I embarked in this single parenting journey equiped with what I have in terms of time, money, and resources. Yet, people don’t understand the struggles people like me have to go through. Yes, I could do better with my daughter’s toothbrushing. I am not negletful, but is there a need to point out that I am a terrible mother for not making sure my daughter’s teeth are cleaner? No, i don’t have any other person at home to care for finances, cooking, cleaning, working, helping out kids with homework, car maintenance, etc. How do single parents deal with stuff you survive single parenting in a society where children and parents in single parent homes are looked down?
Hi, I’m not a parent, actually a 17 y.o. daughter of a single parent. Since my parents divorced, my mum and I have been living alone in a foreign country and life has been getting tough. Nearing my graduation, we are both stressed as to deciding what to do next. We do have financial problems, it is very tough. There are a lot of small things that we cannot afford, for example, me getting braces or affording travels for world viewing or relaxation for mum. However, we did learn many things. Especially I, at a young age came to understand the importance of money spending, decision making, planning and managed to see what are really important materialistic things. We both have improved our social lives, getting away from toxic people and coming to see what friends are actually willing to help.
Being a single parent isn’t something to be ashamed of. There are a lot of problems and limitations, however, there are life lessons you learn which lead to a better understanding of importance and living. It makes you tough. Why be ashamed of being tough and strong? Surviving? If people look down, then well, they haven’t been through tough times. And if they ever do, they won’t be able to survive with their high ego and judgment. Besides, many families nowadays are divorced, it is nothing unusual.
One thing that I truly learned for my self, even though it might sound simple, is; Why give a fuck of what others think? Especially of those who haven’t been through what I’m going through? Peoples opinion won’t matter at the end of the day. Changing the way you perceive others and learn to get rid of unnecessary things will completely change your lifestyle.