I have a hard time deciphering what happiness is for me. I’ve tried different things hoping they will bring on happiness, but I haven’t found what does, at least not something that makes me happy for a long period of time. What makes you happy?
having a cleared conscience between my gut feeling and me, if even for a relatively brief moment! That’s authentic happiness as I would describe it to myself, and I can experience it even if I’m sad and hurting at the same time. Some moments just tilt into this amplified feeling of existence!
I could also go into a list of things like beer, bicycle rides at night, poetry, drawing people… but come to think of it – I wouldn’t be honest that these things could definitely and directly cause happiness unless I generalize them into what I’ve said in my first paragraph. This is simply because all is relative and while smoking a joint and listening to great music can make one happy after a stressed day at work, it wouldn’t quite do the same after a death or someone you know or a similar, severe event that will make emotions more raw than usual.
Also, maybe you just don’t notice when you’re happy because happiness isn’t always what others deem it to be for others? I hope you figure it out!
Happiness for me usually stems from a freedom i get when I’ve done everything I NEED to do. Also, most of my happiest memories are of last-minute plans with my friends that ended up lasting most of the night. For example: seeing a movie and ending up getting food at a gas station and driving out to a graveyard
Not sure how I’d sum that up….spontaneity? Good company? Peace of mind?
I find a lot of happiness when I’m alone and unaffected by others. :)
Though Woodsy’s description has to be in affect too! And I think that’s part of being unaffected by others, no one is there to ruin my balance! lol
I am usually most happiest when I am either having a fun adventure with my girlfriend, having a stress free time with my family, complete artwork, or when I’m out for a ride on my moped or motorcycle. I think out of all of them, My motorcycle riding brings me the most interesting form of happiness. It gives me time to be alone, and I feel like the worlds doors are open to me and my two wheeled machine. It really is a form of meditation, and relieves me of all my stress, and thoughts concerning my life. It is my guide to living in the now, not worrying about what the past did, or what the future holds. It’s all about the moment. And feeling the earth all around you makes you remember, that you are one with it. It is truly an amazing experience of happiness and peace.
How to be happy in every situation: Stay aware of your emotions as frequently as you can and know that when you feel a negative emotion you’re doing something wrong, resisting something. Follow this simple step and you will both become happier and unblock your deep joy.
This is what it truly means to be high on life. It’s the higher existence.
I don’t think it’s possible to be happy in every situation. My goal is to be satisfied with the fact that happiness and pain are transient emotions… I can enjoy happiness while it lasts, but also accept the fact that it is fleeting. Negative emotions are inevitable, trying to avoid them causes the brain to focus on them even more. Let them come, be aware of them, and let them go. This sounds like apathy/indifference, but it’s actually the opposite. The goal is to be aware of everything good and bad, but not get caught up in a ruminating brain spiral. I might be saying the same thing as Manimal, with different words? you said that “resisting” is wrong… not necessarily the emotion just the resistance?? In fact, yeah I am saying the same thing, huh? lol, yeah, I think we agree. I should have just said, “I second Manimal’s post”…haha, everyone ignore me and refer to the former. it was the ‘happy in every situation’ thing that through me off… I thought you were advocating permanent enjoyment, but your referring to happiness as a continuous state of mind (awareness) that is above suffering and negative emotion?!?! is that right? very buddhist… bravo.
Happiness is simply satisfaction. It is important to differentiate between happiness and ecstasy.
What you want is a lasting satisfaction. Does such a thing exist? Many believe so. A lasting satisfaction I’d say comes from living up to your own standards. To feel like a success. What are your own standards?
While that may vary from person to person I believe there are a few ‘standard’ standards that must be met to achieve happiness.
I’m so glad you guys exist. Over the past week I’ve been finding myself very anxious, slipping into a depression because my own goals in life seem to differ so radically from those I consider friends. I’ve hit the age where my friends are starting to get married and have kids and it really terrifies me. While I can see the benefit in having a partner, and for some people having a baby can be a positive experience, I feel as though my version of success in the world doesn’t fit with what society expects us to want. I would rather lead an authentic life, helping others, learning new things, exploring new places and trying to make the world a better place (or at least slow its decay.) I find that positive social interactions can make my mood go through the roof, but that something as simple as accomplishing something small such as making a needed appointment can also be uplifting. I do agree though that happiness is a choice, it’s how we choose to react to a given situation. Granted, sometimes it can be very difficult to maintain.
Experiencing the sensation of life energy running through my body makes me very happy. And rainstorms :)
@heather, try not to be discouraged that your life goals are different from many of the people in your immediate environment. Having goals that are outside of the norm make you unique, and that is something to be proud of! Don’t give in to societal expectations… go get what you want out of life. I completely agree with you that travel and learning sounds like a much better path than marriage and babies… at least at this point in my life. Live your dreams girl!
Being happy and feeling happy are different things, you know. You can be happy but feel sad or angry or cold or whatever, people let their pseudo-emotions dictate how they ARE, not just how they FEEL. That’s where the confusion comes from.
Instead of saying “I feel angry” people say “I am angry” and that’s what turns them into angry people. They make a personality out of their bullshit emotions, disregarding the real emotions of the true self. I am always happy but sometimes i FEEL mad, it’s like a lake where even though the surface might be chaotic, deep down it’s always calm.
Being constantly happy is not hard or special or new. People have been trying to teach this to other people for thousands and thousands of years. People are just too self-rigteous and unteachable to accept it as reality. They’d rather believe in a tragic world and be tragic. Don’t be like that.
The world is your playground filled with all your favourite toys. It’s for you, ENJOY IT :D
For me “happiness” comes in many different forms. There’s happy giddiness, happy contentment, of course the happy new love feeling. Feeling content is my most reoccuring happiness and sometimes that’s enough to feel “happy”. All emotions are just a mixture of hormones, so you are having to find what stimulates the right hormone crap. Find your passions=find your happiness. Find a person you really click with whether it be a girlfriend or a buddy = find your happiness. But the thing about feelings are they aren’t consistant to the slightest. And that can be a bit frustrating. You may not have the same reactions to the things or people around you so that sets you off on another goose hunt.
Not to be creepy but this was reminding me of how serial killers don’t get the same intense “pleasure” if they kill the same way over and over. They look for the new interesting thing that sets them off. Just a bit of random info in case you didn’t know that :P
You have your favourite thing and then you have your ultimate favourite thing. Favourite things come and go through your life but are the crutch that supports you until you find that ultimate favourite thing that will remain for the rest of your life.
It may be your soul-mate, your child (children), family or who knows? Everyone is different. It may turn out to be a Ferrari, but you will find it. We can only hope to recognise it when we do.
+1 to bicycle rides at night… why does something so simple make me so happy?
Being myself makes me happy.
I really don’t want to sound arrogant, and I don’t admit this to others because it’s not always well recieved, but I’m an AWESOME person. I love the way I see things, the things I learn, my flaws and my strenghts, what I chose to do for a living, the decisions I take and the mistakes I make, my insecurities, and the days like this one, when I feel so confident that I don’t care what others think and I just say anything I want. I’m not a perfect person, but I’m a real one and that makes me really happy! :D