why everytime i think about sth positive it happens opposite (negative)

Profile photo of Aalia Aalia (@Aalia) 3 years, 11 months ago

I am a girl that like to read psychology books and i always study different books of Famous psychologists , they say : if you think positive you will face positive things , i try it many times but it didn’t work. when i think positive about a subject it happens opposite means negative but when i think negative it happens positive. I want to know that my thoughts are wrong or psychologists are making fool. Hey guys please guide me i am getting confused what should i do ???

June 30, 2013 at 11:13 am
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averagejoe (37) (@gimmesomesalt) 3 years, 11 months ago ago

@aalia, do you have examples? I find it hard to believe EVERY time you think positive, something negative happens.

Maybe you need to re-evaluate what negative and positive mean to you, maybe you have a skewed understanding.

When you get down to it, things always just ARE. Good, bad, positive, negative…these are subjective qualities you attribute to things that happen. But everything is both good and bad, you may just be focusing on the negative because it is what you are trying to avoid.

Just experience things as they are, find solace in the ebb AND the flow of life.

“Remember, sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.” – Dalai Lama

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Aalia (10) (@Aalia) 3 years, 11 months ago ago

you know actually last time i had an interview for receptionist post, i gave my interview and it was really good even the man who i had interview with him , he liked my confidence and communication skills and he promised me that he will call me for the answer but until now he has not call me. after the interview i said to myself that ill be accept by him but i don’t know why my positive thoughts never happened ..

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Mike (13) (@iPrentice) 3 years, 11 months ago ago

@aalia, There will always be negativity in your life. How you react to it is what counts. Having a positive attitude is a way of living life. Being able to take a negative situation and use it for self-growth and development is essential. Just like anything else it takes time to develop this mindset.

Continue to keep a positive attitude and go in the direction of your dreams. I assure you over time everything will come together.

Best,
Michael

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averagejoe (37) (@gimmesomesalt) 3 years, 11 months ago ago

There is a lot of wisdom in what @iprentice said.

As much as we would like to have control, to be the masters of our own destiny, what is within our ability to control is just a small portion of what happens to us.

The aspect of your life that you have COMPLETE control over…it’s how you react to things. It’s your attitude towards the experiences you have.

I actively maintain a positive outlook on life. Does this mean that I have only ever had positive experiences in my lifetime?

Fuck no. That is a utopian wish, and pursuing a life of only “positive” experience will leave you worse off in the end, when you realize that it’s inevitable for “negative” things to happen. You will be left feeling like a victim, feeling down because things never work out for you.

Look at this way, though…you’d never know what is wonderful about life until you know what is terrible about life. When you see them side by side, the vibrancy of the beauty of life increases significantly. From my perspective, at least.

I’m no expert, but what I’m getting at is there are always silver linings to the storm clouds. At first things may seem bad, and you wonder why something good never happens…then down the road you’ll realize that you wouldn’t have had it any other way.

No regrets.

I wish you the best, @aalia

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Filip (2,817)M (@filipek) 3 years, 11 months ago ago

@aalia, There are more factors which cause how certain events happen. In general I believe that a positive attitude in life will lead to more positive things, that is how I experience things. But that does not mean that when I think of something positive today, tomorrow will only be positive. It also depends on your perspective. Where I see a lot of things as something positive, others can see it as something negative. But a positive attitude will probably also lead you to be more happy and do the things you do with more gratefulness, a smile on your face, more energy etc. All these things will lead to more positive outcomes as well. But remember that you do not always see the effects of the actions you put in. If you do something positive today, maybe you will reap the benefits in 10 years time. I do not know how it works, because there are many mysteries in life that I cannot get my mind around, but I do know that it works for me to try to have a positive perspective on life and the things I do.

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Andy (0) (@andy1972) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

Yes its true I too have the same experience. Any one to help out?

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nagesh (1) (@nagesh126) 1 month ago ago

What’s ur blood group

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Andy (0) (@andy1972) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

Yes its true. I too have experienced the same . any one out to help out? Its like I have to think negative for a positive to happen!!! Its unbelievable but true…

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Isaac Oluoch (13) (@Io94) 2 years, 9 months ago ago

In personal experience, I’ve realized it’s sometimes better to not really focus too much on ‘positivity’ and ‘negativity’ as such. Far better to watch how you deal with either, paying attention to why one circumstance is better than another, why one circumstance is more unfair than another. This mindfulness led me to realize that how we greet circumstances is far more important than what the circumstances are. All joy and sorrow follow from a chain of causes and conditions, and they affect us based on our desires, fears, hopes, etc. If you wish to be happy, be aware, be mindful, and be open to not knowing exactly what’s going on. Sometimes it’s better to be listless like a leaf, than constantly chasing meaning since this chasing ironically gives rise to meaninglessness too. Hope this was helpful :)

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Silentcyborg (0) (@silentcyborg) 1 year, 11 months ago ago

Sorry I don’t know where else to write and hence I’m continuing with this old post. The exact same things are happening to me and its irritating. With my thoughts i have actually made some horrible (all have happened accidentally though) and some great things (I really tried and it worked) happen. Someone please please tell me why such things happen. Please respond and I’ll give you more details of what all happened. Thanks

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Victoriaspring (0) (@VictoriaSpring) 1 year, 8 months ago ago

Oh my god I think I’m the happiest in the world right now. This happens to me all the time too to where the point I was afraid of believing. What I believe does become the opposite. I think that well I believe that i am demon possessed and this may be the cause. Not only does what I believe become the opposite but also what I feel. Please talk to me more about this ability please contact me at treesaprune@gmail.com. We may both be demon possessed. And I’m also the opposite of people and if I keep on feeling happy about something and if I keep on believing the same thing that will reverse until I can’t believe the same thing and also if I like coconut pie and keep on wasting it I started disliking it and this is a sign of demon possession

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mixes (0) (@mixes) 1 year, 8 months ago ago

This happens to me all the time too and has been going on for many years,  i hate it.  I’m afraid to think positive things like about work money or anything because it all ends badly if i do. and if i think negative positive things happen so I always think negative when i want something good to happen and it’s driving me crazy, people are always telling me to think positive, i’m to negative on life, I tell them why and they don’t believe me . Is there anybody that knows what this is and why this happens.  

