Problems with learning my purpose in life

 Spirit Child (@xxinfinityxdeltaxx) 5 years, 6 months ago

Finding a life purpose, I feel, is critical for one to live their life to their fullest. Lately, I have been trying to learn about my purpose and how I fit onto this Earth as an individual, and what I must do as an individual. I have already accepted the fact that I may not be famous for doing some thing life changing, but I do know that I am here for a reason. I have meditated, analyzed dreams, looked for signs, and even thought about this for days on end, but I still have no idea on what my purpose in this life is. Does anybody else have this problem? Do you have any advice?

October 10, 2012 at 7:16 am
The Alchemist (20) (@thestranger) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@xxinfinityxdeltaxx, I suggest you read Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch. I have just started reading this book about 2 days ago. I am only on chapter 12 but it has been a major source of inspiration for me and I am observing life much differently because of this book. Trust me, your mind will be blown if you start reading this. You are the first person I ever replied to on HE btw. Let me know what you think of the book :)

Spirit Child (334) (@xxinfinityxdeltaxx) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@thestranger, I’m very flattered! Actually, right after I wrote this post, an advertisement popped up which seemed notably sign-like to me. I was very excited because it started making sense on why it popped up, and it could possibly be my life paths (or one of them).

The Alchemist (20) (@thestranger) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@xxinfinityxdeltaxx, that sounds great. Usually people ignore those signs. Keep following your heart. Also thanks for the request.

Spirit Child (334) (@xxinfinityxdeltaxx) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@thestranger, No problem. I figure that I will contact you after I have read the book and maybe we can discuss it. Actually, earlier today I was looking at another post that mentioned this book…another sign? synchronicity? Found that very interesting. Also, I don’t really have “friends” on this website, and I would really like to start connecting with others on this site. Many of them seem intelligent and inspiring, and also beneficial to my maturation of an individual.

And yes, I agree people ignore signs and brush it off as a “coincidence”. I’ve learned that there are no coincidences. My belief for these signs are highly spiritual and basically “signs” that you are on the right path, and that are pointing you onto the right path.

The Alchemist (20) (@thestranger) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@xxinfinityxdeltaxx, hey if it wasn’t for your post, I’d continue browsing this site without saying anything. The title of your post almost made me feel obligated to finally join this site because, I too have felt lost with my life. I am just now starting to regain that purpose. The book that I recommended to you, teaches that there is nothing to learn. You already know everything you need to know. The problem is we need to remember or re-member the parts of our being(mind, body, and soul). I also look forward to meeting some amazing people on here. Finally I don’t feel like I’m alone with my ways of thinking.

JayBird (22) (@jasonrodz) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@xxinfinityxdeltaxx, No one, and i mean no one Knows what their purpose in life is. I think your purpose will just reveal it’s self when it’s time, BUT you won’t notice it. You could’ve already lived your purpose.. example.
This girl is about to cross the street at exactly 4:30 pm. a man is driving to work at 4:20, in 10 minutes he is going to speed and miss the stop sign due to him being late, the little girl crosses the street, the man hits her. She dies without pursuing her purpose in life.
That’s when you come in. Let rewind to 4:28, out of no where you see the girl walking, you like her, you stop to talk to her, ask for her number, 3 minutes pass by, you both separate and she continues her walk, its 4:30 the man passes by speeding and at 4:32 the girl is barley crossing the street. Your purpose here could’ve just been to save that girl. 10 years later that girl is the CEO of some big marijuana company thanks to you.

Anonymous (149) (@) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

No one will ever know the purpose of their life. You go on in life doing the things you like, want, hate, etc. but do we really know what we are doing? So don’t stress, sit back, chillax, have a smoke if you smoke, explore your mind and enjoy the view of our everlasting universe above our heads.@xxinfinityxdeltaxx,

1950ticker (26) (@pasolar) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

Put one foot in front of the other and more will be revealed as you travel the road to happy destiny.

