I Think that when you are afraid of letting go of something, its because that you know inside, that the moment you Walk away, you leave behind a little piece of yourself, you loose a little bit of the person you are at this moment. Letting go of something means changing and it means that you can never go back to being that person you Were at that point, at that situation. And that is damn scary, because then we have to create something fully new , and what if that Doesnt work out? What if we dont like that person we become next? At the moment of change there is no comfort, therefor what was before now seems as to be the most comfortable place we had ever been, and that is why it is so easy for us to Fall back and live in our past, which in fact is not good nor possible.
Just a little thought i had… :)
No matter how hard I’ve tried…after 4 years, I still can’t let go. I love the person I have become since then, but now that it’s gone forever, I don’t know how to let go. I am afraid of changing cause I built my life around it, Now it’s gone, so what do I have to live for, since the one thing-person I took a breath for each day, is gone…but I know it’s time for a change. It’s time for me to let go, and move on, but he gave me direction in my life, and without him I don’t know where to go, so I keep searching for answers in him, and everything else when I know I can only find them in myself. Yet I still seek instructions from from everyone around me. I wish I knew how to seek those answers in myself.
that…is…scary… *huddles in corner. has idea. emerges.*
but then again that is how we develop as humans, i suppose. because, i mean, you can decide to a certain extent what you let go of. so you can keep what will steer you towards being who you want to be and let go of the ones detrimental to you. then again, this is relative and sometimes we don’t have a choice of what to keep. either way it is scary, since we (as humans) prefer the familiar things (since, as you said, we are more comfortable that way). and it depends on what you are talking about letting go. is it someone else? an object? a memory?
Awesome thought! I agree with how you say people feel more comfortable with that past self of ours, if you don’t mind me using different words. I think when we hit rough patches in life too we find it very very very easy o look back at an experience when an issue now wasn’t even relevant or a thought of worry from our past. However, even though I am guilty and try to improve myself, I think the problem isn’t so much change but us taking responsibility for ourselves in the present and thinking of these memories as a way of life separately rather than a single compilation of art reused and improved over and over. This is just my thought though, but thanks again!