Anticipating pitfalls and how to prevent them

Hoxcrow (@Hoxcrow) 6 years, 11 months ago

Hey Existence!

I’ve be en thinking about this subject for quite some time, pointlessly trying to figure out the answer myself. However, no experience seems to bring me closer to clarity, that’s why I’m turning to you in hope of wisdom.

Now, life consists of good times and bad times, don’t you agree? It’s what makes life so sweet and makes us appreciate the good things in life, right?But it’s a fine balance. A balance that can be limiting a persons progress for a long, long time. At least it is limiting me.

Like many of you (I suppose), I strive for personal development. Now I’m not going to be to specific, but life seems to take me one step forward – one step back. See, no matter how well things are going for me I know I can be turned to the right frequency for a time, but then: pitfall. Something disturbs my frequency, recklessly destroying all the progress I’ve made. And the worst part about it is I can tell from a far that it’s coming. I just don’t know how to prevent it.

I’m trying to be as general as I can here but think in terms of past addictions catching up to you at times when motivation starts to vobble.

Now, for those of you who can relate to what I’m struggling with here: do you think it has something to do with a supression of issues until the bubble bursts? Perhaps I’m battling a war instead of making my mind work with me.

Perhaps the answer lies in being consious as I’m losing frequency. But how do you go about to do this? How do I keep my motivation from vobbling to dodge a pitfall, or is it an inevitable part of life?

If you can relate to this, please share your insight. If not, ask questions and I will try to clarify. The least I’m asking for is a discussion. So go ahead, discuss.

September 21, 2015 at 1:57 pm
Ben (231)M (@benjamin) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Without knowing more about your specific situation it’s hard to give advice, but I’ll share this awesome quote that’s helped me be patient with myself & my personal progress-
 “I walk down the street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I fall in.I am lost… I am helpless.It isn’t my fault.It takes forever to find a way out.I walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I pretend I don’t see it.I fall in again.I can’t believe I am in the same place.But, it isn’t my fault.It still takes me a long time to get out.I walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I see it is there.I still fall in. It’s a habit.My eyes are open.I know where I am.It is my fault. I get out immediately. walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I walk around it.I walk down another street.” ―     Portia Nelson
You might just be in the part of the poem where you know about the hole, but you fall in out of habit anyway.  I know that’s where I am with some parts of my life.  Keep working at it but have patience and compassion with yourself.  And maybe if you tell us more about your specific situation I’ll have more to offer :)
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Hoxcrow (0) (@Hoxcrow) 6 years, 11 months ago ago

Wow.. That’s exactly what I’ve been looking for. I think I can work with this, at least for a while.

I realize now this was a kind of stupid thread to start, because the true answer to MY battle lies within me.

However, if we keep discussing this topic in general: do you think it’s possible to have a life full of a constant stream of positive thoughts, to always be happy. Or are worse times neccessary in life, to keep you challenged and evolving?

Ben (231)M (@benjamin) 6 years, 10 months ago ago

Awesome to hear! Glad you liked the quote.
And it certainly was not stupid to start this thread!  It seems like some good questions are brewing from it.
I don’t think it’s possible, or even a good thing, to always have positive thoughts/be happy.  I think the reality is that life always throws challenges at us.  When it comes to this I really like the phrase “It’s not about changing the waves, it’s about learning to surf”.  We’ll never have a perfect life; the only constant in life is change itself, so we’ll always be having to adapt and move out of our comfort zone.  We can always get better at riding the waves, but we can’t control the tides or the weather.  Sometimes the tides are easy, and it’s our time to appreciate the gifts of life.  Sometimes the weather is stormy, and it’s our time to learn tolerance of life’s hardships.
I also don’t think it would be healthy to be happy all the time.  I think true emotional health is about being able to feel all your emotions – positive and negative – and process them well.  Let them move through you and then let them go. 
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