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vilaza # Posted on April 11, 2015 at 3:12 pm

Honestly, I have been struggling about it with my boyfriend. But I think it is more a matter of attitude towards it. If one wants to make it a big deal, it will become a big deal. Delicate topics such this one must me carefully discussed until the limits are clear for both of the parts. Otherwise it will always be like an elephant in the room. From my experience so far, each part needs to understand that there are minimal chances to change something that is so deep founded in the heart. At the same time none of the parts have the right to provoke or tease bringing up polemic subjects that will certainly become endless discussions. Discussions are important, but they can hurt the other person if not done wisely. I think respect is the key, by knowing the rituals that are important and to behave accordingly in some occasions. An open heart is important also, because even though they see their beliefs going in opposite directions, what made a couple get together was the feeling they felt in the first place. Finally, if you love him, his beliefs should not get in the way of how you feel about him. If this happens, the feelings might not be that strong.

PS: in case you are wondering, I do love my boyfriend, and I am sure we will work it out  :)