ve only been taking ibuprofen, as little as possible, for the cramps, and tea and water.
@misssunbeam Thank you so much for posting this! I’ve been having these SAME horrendous pms issues for a while now, and it is SO debilitating. It’s unbelievable how drastically I can change into someone who has no faith, no hope, no motivation. It’s scary. I also don’t like or want to use birth control, so I’ve been trying to find and utilize more natural ways to avoid such a downward spiral that is the two weeks before and after my period. I feel alone and lost and like such a sad little weirdee.
A few things that’ve helped me (still working through this though):
1. For the first two weeks after my period starts, I eat two tablespoons of both GROUND flax and sesame seeds. I love it in the am with yogurt and fruit, or a smoothie or even sprinkle over a salad for lunch. Then two weeks before my period starts I do the same thing, but with pumpkin and sunflower seeds.
2. Two weeks after my period starts I take OMEGA three’s (fish oils) and two weeks before period, I stop the OMEGAS and take Evening Primrose Oil. (Both the seeds and oils help clear the remaining estrogen and progesterone levels that can linger in the system and continue to facilitate those nasty symptoms.) **The seeds and oils are supplements recommended by my homeopathic doctor.
3. When I start to feel those terrible thoughts entering my head I try to just be an observer of those thoughts. I observe the thoughts, and think, “Well that’s interesting, thanks for that, moving on.” And I try not to JUDGE myself for having the thoughts in the first place. Although it’s HARD, extremely difficult, I try not to take them too seriously because I KNOW that’s not really me, or at least not really the person I want to be.
4. I also downloaded this app called “Period Tracker” so I can keep track of my emotions/symptoms on particular days around my period and perhaps be better prepared for the next time.
5. A quote I saw on FB that really works for me during my period, “Food is the most abused drug in the United States, while exercise is the least utilized and most effective form of anti-depressant.”
Just a few things I’m still working to master, but I’m right there with you, and it’s really comforting to know I’m not alone with this! It really is quite frightening experiencing these symptoms, but that’s just what they are – SYMPTOMS, not permanence.
Thanks again for your post, I hope you begin to find some clarity! You sure as hell deserve it :-)
Hello Soul Sista Carina! My oh my does your story resonate…& there’s help! Personally, alongside a holistic perspective, I do not encourage taking the pill; but, moreso, gaining a broader understanding of what is happening to your body during these times. Not only will it help you heal yourself, but will empower you as a healthy woman!
For starters, your body needs extra calcium a week or two prior to your starting date…and magnesium during to help you and your uterus relax so you can keep your flow goin :) In addition, there’s lots of herbs you can take during and prior, to alleviate and ease symptoms for pms…ie. angelica, crampbark, nettle, raspberry leaf. Also, I found that proper liver function/detoxification has a lot to do with female hormones and skin clarity– Milk thistle and DIM alone can make a huge difference. Lastly, we know the body and mind’s synergy: Once the body feels some relief, i’m sure the emotional side of things will be easier to undertake!
Ps. Magnesium oil applied to the lower abdomen is always an extra kick in the butt to those LAME cramps :)
Hope this helps!
Peace & Love!