Child's Purpose

Linds (@linds) 8 years, 11 months ago

As a single female with no children, I want to know what is the purpose of having children? This may seem like an insensitive or even ignorant question but other than the obvious – to create more life – do people have children?

I’m 23 and sometimes I can imagine my life without kids and then other times I think “of course, I’ll have children one day”.

I guess some people have children so they won’t “die alone”, their spouse talked them into it, it was an accident, or maybe even to give their life purpose. And I know those of you that do have children will probably say “my kid is the greatest thing that ever happened to me”. I obviously don’t have children so I don’t know these emotions or feelings, from my view, it just looks like you go through 9 months of hell, your body changes in ways I don’t want to ever think about, and I want to know what’s on the other side of that?? Unconditional love…? The closest thing I have is my niece(8yrs) and nephew(7yrs). I love them very much but after hanging out with them for a few hours, I need some serious quiet time.

So, I’m just asking for opinions, experiences, anything. No judgement, I think children are great and new life as well as life in general is beautiful but I also understand when people say they don’t want kids. Maybe I’m just at that age? I’ll get to the “baby fever” phase one day?

October 18, 2013 at 1:19 pm
brice (9) (@treesnseas) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

@stick2skript, thank you, that is a beautiful poem

Anonymous (2,654) (@) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

Here are my thoughts. It comes down to whether or not you are family oriented. If you’re questioning it, then perhaps you are just not ready for that family struggle everyone witnesses. I don’t think anyone is ever ready however confident they are anyway. First you have to have a partner, right? Here’s a stupid idea. A partner you won’t have problems with understanding each other, because in my opinion, if you decide to have kids one day, they should be more important than you and your partner. Meaning, the child’s purpose is the child’s decision.

TheSkaFish (962)M (@theskafish) 8 years, 11 months ago ago

It’s different for everyone, like any interest. Some people are interested in creating a life and watching that person grow and develop. Others simply find themselves in the situation of having kids. It’s not a better or worse way, I feel – but one should definitely understand what it is they are signing up for. It’s a minimum of 18 years of serious commitment, and I’ve heard that on average, that 18 years can cost a million dollars – all that food, clothes, medicine, entertainment, miscellaneous fees, school supplies, etc. That’s why I think I’ll have to pass on that experience, because it directly conflicts with my dream of retiring as early as possible. However, that’s just how I feel today. In the future I may completely change my values and what I want from life.

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