|Frankie||# Posted on March 24, 2015 at 4:55 pm|
You are right. If you are not happy, you have to change your mindset (your perspective and/or way of thinking). I have always felt the biggest issue people have in doing so is that they search one finite answer that will solve their problem and automatically change their mindset. In order for happiness to become an everyday thing, or to be ultimately happy, there is not automatic solution. What must take place for this state of happiness to occur for a person is practice. A person may be a fantastic athlete, teacher, musician, artist, what have you, but they certainly did not arrive there without immense practice. It works very similarly with changing your mindset. It is going to take time and effort. You will fail at finding that state of happiness and believe it is unachievable, but that is no reason to give up. In my experience, some of the happiest people have been so for a long time. Lucky for them, they seemed to have figured it out when they were young, when the practice was easier. However, that does not mean one cannot achieve such a state of happiness in adulthood. Your perceptions are so strongly formed as an adult that it is often that much harder for someone to break through their current way of thinking in order to adapt their thought patterns, and eventually their way of life, to reach such happiness. As for the motivation, one must continually search for the situations, activities, people, etc. that influence them to be happy. You must put your own needs at the center of your life. I do not mean this in a selfish, disrespectful way in which you disregard others for the sake of yourself, but that you must understand your own importance. The most important being in any individual’s life is themselves. Understanding this allows one to be a better judge of what things make them happy. I have always believed myself to be a very happy person. Happy daily. I see no reason to allow negativity to fester. Am I completely void of negativity or down moments? No. But I make the choice to find happiness. As I said before, it certainly isn’t easy. One of my biggest struggles is making the big step or leap of faith needed to put myself out there just to maybe discover if something will make me happy. Maybe it will. Maybe it won’t. Maybe I will make a complete and utter fool of myself. That is one unknown that will always be there, in any situation. But one must continue to try. One must always continue to search for their own happiness.