Do You Find Meditation Difficult? If So, Tell Me Why!

 thirdeyecyclops (@thirdeyecyclops) 8 years, 6 months ago

Hey my fellow HEthens!

I have a background in working as an outreach worker and drug and alcohol counselor with skills in conflict resolution, suicide intervention, etc. I worked for years with at-risk young people on the streets as well as in group homes and residential D&A treatment programs. I left after years of increasing government involvement made it next to impossible to do my job properly and actually help people in need.

I now feel I can do something to really help people and give them meaning life skills to help during times of stress. I am creating a program based on the benefits of mindfulness and meditation aimed at the same target group BUT also anyone who wants to add this practice into their life. I am currently asking people a few questions, specifically those who have tried meditation and stopped, to help develop a meditation program aimed at relieving a lot of the stress, anxiety and general frustration will all face on a daily basis.

If you could help me out, it would mean a lot! Please be as thorough as you can with your answers, the more information we have, the more comprehensive our program can become. These answers will not shared with anyone, you can remain anonymous. Thanks for helping me out!

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1. What is the number one question you have about meditation?

2. What was your expectation of starting a meditation practice? What did you think it would do for you?

3. Did you have some instruction before starting? If yes, what kind?

4. Why did you want to try meditation?

5a What is/was your biggest “problem” with your meditation practice?

5b Why do you think __________ caused that problem with your practice?

6. What are some of the common difficulties you have had in your practice? (ie painful legs, too noisy, etc)

7. How long into your practice did you stop if indeed you did?

8. What was your main reason for not continuing on with meditation on a regular basis?

9. How long would you normally sit for?

10. When in the day/night would you normally sit?

11. What posture did you most commonly use and was it comfortable for you?

12. What amount of time could you realistically set aside each day for meditation?

13. What could a meditation teacher do to help you?

Thank you so much!

PS not really sure I put this in the right forum, sorry if not!

April 24, 2013 at 1:47 pm
Heed them, HEthen (91) (@heedthem) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

1. What is the number one question you have about meditation?
I’m not sure, but do people give positive reviews of receiving directed meditation in person?

2. What was your expectation of starting a meditation practice? What did you think it would do for you?

I thought it was supposed to be like a trance and be blisslike and I have a problem clearing my thoughts so this seemed like some far away impossible destination that I could not get to. I hoped for it to solve all my problems.

3. Did you have some instruction before starting? If yes, what kind?

I tried to watch lots of youtube videos and google how-tos

4. Why did you want to try meditation?

Because I feel like that is the number one tool that I will always have free access to and can only improve my life

5a What is/was your biggest “problem” with your meditation practice?

I have been instructed that true meditation is not going into a trancelike state but rather allowing thoughts to pass by like clouds and detaching yourself from them. I have a huge problem with not instigating and feeding the thoughts and find it impossible to let anything go. I have no idea what it means to or what it feels like to let thoughts pass by.

5b Why do you think __________ caused that problem with your practice?

I have poor mental training and get carried away by emotion too much

6. What are some of the common difficulties you have had in your practice? (ie painful legs, too noisy, etc)

I have a bad back as well so keeping still and staying comfortable is very difficult

7. How long into your practice did you stop if indeed you did?

I find I couldn’t focus any longer than 10~15 mins
8. What was your main reason for not continuing on with meditation on a regular basis?

9. How long would you normally sit for?
I can sit still for a very long time for no reason at will, but willfully “meditating” seems to tap out after 10~15 mins

10. When in the day/night would you normally sit?
I prefer darkness to minimize distractions

11. What posture did you most commonly use and was it comfortable for you?
Laying on my back with my legs elevated (inverted chair) with my eyes covered

12. What amount of time could you realistically set aside each day for meditation?
I hope to reach 30 mins

13. What could a meditation teacher do to help you?

Hopefully keep me relaxed, keep me meditative, keep me grounded in the sensations happening and the sensation of being alive instead of dwelling on thoughts and brooding

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Heed them, HEthen (91) (@heedthem) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

#8: I keep putting it off or getting high instead. Quite simply I’m being lazy and afraid of putting forth effort

#11 cont’d: That is the ONLY position I can find to be comfortable for longer than 5 mins considering my bad back

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Hitomi (67) (@kidvisions) 8 years, 6 months ago ago

1. What is the number one question you have about meditation?
How can I make it a sustainable part of my life?

2. What was your expectation of starting a meditation practice? What did you think it would do for you?

I’ve always been a peaceful person, and at first I wanted to do meditation because I wanted to improve my peace of mind and be more peaceful and maybe stop being angry, but when I actually started doing it I felt I wanted it not only to help me achieve a peace of mind but also spiritual comfort and help me live in the moment.

3. Did you have some instruction before starting? If yes, what kind?

No, not really I just followed some videos on youtube and then a program called peace revolution on the internet, but their meditation sessions lasted 30 minutes and they were not very interesting so I stopped.

4. Why did you want to try meditation?
As I said because I am a peaceful person and I do not like conflict and I felt that if I could resolve my inner conflicts I could make a change in the world.

5a What is/was your biggest “problem” with your meditation practice?
My back hurt me a lot and at some point the meditation was monotonous.

5b Why do you think __________ caused that problem with your practice?

I guess I’ve always had problems with my back and I am not the most patient person.

6. What are some of the common difficulties you have had in your practice? (ie painful legs, too noisy, etc)
Painful legs and back.

7. How long into your practice did you stop if indeed you did?
I had to change positions every minute and after 20 minutes I couldn’t do any longer, something it would last 5 minutes, others 10 minutes, but never more.
I meditated for about 6 months but inconstantly maybe twice a week, sometimes once a month.
8. What was your main reason for not continuing on with meditation on a regular basis?
back pain and boredom but also because I was stressed out with school
9. How long would you normally sit for?
10minutes.

10. When in the day/night would you normally sit?
day.

11. What posture did you most commonly use and was it comfortable for you?
half lotus.

12. What amount of time could you realistically set aside each day for meditation?
20 to 30 minutes.
13. What could a meditation teacher do to help you?
Make it more interesting and not monotonous.I liked metta meditation the most because it had a purpose the rest of the meditations I made were purposeless.

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I hope I helped!

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