Lately I’ve been suffering from anxiety, where it seeps into my dreams. Making them highly vivid and I wake up feeling very dazed and confused…like I don’t know what is real or fake..also I get very groggy…and along with that comes the intrusive thoughts…and on top of all that are the intrusive memories…like really I get like random memories from like 15 years ago and it varies…I call it random access memories…some days I’m frustrated…other days I can handle it…it used to bother me at one point when I thought “am I always gonna be like this?” And now I’m just like “if I shall be like this, I shall let it be” so the best thing for me to do is try to manage I guess…some tips for people similar feels…
1. EXERCISE is a gift from God
2. Try to stay calm
3. Self talks “I’m going to be okay” or if your like me, I talk in second person, “you’re going to be okay” lol
4. Be more social, give an ear to others for a change, and let them hear you out as well…
5. Lastly, if you feel like you’re losing it or you’re going crazy, you’re not..it’s only anxiety’s effect on the brain…causing strong irrational thoughts and fears to surface..
Hey, you’re not the only one. I call it ‘processing before removal’. Usually, I enter this phase about three or four years after moving, or a major life change. I recommend guided meditation, it really helps. Sometimes, if you don’t process loss or change quickly enough, your brain drags you into it for help.
I would see also a counselor.
Sleepytime tea is good for the irritation, and verbal cuing to yourself is helpful.
Your brain will ‘eventually’ believe what you say. If you say, I’m ok, I’m just processing, and that I will return to normal thought pattern in a few minutes…” your brain will believe you eventually, it’s a biblical precept. It’s called having ears to hear.
Also, deep breathing and focusing on what you want to feel is helpful. Imagine a steady, pleasant tone, one note, constant, unchanging. Now, visualize a ball of white light in the center of a dark void…focus on it, and imagine that it is imparting to you the strength, love and ability to focus.
Breathing in and out, repeat to yourself, I am improving every day. Every day in every way, I am feeling better and better. I am a good person, and I will do good things. I will see positive change in my life very soon. I believe I am getting better and better. I am happy, I am strong, every day in every way, I am getting better and better.
(This sums up the meditation I recieved from an online guru. It has helped me…in fact, I’m due for a tune up as I have not done this in months, and I feel the negatives creeeeeping in again…)
Above all, do not give up on yourself. Negativity is the result of processing something internally, in an incorrect manner. If your perspective is adjusted by questions like, “Will this really ruin my day, if I don’t let it?” and “Do I HAVE to be angry about this, or do I just choose it?” “How do I REALLY want to feel right now?”
These questions have been endlessly helpful to me. I hope this reply has at least relieved you that you are not the only one. :) A lot of ppl don’t know what to do with brain chatter. They have to be taught, as i was.
At the very least, google self hypnosis. It will get you there.
And, if you are not put off badly by the idea, I can tell you, sometimes, asking for help from G.O.D. is also useful. The feeling that someone else is there can ease stress very quickly.
@man-of-the-future, thank you for the post. There are probably multiple threads for anxiety on HE, but I suppose it’s the sort of issue that’s better off repeated, especially when aiming to help.
I’ve been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder, and can agree wholeheartedly with your advice. You can think of it this way, even: anxiety is your brain’s way of telling you you’re not exercising enough. :D I’m making light of a serious issue, I know, but I think it should be allowed. We’re way too serious as a species.
Another thing I’d recommend is to try and view the anxiety as a message from your subconscious – fear is your friend, after all. It’s trying to protect you. When there’s no threat around and you still get anxious, that means the “threat” is within you, or in something you’re doing. Try and find out what it is that your friend, fear, thinks is a threat to you. For me it was definitely cigarettes, and after quitting, I find I’m hardly anxious anymore.
It’s hard to not see fear as an enemy, I know – but this only leads to the fear of fear, and then you’re doubly fucked, to put it bluntly.
Has OP considered if talking to yourself in the third person distances yourself from yourself? This could impede progress. Back when I bought the whole “law of attraction”-swill, I remember reading about visualization and how you’re not supposed to see yourself in third person while visualizing, but rather try to be that person – see through his/her eyes and so on. This may be something to think about: I know we all have a way of talking to ourselves, but some methods may work better than others…
Unfortunately it’s a pretty tough issue and dealing with anxiety is far from easy. It can be a debilitating disease much like depression and panic disorder. So far, for me, the tried and true cure has been a massive change in perspective: moving from the fear of fear to gratitude for fear, changing my behavior and lifestyle to a healthier one, realizing and accepting that I don’t know and don’t need to know (does wonders with irrational ideas) and, most of all, exercise and healthy nutrition.
-edit- Oh, and meditation! I can’t believe I forgot that. MINDFULNESS-meditation (this is really important, it’s basically the only type of meditation with extensive scientific research done on it’s benefits). It’s crucial, since it makes you aware of self-talk, which means you can control it. The more you meditate, the more control you have over your thoughts – and a negative thought feedback-loop is exactly what makes anxiety become worse and worse during an attack – sometimes leading up to panic.
If you suffer from anxiety, don’t dilly-dally, make the change now. :) Anxiety is a mixture of fear and worry, and while worry can be described as praying to the devil, it’s utterly useless and a complete waste of time.