Nikolas Hug (@HugNikolas)8 years, 1 month ago

how could anyone ever understand another person? They haven’t lived that other persons life so how can we even say that we understand what someone else is going through when these experiences are so different in your mind and in my own. We long for someone to understand us but to understand ourselves is the true task at hand, we search for belonging in others and forget that we belong with ourselves alone,

August 18, 2013 at 8:23 pm
niknak_pattywac (117) (@creativenik) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

I’ve found that am quite an interesting person by being alone. I use to think of being alone as a negative thing, like I was weird. I always wanted to be around people. But now I like being to myself and in my thoughts, even more now then being around other people

khandero (532) (@khandero) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

“If you are lonely when you’re alone, you are in bad company.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

iXfactor (115) (@Xtine) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

Filip (2,818)M (@filipek) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@hugnikolas, Very good question!

Actually I think it is one of the biggest challenges for us to emphatize with another human being.

The more we get to know ourselves, the more we will be able to understand other people. So for that we need to change ourselves, we need to explore our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions, basically just being aware of everything that is happening. Ask ourselves why these things are happening, why we feel what we feel, what it means, how it is compared to when we feel different.

But we can definitely try to understand other people, even when we lack the same experience.

Ray Butler (1,423)M (@trek79) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

@hugnikolas, If you dissolve all attachments you will still need the attachment that tells you to dissolve attachments, otherwise new attachments will form. But if we can find that state of minimal attachment then our conditioning and experiences will have virtually no hold over us and in that state we can embody the natural value of existence, and that cannot be described as “alone” but as belonging.

But in a world where everyone has their unique conditioning, unique experiences and unique values, we are forced into a situation where exact sympathisation is impossible, we can only relate to how we would feel in the same circumstances, and that can never be a completely accurate summation of another reality. In that we could only be alone.

Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 1 month ago ago

Understanding other people does not lead abidingly to empathizing with them. Some get exploited, manipulated, misguided, left with nothing but empathy and take their own understandinging for granted. What’s challenging isn’t empathy, but what to do with it. It’s like love, you can only feel it and pay it forward, but no one can give it back to you when it’s essential to be only given to feel it.

Rannulph Junuh: You don’t understand…
Bagger Vance: I don’t need to understand… Ain’t a soul on this entire Earth ain’t got a burden to carry he don’t understand, you ain’t alone in that… But you been carryin’ this one long enough… Time to go on… lay it down…
Rannulph Junuh: I don’t know how…
Bagger Vance: You got a choice… You can stop… Or you can start…
Rannulph Junuh: Start?
Bagger Vance: Walkin…
Rannulph Junuh: Where?
Bagger Vance: Right back to where you’ve always been… and then stand there… Still… real still… And remember…
Rannulph Junuh: It’s too long ago…
Bagger Vance: Oh no, sir, it was just a moment ago… Time for you to come on out the shadows Junuh… Time for you to choose…
Rannulph Junuh: I can’t…
Bagger Vance: Yes you can… but you ain’t alone… I”m right here with ya… I’ve been here all along… Now play the game… Your game… The one that only you was meant to play… Then one that was given to you when you come into this world… You ready?… . Now’s the time…
Rannulph Junuh: I can’t do it, Bagger. It was too long ago.
Bagger Vance: No it wasn’t. It was just a moment ago.

Our experiences aren’t so different. We don’t long for someone to understand us, but we suffer if we don’t know what we have to give. Like we’ve lost what we always have.


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