Hi, does anyone else feel different from the rest of society? I’ve been trying for so long to connect with people, but it just feels like everybody’s different from me. I have friends, but only 1 with whom I can completely be myself. I feel like I’m really weird. I talk to myself, and think about random stuff. Like today in the lab I worked at I looked at a cardboard box I was holding and I thought, “This is big enough to hold a baby.” I said it out loud to the guy next to me and he said, “That is true, but that is a really weird thought to have.” Deep inside I thought, “I know…” Ahh D=, does anyone else have this feeling? Hoping you deep-thinking folks out there have some advice. It’s a lonely feeling to not feel understood. Oh yeah, whenever I feel philosophical people tell me “stop thinking so much”. It’s horrible; I just want someone to talk to about this stuff. But there’s nobody =(, except on this website I guess.
I get told an awful lot that I’m weird. I have come to the conclusion that everyone else is weird.
I have come to the conclusion that either other people are either far less intelligent than me, or far more intelligent than me, and I have a strong feeling that it might be the latter.
My fellow brother!!!! I’ve always felt like an alien to society my best friend who understands me but thinks I’m weird is my girlfriend!!! She accepts me for me!, other than that everyone is an aquantance to me! I’m trying to find others like me problem is im shy when it comes to meeting new people. I guess what im trying to say is there is tons of people like us! we are deep thinkers superficiality makes us uncomfortable which id’e say is a great quality! who wants fake relationships I’m looking for deep connections!, people who talk about life,consciousness, weird shit like a baby would fit perfect in this box i love that shit reminds me of myself! anyways I’ve been told im weird my whole life and I accept that I am eventually you’ll find people as weird as you thats the point! Everyones different but we people who are really different have troubles finding others but things fall into place in good time thats what i’m hoping for stay positive bro! One love :)
Just be yourself. It takes too much effort to try to be something you’re not. That makes you a phony. Who needs that? I said something really bizarre a few months ago – but everyone cracked up. My kitty had died two days before the hurricane (I’m in NJ). She had cancer and I had ZERO CLUE, she was sick. Anyway – we had her cremated, but the process was delayed because the storm. Two weeks later I picked up her ashes from the vet, and she was very nicely presented to me. I stated to the office staff, through my tears, “I never got a dead cat in a gift bag before!” Like will attract like – so just be yourself, but be kind, and all will be well! :)
I’m right there with you. I feel like I’ve got a much deeper and clearer understanding of life than most any around me. If you relate to this then it is only natural that others’ superficiality doesn’t fulfill you. It can be lonely, even frustrating, at times. However, something that I’ve really come to enjoy recently is letting go of my fear of being genuine, showing love, and sharing my deep thoughts. I’ve made it my mission to get the people around me to start thinking about the important things in life and relish in knowing that this is changing them for the better. If you begin to live true to yourself people will notice the difference. The key is not to fear people’s shifting perspective of you but rather to embrace it. Don’t be afraid of being unique. Hope this helps.
@lastunicorn, Do not stop thinking. You’re probably more intelligent than whoever you hang around. These thoughts come to you for a reason. Explore them. Embrace your “weirdness” and know if you do, your life will be a lot more entertaining and you will expierence more than the average. You will find other people who think like you and you will be able to talk to.
@onanotherlevel, But why does it take so long? I’ve gone through elementary school, up till now feeling like the only pioneer. But yes, you’re right. I’ll keep going where these thoughts take me! Maybe I’ll find things no one else ever did. Just wish I didn’t have to do it alone for so long.
@lastunicorn, The best part of being alone is that you come up with things that only you have created, not the spawn of other peoples ideas, but your own entirely. This loneliness can be tough, but rather than focus on the loneliness just embrace your mind and your feelings. Find some good books, I’d suggest reading anything by Herman Hess, or anyone that may interest you. Explore the world rather than worry about what it thinks of you yah know? :) I know it’s easy to worry about but just let yourself release!!!
This reminds me of Plato’s Allegory of the Cave. Any time a prisoner ascends from the cave and tries to return he is looked upon as an outsider. Being a deep thinker and a different thinker isn’t a bad thing. According to Plato, it’s the ultimate goal of life. Don’t pay attention to the rest of the chained prisoners!
@lastunicorn, you’re not doing it alone. Physically,maybe you are but spiritually you are never alone. Once you learn to do things for yourself and create your own views/thoughts/beliefs other people will notice and those who feel the same as you will be attracted to it. You should focus on yourself for everything else to fall into place. Instead of WANTING to find others you can relate to, KNOW that you will. Change you’re thinking from negative to positive. From wanting to having. It might seem difficult at first especially if its not happening but every time you have a negative thought just change it to positive. You will get used to it and it will become easy. Then, just knowing that something will happen will produce results.
That sounds exactly like something I would say, so to me you are not weird! I am definitely different from my close friendsthough; my outlook about jobs and success and all of the above tends to scale away from them. How I measure value to life is different, too. However, I’ve begun to realize that my different outlook, lifestyle and hell, even sense of humor have formed me into a unique individual for the better. For instance, I believe my friends come to me a lot for advice because they know it’ll be different from what they heard/told to do. But I also understand how lonely it can feel. Not having support from friends just because they don’t quite get where you’re coming from can be discouraging… Big time. I just think certain people are in your life for a reason and more certain people will enter too.
“Normal” is just what the masses do, the majority. But alas my dear friend, the masses, the majority, they are miserable. Living out quiet lives of desperation. Be proud, be happy, pay no heed to nay-sayers, and embrace those cool, unique, wildly interesting thoughts of yours. Cheers. :)
Bottom Line my friend is to BE YOURSELF. If that is truly what you are doing right now than you can ignore my post…
However, you may want to ask yourself whether you are truly being YOU or if you are letting other people influence how you behave. It is a misconception to think that just because someone seems to exist outside of the social norm, that they aren’t influenced by society at large. The very reason for acting “different” can be to distinguish a person from the norm because he/she wants nothing to do with what is “normal”. It’s paradoxical in a way because the very thing they claim to be disconnected from is directly influencing how they act. I would first check to see how much of your desire to be distinguished from what is normal is in fact causing you to feel “different”. Again, if it is truly YOU and natural, then let it be. But, perhaps this could be of help. Just some food for thought.
Don’t feel too self-conscious about it. Accept the fact that people will think you’re odd and embrace it, because you’ve discovered the wonders of a non-pacified existence. Two very good quotes:
“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.”- Albert Camus
“Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”- Timothy Leary
To be honest, don’t change for anyone. If you act polarized (aka be yourself), some people will hate you and some will absolutely love you. In your case, less will love you because they can’t handle your quirkiness. But that’s okay! I’m overly loving and open, and as a guy that turns a lot of people off. But the people I do connect with I connect with on an extremely deep and awesome level. I know it’s easier said than done when faced with a lot of rejection, but pretty much everything is easier said than done ;). Put yourself in situations to meet a lot of people. Another bit of advice… You know some of the stuff you say is weird, so say it in a funny way. If you said, “You could fit a fuckin’ baby in this box”, in an enthusiastic and hilarious way, I would laugh. Also remember, being weird is fucking awesome, being normal sucks. Don’t conform, lead!