Spirit Child (334) (@xxinfinityxdeltaxx) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@thestranger, I’m glad that I somehow convinced you to join this amazing site. To bounce off of what you said about knowing nothing, one of my favorite ideas from (I believe it was Socrates) is that the man who knows nothing, knows everything. It makes sense. One time I was having an intense meditation and I was actually asking the question “What is my life’s purpose” and a voice (that I define as God-like because I know it was not my own. Or was it my own?) told me that all the answers to my questions lie within me, and when it is time I will learn. The voice told me not to focus on this question to the point where it becomes a negative force, but trust myself that I know what it is and the path that I choose will ultimately be the purpose of my life. The voice told me other beneficial spiritual ideas that I have been following (or attempting to follow) and little by little I believe that I am most definitely on the right path. I, too, feel as if I am not alone in the ways that I think. Before this site I was very frustrated that nobody around me has the same thoughts and ideas in life, and after I began focusing more and more on it, I began finding people who did (are you familiar with The Secret?)

@jasonrodz, I agree with you, but I feel like some people do have insight on what their life purpose is, for example somebody with an incredible gift or skill that pursues it in order to inspire others, like a gifted musician, philosopher, artist, writer, etc. Even people with, I would not classify as lesser, but less prominent life purposes should also be aware of their life purpose, or one of their life purposes. I feel as if an individual/a person/a soul can have multiple life purposes…maybe even infinite opportunities. A universal life purpose is to connect and interact with others and the universe, creating a chain event.

Manimal (2,993) (@manimal) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

You DON’T find a life purpose. You MAKE one.

Purpose and meaning are all in your head, and that’s where motivation and passion come from, and what’s in your head is under your command. Your thoughts shape your mind, your mind produces your actions, feelings, mindset and DESIRES.

That’s what it’s all about. Desire.
“Finding your life purpose” is all about learning to recognize and prioritize your desires. And also to feed the major ones (core/soul desires) and flush the bad ones (temporary ego instant-gratification seeking) from your mind.

I will now share two methods of achieving this.


Method #1 – “Soul searching”

What you need:
One day, maybe two.

How it’s done:
Wake up early, when you wake up go drink some water and go to the bathroom. Then go back to bed.
Now, for the rest of the day, you will just lay in your bed doing NOTHING. No “playing,” no phone or music or games, no food, no sleeping, no meditating, no intentional thinking, NOTHING.

There is only one rule, you can’t do ANYTHING unless you feel ABSOLUTELY PASSIONATE about it. That includes basic things like drinking water or taking a piss, unless you feel ABSOLUTELY PASSIONATE about it you DON’T FUCKING DO IT.
Kind of wanting something is not good enough, just feeling a compulsion is NOT GOOD ENOUGH, only absolute passion is good enough.
Once you feel absolutely passionate about something, you go do it. If it was just some small/mundane task you go back to bed and keep doing NOTHING. You keep going until you find that thing in the back of your head which you’re really passionate about, and when your desire for this spikes you go start working on it.

If you still haven’t found out when the day is over (which is very, VERY unlikely) you don’t get to sleep. You keep waiting.
Using this method, you will find your passion, that’s guaranteed. And it likely won’t take more than a couple of hours. It’s tried and true.


Method #2 – “Brute force”

What you need:

How you do it:
This one is simple. But in most cases much more difficult and time consuming than method #1. There’s only one advantage, and it’s not a very big one, you simply get more initial control of direction.

All you do is logically choose something you want to make your life purpose. And then you keep working on it, pushing and pushing until it becomes your main passion in life. It’s a lot of struggle at first, you can expect a month or two of ego resistance and other cognitive dissonance and the not-so-funny feelings that brings.
But the result may be worth it.

Using this method there is no sense of “finding your life purpose,” since you’re creating it on your own behalf right here and now.

Method #1 is the better method if you ask me. And it also leads to more self-knowledge, as your childhood dreams come back to the surface and your deep true desires reveal themselves to you.

And don’t fucking be shy or apologetic about your visions. They’re your dreams, from your soul, who you really are. A lot of people might do mean shit because they’re afraid or jealous of your dreams, or simply ignorant and intolerant of people who have different visions than they do.

DON’T BE ASHAMED OR APOLOGETIC ABOUT WHO YOU ARE and what you want, that’s like the worst and most untrue thing you could ever do.
If others have a problems with you soaring the skies, that’s THEIR problem, not yours. They’re despicable, hateful people, IGNORE THEM.

Live YOUR life, always be TRUE TO YOURSELF.

