ok, follow all the steps below:
1) First name
– divide this letter by two
– round to the nearest 10
2) Sexual activity
– add masturbation factor ( this is a multiplier )
– add number of sexual partners : ( MEN ) divide your number by 2, ( WOMEN ) add 4.
see, in reality, to see whether you are happy or not is much more simple, but to do so, this process requires an honest and frank observation, yes, you have to observe, you cannot base the answer on past experiences because previously, you probably were not looking for what i am about to suggest:
[Ambiance:] Public place
[Personal:] Be by yourself and try to make it a time when you have already been by yourself for awhile, say, a couple hours,
[Observe:] In a public place, i want you to sit back and observe the people around you in a scanning motion, what you are looking for are displays of Joy, this can be a group or single person, doing something, that has a cause and effect that produces Joy,
[Example:] A family in the park, a man listening to music, a street performer
[Variable:] Make sure the display is powerful, as in, the people are completely lost within the moment they have created,
[You:] Now, as you scan this scene, how does this make you feel internally?
see, anyone can create a test that considers multiple variables and this is done so to try to get the most honest answer out of whoever they are testing, but, the test i propose is for you alone, therefore, the more honest you are with yourself the more of yourself will be revealed
[Result:] The emotion you feel while observing others in this state will show you where you are
Before I had kids, seeing families together did nothing for me. But now I feel happy if I’m watching other families, cute kids and all that. Does that mean I’m happy in that respect or just that I’ve awoken an appreciation for family life, or both?
try it out and see after reading this, sit in the emotion you feel, explore it, make sure it is genuine and not you telling yourself how to feel,
it’ll be an ache, it’ll pull at you, and this strong emotion will reflect how happiness makes you feel, some examples:
happy, jealousy, sadness, remorse, anger,
someone can experience a full range of these based upon how they view happiness,
so, to answer your question, try it now and really sit in how you feel, drop into the emotion and try to reflect the trueness you are observing in front of you by allowing yourself to truly feel
but ima predict yours will be happy, i think you are right, you were unaware of how another human being could impact you before your child, so after having one you look at reality through this new, empathetic lens, allowing you to see and understand others more clearly
@staylucky, i heard a big “whooshing” sound as that one flew over my head, so I looked it up.
Guess it’d be better just to read the book. Or, seeing as how I’m crunched for time these days, watch the movie…
i found happiness once i stopped seeking and started being. also it helped to stop watching tv and using the internet almost altogether (i use the internet while i’m at work, but i keep my browsing limited to this web site and stumbleupon) i found that the tv and internet was only causing stress and fear and anger in my life when seeing the headlines that are soooo important to people.