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Marvie # Posted on October 26, 2013 at 6:24 pm

Well, consider his perspective.
This may be the first relationship he has every had. If so, he is aware that the two of you will be separating in less than a year. He doesn’t want to go through the emotional trauma of loosing the first girl he has ever loved.
In my opinion, he is not understanding love. The two of you should consider this: Is your affection for one and the other strong enough so that the pleasure of a short relationship will overcome the despair of quickly separating? If so, then get into a relationship. If not, don’t.
Furthermore, he also may not want to hurt you. In his eyes you are probably the “nymph in his orison.” Imagine how Hamlet felt for Ophelia (before the “get thee to a nunnery!” scene) or how Romeo felt for Juliet. He doesn’t want either of you to get attached in order to prevent pain from either side.
So yeah, the second paragraph has my potential solution. I am going off of personal experience so my solution may be a bit bias.
Good luck!