Age difference in relationships

ana (@ecstaticremission) 9 years, 8 months ago

Hey HEthens! What do you guys think about age differences in relationships? I am 21 and my boyfriend is 35. My parents just found out about us and flew off the handle. I live with them so it is a big deal. He’s the first person I’ve truly liked in a long time. Hes one of the first boyfriends I’ve had that I’ve been open with how I feel and what I think. I am finally happy and open about who I am with someone. I feel like there definitely is a social stigma in regards to our age difference. My parents just assume he is some player that is using me or some creepy old man. I would just like to know your opinions on the topic and maybe some advice

May 7, 2012 at 3:37 pm
JustHer (26) (@staringatstars) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

@ecstaticremission is he your first boyfriend? Howd you meet? and how long has your relationship been? and whats your family life like?

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Bryan Hellard (307)M (@xyver) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

How long have you known each other?

Is he a creepy old man? Or a player?

I’ve heard the formula “half your age and add 7” to determine if someone is too young… So for a 35 year old that would be 24.5. So you may be young :P

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Izco (42) (@maximo23) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

age is but a number, If you truly love the dude. fuck what everyone else thinks. listen to the funny feeling in your tummy!

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Bryan Hellard (307)M (@xyver) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

@shaniquaaa, Actually, you’re supposed to spin ninety THREE times. Ninety two times is for when you are picking who your dentist should be.

I agree, if its working for you, keep doing it.

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Anonymous (2,654) (@) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

“He’s the first person I’ve truly liked in a long time. Hes one of the first boyfriends I’ve had that I’ve been open with how I feel and what I think.”

Really? I am open with what I feel and what I think with everyone. You should listen to your parents more. Age really isn’t an issue if your boyfriend really is a fucking idiot who feels sorry for you.

Why don’t you introduce your boyfriend to your parents? Relationships aren’t that complicated. You share stuff, fuck, happy sentimental shit, and you just share it on an internet forum.

What a bunch of fucking bullshit.

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Beth (5) (@bathey13) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

Ask yourself this question. Why would a 35 year old man want to be with a 21 year old woman?

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Anonymous (6) (@) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

@bathey13, that’s a bit insensitive. @ecstaticremission, i agree with everyone on what they’ve said about social stigma (and trying to ignore it). my parents met when my mum was 22 and my dad 33, and they are happily married (in fact celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary last week). go for it :)

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pat (169) (@epath) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

It all depends. Give it some time and keep your mind open. Don’t believe everythng he or anyone else says. Don’t lose yourself to him. If he is manipulative, get rid of him. If he’s immature for his age, get rid of him. Does he always date lots younger girls? Get rid of him.

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Dimitris (27) (@cubilone) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

My parents had exactly the same age difference when they had me. I can’t say my life has exactly been easy because of the fact (they got a divorce soon thereafter) but if you’re happy together, I can’t see what the problem might be. For me it’s a non-issue.

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Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 9 years, 8 months ago ago

It depends on what you want from a relationship. I am 33 and I would be much less inclined to date someone under 27. Maybe it is agist or whatever but what ever it is younger women are in to I am probably not interested. It is a matter of development and culture, women my age are more likely to get my humour and that is a big factor to me, we must tickle each others funny bones just right. I don’t get young jokes and young women don’t get my old jokes, the way it is.

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