(I’m 43. Maybe this is an “old man rant”, but I need to get this off my chest.)
I don’t necessarily hate the object itself, but the way people are obsessed with their phones I find extremely annoying. It seems that manners have all but disappeared. I can’t count how many times a day a converstation with a co-worker, friend or family member is interrupted by a phone call or text. 9 times out of 10, rather than postponing a reply to their phones, they immediately cut the conversation short as if the message is a matter of life or death.
I’m somewhat of a solitary introvert, but when I’m out in public people seem to be more interested in scratching around on their smartphone screens instead of interacting with friends or being aware of their surroundings. (Many have seen the viral vid of the woman who walked into the mall fountain while texting on her phone. I’m sure this happens more often than you think.) I recently went to a sports bar to watch the UFC. Before, and even during the televised event, the majority of people were locked onto their smartphones – not even paying attention to the fights or talking to their friends. Why even bother to go out in public?
Lastly, it seems that smartphone “apps” have replaced basic skills – and even intelligence. My daughter is 19. When she goes on a trip, I insist that she use a map to plan her route before she leaves. She thinks this is silly because she has a GPS on her iphone – and besides, “none of my friends use maps.”
Don’t get me wrong – I have a cell phone. It’s a flip phone. I can’t tell you what kind it is besides that I have Verizon service. I use it for phone calls and a few texts. However, I keep these to a minimum and try to be polite about how I use it in public. People are more important to me than some gadget in my pocket. I will admit that I saw an app on my daughter’s phone that I thought was pretty cool. It was a “star chart” thing that showed the location and position of the stars, as well as the moon and sun during any time of day or night. It’s not enough to make me want an iphone – I just thought it was pretty amazing. If my interest in astronomy grows more, I may invest in a telescope and other equipment and kick it old school.
Does anyone else see things this way, or am I just being a grouchy old fart?
@drapetomania, OH BOY. JUST WROTE A HUGE COMMENT AGREEING WITH YOU ON HOW PHONES ARE USED TO HIDE FROM SOCIETY AND HOW MY 3 YEAR OLD NEPHEW WAS USING A SMART PHONE YESTERDAY TO FALL ASLEEP TO 80’S CARTOONS BUT MY PHONE DECIDED TO ERASE IT ALL AND REFRESH THE PAGE. F’N SMART PHONES!
@owenkellog I’m not sure if anyone has said this yet or not, because I didn’t read all of the responses, but you can’t hate the phone because of the person using it. The phone provides means of being rude, but the person chooses to look at it. Much like if you were carrying around a trumpet. If in the middle of a conversation you decided to blow it randomly, it wouldn’t be the trumpet making you blow it, but you on your own accord. Phones have disconnected the majority of the users, on that I agree, but when you have the possibility of having almost the entirety of all human knowledge sitting in your pocket, I think that’s pretty hard to hate. Just my look on things.
I dislike smart phones for my own personal use and find it very rude when people pull theirs out and start using it in the middle of a conversation, especially just to skim facebook(seriously?) but people can do what they want. A fun game to play is having everyone at your table when you go out together put their phones in a stack in the middle, and whoever looks at their phone first has to pay the bill. It’s fun and shows you how addicted we all really are to our phones.
By the way when did and why did looking at a small screen and straining your eyes and loosing more control over with just using your finger to navigate. Doesn’t work to good on drop down menus on websites by the way. Replacing the PC. I like my computer and haven’t really made the switch to smart phone as I find it very frustrating to use. Not because I do not know how to use it but because everything is so small and packed in small area. I guess if you tell people this is the new trend this is what is in now and is really cool everybody is using it. People are like cows and follow the herd not really thinking about what they are doing rather well Johnny is doin it and so is Sally so it must be the in thing.
I agree with some of what you said, but I disagree with some of it too.
I’ll start with the phone apps.
I can completely understand where your daughter is coming from. I personally would rather use a gps system than use a map, for the simple fact, it’s much easier (and less likely that she will get lost). However, I always think it’s a good idea to still bring a map with you, (incase the battery dies or something).
I think that if the older generation (I’m in my early 20’s now) had grown up with the technology that we (the younger generation) have, that their opinions on matters like this would be much different. I use my phone quite a lot. I think it’s fantastic. It helps me catch up with people whom I might not get to see very often (sure, I could right letters, but if I want to speak to someone, it’s brilliant that i just have to click a few buttons and I can hear their voice). I’m sure generation has had new things that seem odd (and a lot of the time rude) to the ones who had to ‘get used to it’ rather than being born into it.
I have an app on my phone that has all of my favourite books on it. I read them in public and I’ve never felt rude doing so. If I was with company I obviously wouldn’t have my nose stuck in my phone, but if I’m enjoying my own company, I don’t think it’s doing any harm.
