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sian # Posted on March 23, 2015 at 11:04 am

It worked for me for periods when I was younger. When I completely lacked confidence I would attempt the whole ‘fake it til you make it’, and a lot of the time I was able to be the life and soul of the party, with people praising me often for my social confidence. Ultimately I always had an empty feeling though, and wasn’t ever being true to myself, or others, and whilst away from others I would be completely lost, as everything about myself was purely in regards to how I was with others.

I can see why practising the art of non change would actually lead to the greatest change, as once you give up on that mask so many wear it allows for greater reflection. If you don’t feel the need to have to be or do anything specific, then you have an opportunity to simply be. Whatever that is.

Now I couldn’t give a shit if I have nothing to say to people. I am not here for the justification of others behaviours. I actually kind of enjoy awkwardness now. We ain’t going nowhere if we feel comfortable all the time.