I have a few people around me who are quite negative. After practicing meditation for a while, I have to come realize that their outlook on life is highly pessimistic, and they clearly give off negative and judgmental vibes. In this situation, are you supposed to remove the person from your life, or just stick with them? My problem arises trying to act from a standpoint of Buddhism. I recently saw a picture-quote that said something along the lines of “You are the CEO of your life. Demote and promote people….” I don’t know how I feel about this, as isn’t this acting along the lines of ego? Your valuable inputs would be appreciated.
Love & Light,
@sidman11, how deeply do they matter to you? Are they someone close, or just associates or acquaintances? I would distance myself from people who are negative that I don’t know well, but if it’s someone closer, then I would take a look at them and look back at anything you’ve shared. Sometimes you might find that these people might have negative views, but that’s not all of who they are. There’s something more to them, and that’s why you enjoy them. That’s what love or deep friendship is, sticking by someone through thick and thin, remembering the good even when the person is being bad. Maybe your good influence will rub off on them, maybe you will be the one that changes them from a Negatron to an Optimist Prime. People can change.
@theskafish Thanks for your reply. They are not close, and that’s why I was confused. There’s lots of things wrong with everyone and I agree that for friends you should overlook everything. I meant more generally, such as someone you see maybe twice a week. :)
You must continue to cultivate your own inner peace, but the people who you want to avoid are the ones who would benefit the most from your new found peace. Perhaps by seeing the light in you they can learn to realize the light within themselves. Buddha ministered. He did not sit under the bodhi tree and meditate away his days. He went forth to spread his message. And in doing so he did not seek out those who were already on the path, but those who needed his teachings the most.
There is god and light in everyone. Can you find it within the people you seek to avoid.
That being said. Follow your heart and be equanimitous. As long as the path is under your feet, all is well. Peace .
Depends. I believe we must choose who is of value in our lives.
Remove, remove, remove! Don’t close the door to them, but don’t go down their rabbit hole of doom & gloom…. which to be with them, they will require you join their journey. Actively be open to positive, group outings including them… lead with your light. But don’t let other’s sap your energy when instead you can make room for others who will gracefully recieve & thrive on your energy.
Part of Buddhism states that suffering and negativity should be endured because it is necessary in life.