Hello everyone, i just joined this website but have been constantly reading these articles. I just wanted to ask all of you guys if you could rewind time to when you were a teenager or 5 years younger, what would you do differently and what wouldn’t you do differently? I’m intrigued because I am going to start a new college soon and I guess I’m nervous about what decisions i will make and how it will affect my future and i think i am having trouble discovering who i am and what i want to achieve. I’ve read your discussions and you guys just seem very wise and intelligent so i thought i would ask you
I’ve asked myself this question often and my answer is always the same no matter which way I spin it… I wouldn’t change a thing. 5 years ago I was almost 17 and confused and extremely sensitive and shy as fuck with a job I didn’t like but had no motivation to change. I had fun but a lot of high school was miserable and lonely for me. But if it had been easier, would I have as much of an appreciation for the little things, such as being able to talk to strangers(a lot better than I used to anyway), or enjoying my job, or being able to disregard people’s negative remarks about me? Absolutely not. I learned all those shitty lessons and I’m extremely grateful for them. I had to learn a lot of things the hard way but better sooner than later!
I totally agree with Ellie. I’ve been through some shit over the years.. but I’m happy with who I am now, and if things were different-I wouldn’t have experienced the things I did to turn me into the person I’ve become.
If I were to offer any advice Nabila, I’d say whatever route you end up taking, try to keep your options open…oh and do what makes you happy..not what’s gonna make you the most money, or what your parents want you to do… what makes YOU happy :)
There was a point in my life when I was younger. In CEGEP where I knew that what I was studying was not what I wanted to do with my life. I looked at other courses and saw something I thought was interesting but it would have meant I would have to stay in school another three years. Three years seemed like such a long time to be in school. So I did not do it. Now it has been many many years since and I think back how fast time goes for me. Three years is nothing now. I always regret that decision.
My advice that I give my children and anyone looking for what to do with there life, is this. Do what you love and then you will never have to work a day of your life. Find your passion, let it guide you to your purpose. Money is nothing but paper. Money really does not buy happiness. If you have to do something for 8 hours every weekday.. being away from loved ones. Then it better be something you love.
I wish you all the best on your life journey, make it a good one :)
Dana that was an awesome response. Thats exactly what im going through right now and your words of wisdom make my decision even easier =) … One thing i wish i could take back is not screwing around so much in H.S. I was a lazy bastard but I had and still have a lot of potential. I feel as though i could have gotten into any ivy league school of my choice if i had actually put my mind to it. But college isn’t the road i want to take right now, so i guess everything is working out at the end =)
after the second world war, the german protestant churches managed to half-heartedly utter an apology. among it, there is the following part, which i think is a good summary of what anyone might ever regret, if anything:
“but we accuse ourselves for not standing to our beliefs more courageously, for not praying more faithfully, for not believing more joyously, and for not loving more ardently”
i would have done a *lot* of high school, college choices differently. but then you never know what factual choices (like, choosing a major, etc.) may bring. but with the above, this never leaves you, and hence IMO is _the_ summary of what one may regret. i’m working on it for the future :)
If I did anything differently I wouldn’t be who I am today. I like myself, so I’d keep it all the same. I’ve had some shitty situations, and I feel it almost selfish of me to not try to change anything, because it could really benefit so many people. I guess this question brings up a lot of other questions. Would you change your past to help another human being, at the cost of your own experience? What is the lengths people should go to keep other people’s experiences good?
@chris, I agree with you on that, but at the same time, I only wish I had cared more so I could bring up points, and have them explained better, but really High school was just the force fed spoon of information people thought we should know. I have personally taught myself better than highschool did in a year, then it did in 4 years.