anxiety is a direct byproduct of….

obi (@superpooper) 8 years ago

Living inauthentically.

That’s my theory of what causes this condition people are labeling themselves….

Social anxiety…laughable. its annoying that people will label themselves with anything just to take the blame off of themselves.

When you are living fully and authentically, anxiety is not something that cripples you, because youre too busy living.

I think people are mistaking their fear of others thinking they are weird or different, for anxiety.

What do you all think?

September 8, 2014 at 10:22 pm
josephm (772) (@josephm) 8 years ago ago

so scrambling to make a house payment or feed your kids when your doing everything you can is being inauthentic?

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obi (3) (@superpooper) 8 years ago ago

I was going to address this point in the op, but yeah you’re right, so ill change my argument primarily to social anxiety. Anxiety itself is fully valid. What do u think of that?

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josephm (772) (@josephm) 8 years ago ago

if your dad hates faggots and attends klan meetings – you might have a hard time integrating socially. it is not black and white whatsoever. problems can be so deeply rooted that anything on the surface has no bearing in the solution.

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josephm (772) (@josephm) 8 years ago ago

living fully and authentically is the solution – but “positive psychology” is a science not a statement

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obi (3) (@superpooper) 8 years ago ago

Good points. Could you elaborate on your last sentence about positive psychology?

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josephm (772) (@josephm) 8 years ago ago

Positive Psychology is the scientific study of optimal human functioning. It aims to discover and promote the factors that allow individuals and communities to thrive.

The goal
In cognitive therapy, the goal is to help people change negative styles of thinking as a way to change how they feel. This approach has been very successful, and changing how we think about other people, our future, and ourselves is partially responsible for this success. The thinking processes that impact our emotional states vary considerably from person to person. An ability to pull attention away from the chronic inner chatter of our thoughts can be quite advantageous to well-being. A change in our orientation to time can dramatically impact how we think about the nature of happiness. Seligman identified other possible goals: families and schools that allow children to grow, workplaces that aim for satisfaction and high productivity, and teaching others about positive psychology.

-wikipedia

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Anonymous (64) (@) 8 years ago ago

I DO think this is the root of social anxiety, at least for me. The further I go down this rabbit hole the more socially anxious I become unless I know the group is open and receptive to where and who I am. My mind thinks ‘If I can’t be myself then who am I?’ and then the social and existential angst mounts. The angst is not unfounded, historically mystics and truth seekers have been burned at the stake. Whether figuratively or literally there is still an essence of that mass mentality about.

Above all we must love ourselves. Peace and love on your journey.

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obi (3) (@superpooper) 8 years ago ago

Peace and love man. I feel the same way. I also feel anxiety when I cannot be authentic with a group of people. It sucks

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Anonymous (12) (@) 8 years ago ago

I used to feel this way a lot because I could sense others inauthenticity and protocols and I was raised to be supposedly emotionally honest. But then I realized that most people know it’s a game and it’s natural to show you come in peace by participating in the rules. It’s not really being untrue to yourself to smile and hold your tongue in certain company. You don’t have to be a hundred percent vulnerable with everyone to be authentic.

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Anonymous (12) (@) 8 years ago ago

You just have to know why you’re there.

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