Was the person in the sports bar alone or with friends?
I agree with what you said about people answering phone calls in the middle of a conversation. The only time I will do that is if I’m waiting on an important call, and then I will apologize after.
That’s my two cents :P
I’m so glad to see that I’m not the only one feeling this way ! Everyone around me seems to live in parallel world, where it matters the most to have as many friends as possible and to communicate with all of them all the time.
It is so sad to see how all the people don’t get what is around them. They can’t enjoy the real life while they’re texting about absolutly senseless things.
I don’t want to be contactable all the time. You can’t have a time for yourself, because people expect you to answer immediatly.
In addition also I think that real conversations aren’t possible via phones. It feels like people don’t know anymore how to live in social group.
I think we should pay more attention to all the people, who are actually around us. We should discover the world by opening our eyes and having a look around us and not on our phone.
Totally agreed! I keep my phone (a 2006-edition btw) switched off most of the time, only use it when I really have to make a phone call. I don’t want to be available 24/7 + as far as i’m concerned, it’s bad influence on both our physical and mental health. Althhough my friends complain about not being able to reach me (though they do know my [e-mail] address, so can’t really see the problem) and others just find it strange for a 18-year-old to not use her phone, I’m all good…
I couldn’t really imagine being attached and dependent on a device like everyone else seems to be. It’s a shame really, so glad to see some like-minded people in that sense! :-) High five!
@owenkellogg, On the insistence of my partner, I have a cell phone. I just will not use it. I like the computer function, but I will never use a cell phone to make a call. I am not convinced that these products are fully tested before they are released to the public.
And no one has my phone number.
I rid myself of my smartphone about a month ago and bought a cheap basic phone instead. Now, I don’t spend a ridiculous amount of money on data plans, I actually memorize how to get places rather than relying on gps, I’ve worked through anxiety in social situations rather than escaping from them(I look people in the eye more), I learn so much more from my surrounding environment(it’s amazing how much more complex, beautiful and thought provoking the real world is than my smartphone), I get more done obviously(less distraction), I initiate more conversations with strangers, strangers initiate more conversations with me, my thoughts are more organized, I’m forced to confront my feelings, less of my money is going to a large corporation, and I think I’m a little happier. Getting rid of my smartphone has been beneficial. I would encourage anyone to give it a shot. But I understand there are some benefits from having one and if you are one of those people that has a ridiculous amount of self control then maybe you should keep it.
I completely agree. I’ve been feeling the same ever since I upgraded to a smart phone. And I think it’s time to go back to a phone with an actual key board. I think it’s completely idiotic of how much time and effort people waste on updating their statuses and shit on social media and not actually enjoying life itself. It’s fucking stupid. I’ll be at school and everybody is walking around staring at their screens or attached to their headphones like does nobody look up anymore?? I see a lot of people updating whenever they get drunk and post pictures of their drinks or how fucked up they got that night. I don’t know if I’m the only 23 year old that feels this way but I don’t see or understand how or why people take so much fucking pride in how much they drink or get fucked up. I hate it. We’re wasting chances to make memories with each other. Are we all ever going to look back at life and think man remember that one time I updated my status and got fifty likes?? Fuck that.
ha i had a smartphone and went to a flip phone cause i would catch myself phone tweaking and didn’t like it. everyone of my friends gives me a hard time but some of them are catching on. i always try to call them out on phone tweaking and usually they stop
totally agree, and im still in my twenties. few moths back I stop using, carrying one Best thing Ive done In awhile. You begin to see how so much time is wasted in these screens. everywhere u go, it seems the cure-all tool for mental bored-em, or avoidance.
But mostly what made me give up the phone was the sweet taste of honey. apple needs bees to grow tree’s fruit of knowledge.
the flower of life needs bees to pollinate tomorrows beds of flourishing new scents, colors and stems of life.
cell phones kill bees..
not like a fly-swatter type death
but a puzzling, wondering, confused, lost of direction home to hive death.
The wavelengths and frequencies that cellphones and cell towers transmit, greatly impair a bees electromagnetic navigation compass along the earths ley lines in the fields of this homeland we live on..
A lost bee with no hive will not survive.
somebody should tell bill gates that… but I have a feeling he already knows, just doesnt care… I mean after all he is one of the biggest supporters of GMO agriculture . not to mention part owner in a multi-billion dollar cement vault in the arctic, housing millions of organic strands of plant species before what we know as organic begins to hybrid with what is GMO, and eventually creating a whole new, yet similar appearance of that apple tree.
I wonder what they hybrid Newton apple will drop on our heads next?