do you ever…

CJV (@somuch2say) 10 years, 11 months ago

Do you ever listen to other people say truley ignorant, blatantly STUPID THINGS?
There is times I just can’t handle it and I get SO upset. I wish I knew how to let someone know in a constructive way how I feel about their opinion/statement.
How do you all respond when people say things that are ignorant, biased or just PLAIN wrong?

February 18, 2011 at 3:34 am
Martijn Schirp (112,780)A (@martijn) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

One thing I learned in my Buddhist practice is the use of compassion, because some people like that will hurt themselves much more than others and I try to emphatize with them. It definately got rid of alot of anger in myself (Other people have less influence in my happiness) and at the other hand im still eager to try to make them see the light (which is only possible if you truly see it from their perspective).

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

tell them they are blatantly wrong.
._. Also a good way to make enemies, but hey, at least I’m honest, haha.

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Haakon (5) (@hawcon) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

I would usually have a laugh, then ask them why they say/believe in such things. If it’s way too stupid, then I usually just ignore it and let them finish before i change the subject :)

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Syn.Ther. (46) (@luna) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

There was a time people laughed at folks who thought the world was round…….

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CJV (2) (@somuch2say) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

@ Martijn i loved what you said about compassion.

@synthetic
therapy GREAT point.

you both gave me something to think about. Different perspectives but both great. Applicable in different situations.

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Martijn Schirp (112,780)A (@martijn) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

I don’t know Alex, there are alot of times when you are wrong too, so don’t get too convinced. Its much better to let people find out for themselves what is true, and just find your own. Oh how many times I changed my world view.

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Haakon (5) (@hawcon) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

Well I agree with that Martjin, but if you think of the question in the topic as something that without doubt IS “ignorant, biased or just PLAIN wrong”, for example certain conspiracy theories, I kind of agree with Alex, although I have the tendancy to just avoid (or if the person is somewhat openminded – question) the subject.

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Bryan Hellard (307)M (@xyver) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

I have the same thing. Not only you know that it is wrong, but they themselves know it is wrong and keep going on saying/doing idiotic things, thinking its hilarious. So to add on to your question, how do you respond when they act dumb as well as speak dumb? (like that phrase…. speak dumb… )

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Alex Eastman (71) (@alex) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

I usually do that Martijn, it is just too much of a hassle to make them see usually.

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CJV (2) (@somuch2say) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

@alex and Bryan… That’s how I feel a lot of the time. people are so off that I question and think about how could I possibly bring them back to something that is in the very least semi-coherent or semi-reasonable….I want to be honest and truthful in all that I do. When I hear these comments/statements be released without any attempt at brining awareness I feel like I haven’t done my part. It’s a great amount of turmoil that I feel. I want to inform others, but at the same time it’s exhausting and at times fruitless. (I have been told by many, that it is not fruitless because at least you planted, even if its small, a seed of questioning.)

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Martijn Schirp (112,780)A (@martijn) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

It depends on whether is fruitfull or not on how you bring it, no? Because you can either make them feel you have a point on which they don’t agree right now, or you can make them feel they’re being attacked and have to defend themselves, and thus, reinforcing their beliefs.

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Syn.Ther. (46) (@luna) 10 years, 11 months ago ago

http://www.askamathematician.com/?p=4524

define right and wrong, remember everything is contextual, there are no universal truths.

one could hang on to Physics as we have build our world on it’s laws, we can however conclude that in some instances this is still only to the best of our knowledge today.

Cultural influences and such play an important role in value and believe systems.

My point ;) keep thinking and have an open mind as it is for thoughts outside the box
which enables us to have this discussion ;)

Peace

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