After giving money to a homeless man, why do I feel the need to tell people?

Loch Ness Monster (@mitchando9) 8 years, 8 months ago

Gave a homeless guy 20 bucks at the train station today, and almost straight away I felt this almost unquenchable need to text my girlfriend or friend what I’d done. I’ve also noticed Facebook friends who do statuses about their good deed, almost unknowingly searching for an ego boost of some sort.
Is it a normal feeling?

January 19, 2014 at 8:46 am
Anonymous (175) (@) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

Yes. Proves that true altruism doesn’t exist.

Manimal (2,998) (@manimal) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

Yeah it’s normal. People in general are ignorant, bloated jerkbags.

But hey, that’s why people do “good deeds” so I guess it’s not all bad. The results are still kind of positive, so who cares if they were just grasping for validation?

People are selfish, but they like to pretend they’re not. Because that’s the values they are taught, and they want to be good dogs.

CaoimheS (135) (@caoimhesweeney) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

It’s quite common and I think it’s ego. Doing something good makes you feel good and you tell people how you’ve done something in order to inflate your sense of worth in their eyes. It’s a kind of “look at me! Look what I’ve done and how good I am!”, as opposed to just doing something good.
On a semi-related note, I’ve found that a lot of supposed “nice guys” are like this. The reason it’s so difficult to find a nice guy is because most of them only do nice things to please someone else (eg the girl they’re after). They’ll open the door for you and then expect praise and recognition for it as opposed to just opening the door and forgetting about it. Another example would be giving a girl their coat in the rain. “Nice guys” main reasoning for doing so is mostly to get the girl to think he’s a nice guy. Nice guys main reasoning for doing so it mostly because they don’t want the girl getting soaked. It’s quite easy to tell the difference too.
Anyways, after that ramble, I can say that I could be completely wrong in saying it’s ego and there could be another reason for it but in my opinion, yes it’s ego that makes you wanna tell the world about the good deeds you’ve done.

LSDismyGOD (63) (@LSDlover) 8 years, 8 months ago ago

@Mitchando9 yeah its very normal, not ego boast, the passion and desire to get appreciated , complimented is there in everyone out there from saint to a sinner, and if anyone says NO, they are lying from core of the A$$
recognition and appreciation is very important for good mental health
u had done a great act, awesome , he must be giving blessing to u, but also help blind, handicap as they are not suited for most of the employment..
take care Dear

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