I have used this site for a few months now, and have gained a lot of awesome insights and mind-set changes, so I think it’s time for me to show my face and contribute with this idea i have.
My friend and I have this mantra to always “do what scares you.” If we catch ourselves, or each other, making excuses or avoiding doing something simply because we are scared then we call each other out…
THE POINT IS TO DO ONE THING EACH DAY THAT SCARES YOU, TO STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE. It can be something small and seemingly silly, or bigger and more meaningful….
Some examples of things we’ve done are getting your ears pierced on a whim or getting a tattoo while wasted in a foreign country, going sky diving, eating something new, applying for a job that you don’t think you’ll get, doing something that’s “out of character” for you…
More often they will be small things like talking to an attractive stranger, tackling a project that’s looming over you, or doing something risky and fun.
IMAGINE HOW MUCH YOU COULD GROW BY PLEDGING TO DO SOMETHING THAT SCARES YOU EVERYDAY, FOR 30 DAYS.
Well, I’m excited. Who wants to do this with me?
Fucking awesome my dude http://www.theflinch.com/ I read that book, and it has inspired me to do this. This weekend I did something that scares the shit out of me. I went out alone and approached random strangers at the bar all weekend. It was fucking hard.
Yesterday morning a hottie came in at starbucks and sat next to me. Normally I would have never talked to her. After this weekend I at least had a conversation with her.
Im in for your challenge.
That’s so funny! My friend and I recently vowed to do that this summer! We even got a scrapbook so we can remember how adventerous and brave we are! We have started doing small things like doing a flip into the pool and going on a huge rollercoaster. We are also extending the challenge to things that we just work hard to accomplish like getting the splits and learning to braid hair (my friend can’t braid her own hair! Crazy, right?). I think it is going to do wonders for our well-being. And I feel so spontaneous and adventurous!
Wow, you are so brave!
Yeah, I have a few ideas. Do things you cannot decide if they’re stupid or not. If something scares you, you’re basically limiting your own life.
If you cannot acknowledge your own insecurities and deal with your own fucking problems already, start right about fucking now. :) Face yourself and don’t wait for someone to motivate you. See for yourself how easy it is. You’re restrained by your own indecision, but you’re sure about your confusion, (which doesn’t make any fucking sense) so you don’t even deserve the privilege to be confident, it would make you a liar.
It’s a great feeling when you are on the verge of doing something, you say “fuck it” to all the excuses in your head, and you do it anyway. Then you come out on the other side feeling on top of the world and the excuses that once had power over you just seem laughable…
there has to be some kind of stipulations, no? @captdugan, i only ask because after just reading your thread and talking to my friend about it we were thinkin about going to the store and smokin a joint on the way. I said I didn’t wanna cuz i was scared of running into the police or anything like that. So further down the conversation he was sayin it’s a perfect situation exercise this challenge, and even said let’s take everything we got with us, While smoking, and speed to the way to the store. Now even though I damn well know that’s a horribly stupid idea, wouldn’t it defy the laws of the game to deny the challenge?
What do ya think?
@captdugan, I like the idea. But even though you are doing something that scares you, does that necessarily mean you are getting over the fear internally just because you’re acting it out? Sometimes pushing way passed the fear just numbs you to it instead of overcoming it. And some things that scare you are not really that smart to do anyways. I mean I agree nothing should scare you and you shouldn’t not do things because you are afraid, but you can also just decide not to do something because it’s just not a good idea.
To clarify: I’m not talking about doing things JUST because your’e scared. I’m talking about being honest with yourself about the reasons who you choose not to do something. If you examine yourself and discover that all the reasons which are holding you back are bullshit, that the fear is irrational and the excuses are pathetic, i want to go ahead and do something if i really want to.
A lot of people prefer the comfort of doing things how they have always done them. To those people, don’t do this challenge because it’s not for you. If you want to get adventurous (even if on a small level at first, to gain some momentum), get weird, and grow in the process, then this MAY be for you.
@captdugan, Good point. I always try and live my life to the fullest in every positive experience that presents itself.. but i Fear that i still am held back by some of my fears.. this post really makes me wanna change that, so cheers man – I accept this challenge.
@captdugan, Awesome, I’m really glad that you posted this. I recently heard about IMPOSSIBLE (http://impossiblehq.com/manifesto) and have been trying to do IMPOSSIBLE things. I am pledging to kong a picnic table (shortways – will get to longways soon!) tomorrow, and I will post a video here!
also, I agree with @redpuck26 The Flinch was GREAT! It is free on Kindle and is VERY short, if you have an ipod touch you can install kindle on it and download the book for free it is definitely worth it.