Have you ever laughed at something inappropriate?
Or in a inappropriate situation?
I’ve had moments where I want to laugh but other people believe “it’s the wrong time to do so” and say “that’s not funny” but if you laugh doesn’t that make it funny?
Yeah I laugh at some of the most inappropriate times. It’s my way of dealing with things I guess. Like when my parents sat down with my siblings and I and told us they were getting divorced, I wanted to laugh so bad. Like I couldn’t hold it back so I had to cover up my face & pretend that I was sad. There wasn’t anything funny about the situation but my reaction was to laugh & I couldnt control it. I also laugh when I don’t know how to continue a conversation with someone. Like if we’re talking and I don’t know how to respond, I usually give a little laugh & the conversation ends or the other person will continue on talking.
So in short, I think laughing can be used for other instances other than something being funny. As a defense mechanism or coping style or whatever. I think laughing makes you feel good so in situations where you might not feel so good, laughing may be a way to deal with that. Other people may not understand and see the laughter as inappropriate because 1) they are so identified with the problem & their own emotions to the problem that they don’t realize everyone is different & deals with things differently or 2) your reaction to the situation (laughing) is not what the other person expected/ it’s out of their control to make you react how they think you should act so they see it as inappropriate or disrespectful or whatever.
Aristotle wrote about how laughing is nature’s way of showing superiority against another person. In the animal kingdom, humans are the only ones with the ability to laugh, or rather the mind to understand humor. When we laugh we flash our canines, which is what animals do when they want to show their strength. Teeth symbolize “attack mode” (think sharks, gators, dogs); they are are symbol of power (humans get braces to use teeth to promote image). When we find something funny, it is often because we feel that we ourselves are better than whatever it is we find funny. We laugh at when people fall, we laugh at comedians when they joke about another race or stereotype that we do not fall in to, and we laugh at someone who has less knowledge than ourselves. Laughing is how humans express the awkward feeling of being one with everyone while simultaneously feeling a step above them.
@man-of-the-future, good question, intereting topic with great potential for discussion.
Case in point:
@xtine, what a great response! That’s an excellent explanation of this particular human behavior. I’d not thought of it like this, or rather looked at it from this perspective. But it’s so simple and obvious. Thanks for posting this.
“Laughing is how humans express the awkward feeling of being one with everyone while simultaneously feeling a step above them.”
Great point. The humanity evolves on the plane of conscious awareness, the we need comedy. It’s the safety-line that allows us to look into the abyss of our on existence without completely losing our minds. It is how the Ego can be a positive force. We humans need to be able to mock the Universe because it keeps our primitive self and mind grounded. The day we don’t need ton laugh is the day we have a complete, unified understanding of the Universe, Consciousness and all of Existence.
Until then, LAUGH ON! Even if it’s “inappropriate”. If you need to laugh for yourself, is it not inappropriate to deny yourself that. The concept that certain things are not to be laughed at is just social conditioning and oppression by a system that doesn’t want us to psychologically evolve.
Laughing is natural as @xtine just explained. It can’t be acceptable to only laugh at certain things.
“Either everything is okay to laugh about, or nothing is!”
@vovinawol, but that is okay. Everyone at the same time understanding any point one makes is a false expectations. What is the true perspective is knowing that we plant subtle, silent seeds in others. So that they are able to grow naturally and the individual takes their own path to discovery.
You can’t teach perspective. It must grow from within to be real.
Don’t fret if people miss any point you think you are making. They just might be, without either of you being aware.
I agree. I’m in the same boat. I try to understand my own words, as well as others. People that I offend, seem to think I speak from a point of my ego, and I also wonder that. The weird thing is that I read my own posts and need to ponder them. I think my post are all written for myself and not others. But it’s hard to explain this weird manipulation that my subconcious plays on my perception and logical/rational mind. Why did I even type this? I don’t know.
@vovinawol, I think we’ve hijacked this thread enough brother.
I’m posting my next response as a public message to you. So anyone following this tangential discussion, follow us there.
Hopefully that leaves room for more HEthens to discuss the original topic here.
My bus driver was mad I didn’t have change yesterday…laughed right in his face.