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Bobba Frett # Posted on March 18, 2015 at 12:06 am

I think if nudity was acceptable, we would still wear clothes simply because we define ourselves by our fashion tastes. For example, invite a bunch of coworkers to a “casual’ party and without a doubt a few will wear suits, and some will their idea of what casual is despite being over dressed in the opinion of the guy wearing a t-shirt, ragged shorts, and flip flops.
Clothes define our cultures and social status. They are outward expressions of who we think we are in the world. For example they guy who wears slacks, a pastel t-shirt under an unbuttoned long sleeve shirt, and the guy who wears jeans and black t-shirt, and the other guy who wears only Nike or Adidas.
As far as teaching children about sex, they are naturally curious anyway. The idea that we need to preserve some outdated idea of “innocence” is laughable.
I think in the Unites States we have reached a level of paranoia concerning sexuality, especially when it comes to children, teens, and even older adults. We get the “icky” factor when we think about grandma still having sex – often! We tend to think of children as asexual cherubs and grandparents as no longer wanting sex and preferring to knit and sit in rocking chairs.
That being said, how would we define “pervert” and “fetish” if they were open and acceptable?
In response to The SkaFish, I don’t think that the media “rams” sexuality down out throat. We are sexual beings 24/7. I remember watching a World War I documentary. In it, a German general was asked why men go to war. His answer? “Because the women are watching.” You can’t get more subtly sexual than that!
I also recall reading a rebuttal to a report on pornography in America. I think the report was the Meese Report. The rebuttal was a scathing dismissal on the findings in the report. One of the things that I found curious was the comment that in industrialized countries where child pornography was legal (back in the 1970s) incidents of child assault was less than where it was illegal. I am sure that this is something people surely don’t want to hear.
In response to Ray Butler, discipline and self control are fine things, but bottling up your true feelings can be very damaging. We like to think we are exercising self control by keeping our sexual natures under wraps, but feel fine with violence in our culture. School shootings where a dozen children are killed for no reason. That hardly raises an eyebrow nowadays.