It seems like everytime someone makes a mistake or has a differing opinion, they are ridiculed. It seems so unnecessary usually. I see it everywhere, and too much in my own life. especially from other guys. I see so much disrespect and will imposing between guys. Girls do it through gossip. It’s all brushed off as joking but I sense so much anger in peoples words. I think it’s a sign of the times, society is changing and it’s changing in such a way that is very stressful to our minds. I see in myself anger and I don’t want it. I have lots of joy! I’m tired of it being taken because someone is a hater. maybe I’m just bad at choosing who I hang out with, but I really disagree with the whole tough guy attitude.
People are angry at themselves. Their frustrations come out Their useless desires are not fulfilled. The fear of living in non-acceptance from society makes room in their souls. Naturally the manifestation of these feelings is turned agains their fellow citizens who in their opinion must share the same misery as them. The greatest fear of them all in the mind of a man is the fear of loneliness . Being alone in these moments is kinda hellish for anyone. Take an angry man like that and throw it in a deep forest without means of orientation. What will he do? Forget all his rage and all the reasons of hatred and start the fight for survival. There is no one there to blame for his choices. There is no one to take the guilt for his misery but himself. And all that is so small right now because he is in a survival situation. He must get out. And to do that he must forget all the meaningless desires and frustrations. He must let go the suffering of everyday and be aware of his surroundings. He must be silent in order to listen to the forest because the forest is listening to him. And in silence all the thoughts disappear. They make room for action. Action for himself. He is helping himself and no one is to blame. It is useless to scream it is useless to be angry nothing is ever achieved like this. Everyone of us is alone in the forest. But we so forget this. We so forget that we shall soon die. We shall forget that the greatest treasures of our lives are right at our feet. No one is guilty of your misery but yourself. And by realizing this you can chill out and start helping yourself out of the mud. And by this alone you help others , your pure example.
@lesterxp, well said. I know I must better myself, I know I’m not who I want to be, but my past seems to be tricking my mind into thinking it’s not worth it. I need to get over the whole tortured soul thing and move on. I didn’t plan to make this so personal, but I just recently joined the site and I’ve needed a place to open up.
Because…they’ve never tasted a peanut butter, mayo and pixie stix sandwich?
Welcome to the real world! Breathe calmly.
I gotta be perfectly honest here. People are fucking angry because they don’t let it out at all. They don’t know how to, they just keep being patient and enduring everything. Wondering why is everything bad, goes bad, will go bad, then good, well fuck all that. Express yourselves and let all this fucking anger out. Try it. How long are you going to keep it that way? It’s nice to talk about philosophical bullshit and terminologies, meditation and all that crap, but if you don’t have a place, a thing, a passion, NOT A PERSON, to relieve all your aggression, you’re going to keep it to yourself and it may explode when you least wanted to.
Get fucking angry at the misery and do something about it. You know what I say? Fuck people who ask me “Why are people so angry?”
If someone asks me that about 10 times a day, every goddamn day, I am going to get angry. Holy fucking donkey balls. What I mean is, anger isn’t fucking illegal, it is fucking normal. Aim it at something constructive. Please?
That was a relieve. Peace and love and anger to y’all. :)
I don’t know about the “tough guy thing” you describe on an individual scale, that seems to be the same as it’s always been. But generally I think society is getting angrier, there is more (unnecessary?) pressure and competition than ever in the modern era, the work that people used to do for “enough” now doesn’t nearly cut it, and the people that are doing evil or at least unethical things are now doing it out in the open, blatantly feeling secure in doing so because they are confident we won’t do anything about it. You might have no one else to blame for some of your individual circumstances, but on a societal level there are definitely other forces to blame. This is why, though there are some things about the culture I like, I am not a hippy. I don’t enjoy being angry but we live in a world where there are good guys and bad guys, and sometimes anger really is justified. The trick is translating that anger towards constructive and effective action, something I have yet to master.
“If you are not angry, you’re not paying attention.”