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Ophelia (7) (@OpheliaFloating) 1 year, 8 months ago ago

In everyday situations, if you don’t expect something good to happen and something good does happen, that’s not negative thinking making a positive outcome. The less you expect, the more happy and surprised you will be when something good happens. On the other hand, if you expect you’ll be getting a gift for your birthday and you don’t, it’s not that positive thinking made something negative happen. (Those are just small examples.) You’re overthinking the whole thing and it’s probably driving you crazy. I don’t know why someone would think they’re possessed by a demon because of this. Do you really think you’re that powerful that you can makes these outcomes happen? They will happen whether you think about it or not. There’s also not only just positive or negative – there’s also a gray area.

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nagesh (1) (@nagesh126) 1 year, 3 months ago ago

i am the not only one thinking like that. it happens to me from my childhood days.i think i have some type of  negative force (-ve),  if i want positive result i have to think negative (its like -ve * -ve = +ve), if i think positive its results going to negative (its like -ve * +ve = – ve). when i explain to my frnd they dont believe , they always said think positive. i am totally confused either to think positive or negative, i cannot belive myself in life 

 can any one please help me….

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St Emilion (2,990) (@manimal) 1 year, 3 months ago ago

I think I can help you.

Stop thinking of it as a problem. Stop thinking of it in those terms. The idea that “positive” thoughts are good and “negative” ones are bad is very subjective and thus fallacious.

I’ve always had this same “issue” with positivity, and I don’t see it as a problem at all. I have a lot of dark thoughts, and that’s not a bad thing. It’s just a way of being, not better or worse than other ways.

Stop your self-loathing NOW!

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nagesh (1) (@nagesh126) 1 year, 3 months ago ago

<p style=”-webkit-user-select: text;”>thank you for your suggestion 

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jazzz (30) (@jazzz) 1 year, 3 months ago ago

Light and Dark, Negative and Positive, Ying and Yang… Balance will always be maintained. You do not need to do anything, be witness to the dance taking place in our universe and your confusion will cease.

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monsterjack (13) (@monsterjack) 1 year, 3 months ago ago

Yep I had the same feeling. Maybe your expectations are high.I lowered some criteria and I feel so much better. And after the failure , I have more strength to go on. Just believe in yourself have confidence and please do not think too much.

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nagesh (1) (@nagesh126) 1 year, 3 months ago ago

thanks but i am totally confused in my life

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TK (0) (@tassie1) 1 year, 3 months ago ago

@aalia I think I have something similar to what u mean. For example..pretend I like a boy at school and I have a really good chat with him and everything..so in my mind I would expect the next day to be a blast but it’s negative- he might ignore me etc.

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jm5150 (0) (@jm5150) 8 months ago ago

I am in the same boat as @aalia and @nagesh126. I think positively and have the opposite outcome. If i think negetavily Ill have the opposite outcome. in order to have positive outcomes, I have to think the worst. Its highly discouraging.. and guess what. posting on these boards DOES NOT HELP. The more I ask for help, the more im trying to positively think Ill get help or an answer, but its all the same hogwash. no answers, only more riddles.. “maybe youre view of positive is wrong”…”maybe what you think is negative is really positive”.. BS!!. you want a good example. LOOK AT THKIS THREAD. these people are searching for answers, hoping to get one and all people can do is point them in the completely wrong direction. its useless. 

you do not understand the frustration of having this power. Its like have a super power to make everything you ever wanted come true, but instead its reversed and unavoidable. its a total nightmare. Nobody believes you, nobody understands, nobody accepts your reasoning. everyone feeds you more nonsense BECAUSE YOU WANT THE OPPOSITE!!! its a selfullfilling prophecy. 

Whenever Im running late and hope theres no traffic, Boom, traffic everywhere at every turn. If I have too much time and I HOPE to hot traffic to buy some time, NO TRAFFIC IN SIGHT. If im in a grocery store and get in a line and think “this line will move fast!!” BOOM something happens 100% of the time. cash register breaks, person has to run somewhere, something happens with their card, issue upon issue that makes my line the longest 10 fold. but again, im in line and think “this line will take FOREVER” i fly through with no issues. this happens with EVERYTHING i think about. “im excited for this movie, it wont sell out… sold out”.or .”whatever, theres no point, itll be sold out.. NOT SOLD OUT” these are petty examples. but it happens with every thing i think about 100% of the time. mysterious things happens to MAKE SURE im wrong when i know im right. and mysteriously things happen to make me right, when i insist im wrong.  Go watch the movie or read the bok “the Secret” and its EXACTLY like that, only instant and in complete reverse. ITS A CURSE. and the more you want to figure out the curse, the more the curse prevents you from doing so. its paradoxical. 

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flower21 (11) (@flower21) 8 months ago ago

I have an opposite experience: when i dream about smth good and positive, i know that i’ll get positive things in the near future. Just try to think abouth good and beautiful things.

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Florence.3 (3) (@Florence.3) 7 months, 3 weeks ago ago

I experienced the same situations! Have no idea how to deal with it

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nagesh (1) (@nagesh126) 3 weeks, 6 days ago ago

What’s ur blood group 

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nagesh (1) (@nagesh126) 1 month ago ago

What’s u r blood group

is it b – ve

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