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Anonymous # Posted on October 31, 2013 at 4:38 am

I’m in.
Masturbation has been plaguing me for a long time now and I wish to let it go.
I’ve tried before. Was able to do it for 20 days until it became meaningless to stop. The great benefits I’ve heard about just didn’t came. I was frustrated and discouraged.

Now I see a flaw on my approach. I tried to repress it, not overcome it. How? This is not about faping. It’s about self-gratification. Faping is just the mechanism through which some of us fulfill that. When I tried to stop I would not cease to stop thinking about lustful thoughts. Seeing women as objects of pleasure. Realizing this (that the fight is not against masturbation, but the selfgrt mechanism) makes it a lot easier. Because I feel like I’m taping at the source, not the symptoms.

I only think about women like that because that’s an easy access to gratification. But I’ve been known to cheat myself in other ways, namely excessive tv (which I’m also successfully quitting), excessive sleeping (I’m maintaining a routine now, feeling great) and other forms of procrastination. I know it’s all the same now.

No more porn and masturbation for me. I’m done. When you realize the source of the problem is very easy to muster the strength you need. I’ve not read the 30 pages of this thread but I hope people succeeded. I also hope my experience will help others. Remember this is not about faping. Ask your self sincerely why do you fap. I’ve seen people talking about hormones. Well it may be in some cases. I know it was never the thing with me. Few were the times I felt aroused out of the pure moment. If ever. I don’t fap because I’m horny. And that “horny” feeling I now see as a path to gratification.

I remember a time when I was studying really hard and was really enjoying it. It went for like 30 to 40 days. During that time I never though about women with lust or faped. Now I see that I only feel like faping when I’m bored or sad, because I want that instant canned fake happiness. And then I feel like crap. I saying no to it.

I’m confident I will reboot and be able to have meaningful relationships in the future. It’s a completely new zone for me. Today I see that this porn and fap thing made creat a whole artificial world in regard to relationships. Lots of expectations that made relationships impossible. I’m 23 and never had real intimacy with a woman. I will reboot and then explore this new land. Living in the moment.

I’m five days in already and it has been great so far.

Thank’s for this.
Peace and light.