Where does self-acceptance come from? How can one truly love oneself?
How can one feel good about oneself no matter what? and how can one feel be one’s best companion?
I believe that most of us realize that self-love and self-acceptance are very important, but for those who were not brought up in such a culture, it is hard to learn these principles and actually apply them in everyday life.
What do you think are the best ways we can build self-acceptance and learn to love ourselves?
Could you share some resources with us? Books, articles, videos, music that have helped you in this matter?
You can only truly love yourself once you get to know and truly understand yourself.
Most people in society now a days are so busy talking to friends, facebooking, searching the web, doing homework, worrying about peer pressure, watching TV, listening to ads, wasting time, etc. that they have no fucking clue who they are. They’re so focused on external things that they have no clue about what’s within. But in reality, that’s all you really have. All the other stuff is just distraction.
So try cutting out the things that don’t matter, the things you don’t need. Toss out your TV, stop pursuing material things, worrying about what your peers think about you, get off facebook, and just sit still and be quiet.
Observe your thoughts, write them down, and decide if they are positive, necessary thoughts or if they are just a complete waste of your time. If they are a waste of time, cut them out. Whenever you find yourself thinking them again, will your mind to focus on something else in the present moment.
The more you cut out the bad, meaningless, pointless stuff in your life, the closer you will come to understand yourself. Cut out all the illusions, peal the ‘onion’ layer by layer until you get to the core, YOU. Get to know the real you, and from there you’ll learn to love yourself.
Meditate everyday for at least 8 minutes. Write your thoughts down and reflect on it whenever you get anxious or uncomfortable.
“But in reality, that’s all you really have. All the other stuff is just distraction.”
I think this is idea sums up everything really. Well put! Thank you.
Thank you for your post! Very helpful
“Where does self-acceptance come from?”
-The subconscious mind. Mostly the ego.
“How can one truly love oneself?”
-Forget about the how, just do it. If it needs a how it’s not truly love.
“How can one feel good about oneself no matter what?”
-Just choose to feel good. Believe it or not, but it’s really that simple. That’s actually all there’s to it. Just feel good, right here right now, and keep doing it. If you rely on exterior shit to give you feelings, well then you’ll never have any lasting happiness.
An easy way to start making this change, is to simply think more positively, that’s right it’s that simple. Try it, you’ll like it.
“and how can one feel be one’s best companion?”
-I do not understand this question.
“What do you think are the best ways we can build self-acceptance and learn to love ourselves?”
-It’s NOT about building self-acceptance. It’s ALL about REMOVING the shit that’s getting in the way.
Simply put, your mind is already “perfect” at the core from the start, but throughout life we put on layer after layer of crazy bullshit on top of it, blocking it off. Self-acceptance, just like love, courage and joy, is the “clean default state.”
So to get your self-acceptance back, just remove that junk data from your ego.
As for self-love, it doesn’t really exist. True love is just love, it’s not love for the self or for another individual or for an object or event. True love is all-encompassing, it has no target.
You cannot love another without loving yourself, and vice versa, you do not love at all if you do not love yourself.
@kidvisions, for me, the biggest thing that helped me was discovering my uniuqness. once i realized that everyone has there own strengths and weaknesses, I also realized that I wouldnt want to be anyone else. Accepting yourself is a big thing too i think