@mercurial, Have you solved all your problems?Are you beyond the need of help? How can you think to help others solve problems or problems of society when you need help. By all means go an help others. Little will change. There are so many NGOs and so many charity organizations throughout the world. How many benefits do you see in their actions? How much has it changed? People think they must help other people? How can you help someone when yourself cries out for help? And what does it mean for the world to get better? It seems to me most people have their idea of what good and bad is. That is ok if it works for you. But the good of the world what is that? Your idea of it. Does it correspond with the ideas of the ones you want to help? Go and ask. Tell me what they say. I bet you will get 10.000 different ideas of what good for them is. There is no universal good as there is no universal evil. Thinking of the world in this duality circle you and so many others create good and and evil. Set yourself free of these boundaries. Be all love and all wisdom. Know yourself who you truly are. Be beyond help and then become proactive for the sole reason of love for yourself which comprises all people. You want to act. How can you help a beggar by handing him change? You buy him a meal. After that? He will beg again. Maybe you can buy him a meals for an year. He will be content for that. But after that year? He will be back to begging as it is the one thing he knows to do. Help him by not giving him anything. If no one is giving to him a dime he will have to change his ways. To find a way to help himself, to feed himself. Then you can step in and guide him to his SELF. You cannot help people don’t want to be helped. “When the student is ready the master appears”.
And as I said before – humanity, society are not independent entities, they are formed by people. Every man and woman has its own vision about the world he lives and, a unique perception and a unique set of choices. They must find themselves, make peace with themselves and all will come into place. Buddha said “The source of all suffering is the desire to change”. There is nothing to be changed. “All snowflakes fall in the right place” You want to control and shape the world in your own vision of good. The more you try to control the more resistance you will get.
I think about this a lot, even started a pretty similar thread here just under a month ago if you’re interested in seeing what was said there. – http://www.highexistence.com/topic/often-unwarranted-negative-social-behaviour-in-everyday-life/ Personally I think it’s being encouraged in everything in the mass media from newspapers to TV shows and even music, why I have no idea. I believe there’s some sort of essence of spirit (not quite sure if I’d call it a ‘soul’) to us as people, and things in life have positive effects on it, while other experiences in life have negative effects on it. Examples of the positive ones would include hugging pets/ loved ones/ children, spending quality time with family members, experiencing the great outdoors… Examples of the negatives ones I’m quite sure would include much of what is constantly spewed and regurgitated in the media, pornography (even though I’ll admit I indulge in that, I do feel it’s bad for me on some level), hate and anger, arguments and falling out with friends/ loved ones, aggression and passive aggression. I have a feeling that once you get into a cycle when it comes to the negatives, it can be hard to get out of it, and that many people are stuck there without even realising it.
There is a reason for the terms “full of shit” and “what a load of crap”. How is someone even going to achieve anything in their lives if there isn’t inner aggression? It’s true, you have to aim it towards a constructive thing. Your thing. That energy you spend for the things you’re fighting for? Yeah, everyone is fighting for somehing, if you’re not, you’re circling around the same fucking spot from as long as you remember yourself. Why do people see negativity in aggression is beyond me. That’s the thing that drives you, you are not even avoiding it when you are constantly preparing for it. The question I ask is, why are people so lazy doing absolutely fucking nothing just afraid to be stressed? Do epic shit? Staying peaceful and complain when there is a disturbance of your peace? Get the fuck out of here.
@mercurial, haha, it’s a song quote from Lana Del Rey’s ‘Blue Jeans’
Anyway, my interpretation of those lyrics is that love is mean because it hurts. Mean things hurt. It’s a simplified explanation, I’d say. But if you do go deeper, you can understand just exactly why love is “mean” — it’s bittersweet. You can have so many negative emotions towards a person you love, whether it be because you’re in a fight, they hurt you/betrayed you, whatever. Yes, of course, people are the ones being mean… but LOVE is mean because love is supposed to be a warm, secure and unconditional feeling and it doesn’t always pan out that way. You think it will, you hope it will… yet… it’s not always what it promises.
And just to add, people who hurt us aren’t necessarily mean — they may not know any better. Perhaps they are hurting themselves and cannot offer us the love that we have for them. So, love is mean. It hurts.