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2013-05-20 @ 12:16:15
Beautiful post, Bryan. I’ve yet to try Ayahuasca but it reminds me of a trip I had when I took two eighths of shrooms. Letting go is key. I always tell my newbie friends, you can either resist or you can embrace. Though it’s sometimes hard to see it in the moment, the choice really is ours. Under these circumstances, the ego is firing up very defensively and attempting to hold onto the usual patterns of thought and feeling. It is very afraid. We must learn to cradle our egos gently allowing them to release their vicegrip on ‘reality.’ Only then can we experience the true extent of our beingness, the all-pervading love beyond love. Thanks for sharing.
2013-05-11 @ 14:23:54
Great post, Martijn! Sounds like an awesome trip- one I hope to make one day. It’s so true we spend so much time planning and in turn, expecting. But the moment is fleeting, ever-changing. It is our incessant need to cling that we must let go of and to embrace that all is impermanence. What we have and who we are will not be the same, a minute from now, a week from now, or 10 years from now. Realizing that all is transient, especially plans and expectations (which are really no more than fabrications of the mind), we free ourselves.
2013-05-04 @ 10:57:07
Thank you for the kind words. Glad you enjoyed it.
2013-05-04 @ 07:00:37
You do nothing. No action is required at that point. If a person is being that adamant and stubborn, there is resistance within them to which they are not paying attention. You cannot change anyone else. You can perhaps respectfully ask them why they are getting so worked up, but that is all. If they’re open, they may soften. If not, then agree to disagree. The point is that even if you know you are right, even if you are right..when an argument escalates to that point, it is no longer about the subject matter. It is about the individual.
2013-05-03 @ 20:15:17
Glad you enjoyed it. Couldn’t agree more.
2013-05-03 @ 09:59:36
Well said. Yes. Even when we ‘win’ an argument, we haven’t truly won. In truth, we’ve lost something. We’ve lost an opportunity to truly connect with another person on a deeper level and as you say, to learn something. Thanks for the response!
2013-05-03 @ 08:46:13
Johannes, yes thanks for your input and question.
Here’s what I’ll say:
If someone “fires back” as you say do not be afraid to call them out on their tactics. If you know without a doubt that the other person is trying to goad you into malicious argument by saying hurtful things, you are allowed to say, “I see what you’re doing, and maybe we need to have this conversation later when you’re less enraged.” This will result in one of two responses. Either the person will become even more enraged or they will stop, meet you in the middle, and try to talk.
If they fly off the handle, you are well within your rights to walk away calmly. If they decide to attempt rational conversation, then true constructive argument can begin. You will then see that, often, what you thought you were arguing about is not the subject matter at all. In almost any argument, the true subject matter is each person’s perspective on what has occurred—how it makes them feel, what thoughts it provokes. Constructive argument is about accepting one’s own emotional/mental state and then accepting the other’s. Additionally, we must be willing to create a conducive space by welcoming an open dialogue wherein each person is allowed to say anything they want, except if it is malicious or destructive toward themselves or the other person. In this way, we become two people having a conversation (remember that’s what an argument should be). No one needs to win. The only real criteria for an effective argument are staying present, speaking one’s mind, and allowing the other to speak theirs. If you come to a resolution, great! If not, drop it. The issue may surface again, and that is OK.
Hope this answers your question!
2013-05-03 @ 07:03:55
Hello all, I think there was a problem with attaching the bio so for the time being, here is my info if you’d like to connect! Hope you enjoyed the article!
Bio: New York based artist, performer, writer, personal trainer, buddhist, and lover. Terence Stone founded urbanspiritual.org in the hopes of helping others on their spiritual/introspective journeys.
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2013-04-04 @ 17:12:18
Particularly enjoyed the Alan Watts bit. It is so true. One must follow their grandest desires no matter how unreasonable they may seem when starting out. If it matters enough, we find a way. Thanks for sharing.
2013-03-23 @ 14:19:15
Excellent. I definitely agree. Psychedelics used in a moderate and reverent way can bring about radical changes in the self and in communities. They are a gift from the Earth to help us on our journey to evolve consciously. They give us a taste of what spiritual development through practice could mean for ourselves and each other. Thanks for the well-written and thought-provoking post.
2013-03-18 @ 18:39:38
Great article again. I’ve read most of McKenna’s books and I knew that DMT was present in all living matter. Some speculate that our DNA actually communicates with all other DNA (which is made up of the same 21 amino acids in all living things) in tandem with DMT. Thanks for sharing.
2013-03-13 @ 08:27:30
Excellent. Psychedelics (particularly psylocibin aka shrooms) should be available to all. The depths of spirit it reaches can be incredibly beautiful and a glimpse of one’s true self in this light has the power to change a person’s whole existence. It certainly did for me. I love that you say “The war on drugs is a war on consciousness.” It is so true. We live in a society that values (without knowing it) unconsciousness, quick, easy, instant gratification. Our government and corporations seek to keep us and themselves in this state because it is way to keep capitalism running smoothly. Thank you for the post. Looking forward to the next.
2013-03-02 @ 14:25:02
Thought-provoking. Thank you. I think Atheism like institutionalized religion just follows another strict set of dogma. It may not be as elaborate as that of religion, but the fact is that Atheism is the institutionalized belief that a higher presence does not exist. Dealing in absolutes limits an individual’s universe. After all, that is what it’s about: Finding meaning (or lack thereof) in your own existence. No one else can do that for you. That’s why the Buddha told his followers not to blindly follow any person or teaching but to test many and see what works for the individual. And also why Jesus’ ultimate message was that above all else we should love one another, and approach life from that perspective. Neither of them said “go start an institution that rigidifies my teachings and forces it upon others.” Their messages are simple: Be present. Think for yourself. And Love each other. The rest is up to us.
Thanks for the food for thought.
2013-02-26 @ 17:18:06
Beautiful story. OBEs can be both euphoric and terrifying experiences. In some ways, they are similar to tripping psychedelics. You are intensely, surreally present. Being in pure consciousness is utter bliss if you can accept it.
2013-02-21 @ 19:18:48
Fantastic article. I believe Lovingkindness or metta meditation is one of the most beautiful practices one can introduce into his/her life. If you are a frequent meditator, adding it at the beginning or end of your practice can work wonders for your self-worth. It’s as simple as saying “May I know peace. May I know bliss. May I know compassion. May I know love.” And then extending that to your family, friends, enemies, everyone in the universe.
2013-02-21 @ 18:34:44
Great advice. Starting out small is key. In my experience I’ve found that two of the most common hindrances during meditation are mental chaos and physical pain. The remedies for both are rather similar if you’ll allow me to expound.
For mental chatter, overwhelming thoughts, feelings, anxieties, you must allow them. Do not resist and do not engage them. Simply observe what’s happening and let the thought die. Then gently, without judgment or self-deprecation, bring your attention back to the breath or whatever the focus or non-focus of the meditation is.
For physical pain, again you must allow it. Do your best not to adjust your body once the meditation has begun. Of course you shouldn’t be in excruciating pain, but decide how much you can take. If there is a particular area or areas, observe it, make it the focus of your meditation until it releases. Often when we do this, the pain will subside a bit. Another way is to imagine that you are allowing breath to reach that area and thus loosen the muscle. If it is pain you can handle, simply acknowledge it, and return to your focus.