|Illusionarysage||# Posted on October 29, 2013 at 2:06 pm|
@tanniar, I know all too well the feeling you’re describing. I went through an entire year of solitude, and cut off everyone I knew and loved. It’s like equalsd said, you have to love yourself before anyone can love you. People out there say that this person or that person make me “complete”. But that leads us to deeper problems: no one will ever complete you until you learn to fill the void on your own.
But as with everything in life, there must be balance. I took this notion and ran with it to its extreme – if you rock the boat of life on either side it will eventually tip over. I experienced a deep introversion akin to the anti-social, due to a fear of trust and egotistical independence.
The paths of our lives all intersect. Self implies other, just as black implies white. You cannot have one without the other. It is a shame to start and not finish in life – our purpose is to forever grow, always becoming never complete. And I believe that “others” are involved in taking us there. You can love something but not get attached to it. Presence is admiring but not wanting. As I remind myself every day: balance is the music which life dances to :)