Spirit Child (334) (@xxinfinityxdeltaxx) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@manimal, I completely agree with what you are saying, about acting on desires and how that leads into life purpose, but I don’t agree that you “make” your own life purpose. The way that I see things is that you find something you are passionate at, something you are good at and can dedicate your life to and know you can make a difference to someone one something, and act on it. It isn’t made or, as I look upon it, “forced upon”, but rather discovered by learning about who you are.

Manimal (2,993) (@manimal) 5 years, 6 months ago ago


The more you learn about who you are, the more you realize that “you” are your own creation. That your whole being is shaped by your own input, your own decisions and thoughts. That your soul is a blank and that all your behaviours, preferences, desires and mindsets can be traced back to the thought loops you’ve set up in your subconscious mind.

There is no “you” to learn about that was not created by yourself. The deep core mind, or soul if you will, is “blank” and identical to those of others. The rest of your mind is just a big web of thought patterns, deep set beliefs that have developed from the actions you’ve taken and the thoughts you have thought, all of which was your own doing and your own choice.

The more you accept your own responsibility and power in all of this, the more clarity, self-knowledge and control you get.
Choose to ignore it, and you’ll spend your life in a haze of unfounded beliefs, crediting/blaming outside sources for what was actually your own doing all along, and thus losing out on the clarity and control that’s a direct result of embracing this truth.

Seriously, it’s fucking mind-blowing, but the self is really just a canvas on which we paint whatever we choose to. And if you let someone else paint on your canvas, that’s also your decision.
There is no “real you,” just a canvas of self and all the stuff you’ve painted on it.
And all of the surrounding stuff, your lifestyle, life situation, health and possessions, etc. are just a result of what you painted on your canvas.

“I dream my painting, then I paint my dream.” – Vincent van Gogh

YOU are the painting. YOU are the artist.

Spirit Child (334) (@xxinfinityxdeltaxx) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@manimal, So I’ve never actually viewed it in that way before… and I must say I really do enjoy this point of view. It makes a lot of sense because most of your beliefs and your thoughts are based upon whatever is out there in the universe, and you choose to let in whatever you want (either consciously or subconsciously). I have always lived by the philosophy that I am the creator of my own book, much like the analogy of the canvas. I feel as if this fits my beliefs, and I had a similar notion before, but I think I must tweak it just a little bit. Because I believe in a higher power that is something we could never understand, I would not call our soul “a complete blank slate” but rather a soul with a sense of deep spirituality at the core that is a kind of guide for our lives. I don’t know if this makes any sense, but as soon as I think about it more, I am sure I will be able to develop this thought into something more easily understandable.

Manimal (2,993) (@manimal) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@xxinfinityxdeltaxx, Alright, but be careful not to cling to beliefs and points of view, as that’s a surefire way to rob yourself of clarity and the results it brings.
If you detach your beliefs and points of view, if you desire no specific idea of reality, meaning you stop projecting, then what do you see?
If you shuffle and circulate beliefs and points of view, compare them to eachother, combine them and see them clash and neutralize eachother, what will you see?

The less you believe, the more you see, and the more you know.


I disagree. You don’t need a purpose.

aneesh (18) (@aneesh) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@manimal, I’ve been reading over what you’ve said here a few times.. What you say is undoubtedly true.. And I imagine that a lot of what you’re saying is coming from years of moments of great insight.

When you say: “The more you accept your own responsibility and power in all of this, the more clarity, self-knowledge and control you get.” Isn’t it more a process of REALIZING that you have total responsibility and power (before you can accept it)? How did you come to that realization?

Lowry (114) (@lowryderkid) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

Travel then. Travel broadens ones mind the best site I know on the matter

venus2.0 (5) (@liquidbrandy) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@xxinfinityxdeltaxx, you really need to read Of Human Bondage, the main character deals with the same problem. And honestly, this book has really helped me find my purpose, or lack of..

please do read it, youll get a lot from it.

Manimal (2,993) (@manimal) 5 years, 6 months ago ago

@aneesh, That is correct, we do not get more of it, we just uncover it and wield it consciously.

How did I come to that realization? Moments of clarity accumulated over time, and I had the idea/understanding/belief before that as I’d heard it from mentors and other inspiring people. However, understanding is not the same as knowledge, but it can often lead us there, getting that rumoured “click” usually means experience of reality verifying (or disproving) your understanding. True perception, real knowledge, insight.

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