I’m indecisive about everything. I just can’t seem to make up my mind about anything. This is not because I don’t want to but simply due to the fact that my mind,body and soul are always in constant conflict. I can’t make up my mind about my friends,even the boy I’m in love with, my mind says one thing but my heart and soul say something else. This frequently leaves me confused and frustrated. The only thing I seem to can make up my mind about is my religious view. I really want to stop being this way.
@krazykhadiie, Do your boyfriend, friends and lifestyle emulate your surroundings? Sometimes we involuntarily become a product of our environment, thus making us feel as though there’s something wrong with us when things feel out of place. We’re all different creatures who need different things. Love does not a relationship make.
It could be time to embrace change. Or perhaps talk to a guidance councilor of some sort? You may just not have stumbled upon the thing that clicks for you yet!
@krazykhadiie, as Alan Watts would say, it is important to confront the question “what do I desire?” as everything else pretty much revolves around the concept of what you want for yourself.
For example, if you absolutely knew you wanted to be a firefighter, ALL other aspects of your life (relationships, hobbies, perspectives, attitudes) would either aid in reaching that goal, or hurt your goal of becoming one. All these other decisions become so much easier with this perspective! Does this serve my goal? Yes? Ok cool. No? I need to drop whatever this is and/or change it so that it does serve me. (I just used a career choice as one outlet of desire, these ideas can be applied to anything).
What do YOU desire? =)
@krazykhadiie, I’ve been there. And I believe this is an issue that many young Americans experience frequently. You are not alone. I don’t mean to presume, because perhaps you’ve already thought of this, but it seems you’d benefit from some “Be Here Now” practice, as I like to call it. From experience, I’ve found that when I’m most anxious or indecisive I am resisting the now, resisting what is in some way. We tend to project ourselves either into the past or future. Humans spend so much time dwelling on times gone by, or worrying about what’s coming next and when. This will get you nowhere, because it is fantasy; the past and future do not exist except in our minds. If you can learn to be intensely present and to embrace what is, then you will be liberated from such anxieties. Now, easier said than done. My suggestion is meditation, specifically insight or vippassana if you haven’t tried it. If you’re interested, there are plenty of articles here on HE or you can check this out, http://urbanspiritual.wordpress.com/2013/02/20/simplicity-of-meditation/
Hope this helps, good luck!
@krazykhadiie, another thing you could do is just go with your gut feeling a little more. For example, if you feel a certain way, say, towards that boy you love, then just grasp that feeling and run with it. I know it’s difficult, but sometimes it’s good to just let go of the part that’s reasoning or simply fretting too much.