Dresses? No thanks.
I’ve gotten a lot of shit about this in my life. And I just thought I’d share my thoughts on it. So, I guess I wouldn’t call myself a “girly girl”. I hate dresses and skirts. I just don’t like them, and nor do I feel comfortable in them. All I have is like graphic tees and band shirts. And that’s what I love and what I feel comfortable in. I also love beanies, so I wear those also. At this moment I only on one item of clothing that is pink. That’s what I love wearing. For example, all the girls I work with are like, “Do you like this skirt or this dress, blah blah blah?” And I’m like, “Yea, but I wouldn’t wear it. I don’t like skirts, dresses, etc.” And there like, “Really? That’s weird.” Another example. I got called barbie a lot in high school. And I HATED being called that with a passion because I’m not like that at all. Anyways, maybe being called that killed all the girly-ness inside me or something. But I really just like music, and leather jackets and spikes etc. I even get shit from my mom sometimes. (Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom.” But sometimes she’s like, “Another band tee? Can’t you where something else?” Anyways, I’m not trying to sound whiny or anything, but I really feel like this is more of a girl issue. I mean, no one really cares too much about guys where. I guess I just wanted to rant ’cause it was pissing me off. I mean, I would say that the most feminine thing about me is that I love makeup, and thats about it.
Do you, fuck everyone else. You don’t need permission from anyone else to do anything you want or be who you are. Sounds cliche but it’s the truth.
Girly and feminine is kind of generalized into mandatory dresses and pink, but you don’t have to define it that way. If you want to be feminine, define it how you see it fit for yourself, and if not then be whatever fits you. Your mom is just projecting something that she probably enjoys or enjoyed about being herself.
People who are daring enough to give a fuck to what people say are attractive for me! These are people who worth knowing better and usually have something special to teach when is “sex time”. The main thing is: Life is short and we do not even have time to listen to ourselves well, so for what reason should we listen so carefully to what people have to say about us?
Let is be happy, good vibes in the air, everyone wants just to be happy and if you are happy, they will keep talking about you. Me, representing the Happy People Society (haha) say that we do not care to what you “Average Living Being” have to say about us.Because we are happy!
@gracyfacey719, “and nothing to get hung about..”
Scream it out, its good, just don’t get caught up in it. Freeing from this gender barriers is possible. I cannot stress this enough.
Nobody cares about what guys wear because it is a tight system already. Female fashion markets change by the second, male, by the century. But if a guy, tries to go against he’s gonna hear a lot. I always wanted to wear tunics and kilts. Its gonna be crazy man in the first, gay in the second. Normal in the east, normal in Scotland, but don’t try wearing it here.
Well all I can say is a think dresses can look extraordinarily pretty. Long, loose-fitting flowery dresses are one of my favourite things that a girl can wear.
Do you really not wear dresses and skirts because you don’t like them, or is it because you don’t wish to be thought of as a ‘girly girl’, seeing as you were teased about it in highschool?
I don’t think you would get upset about your mum asking you that if you didn’t still feel trapped by these bullies into wearing clothes that allow you to escape teasing.
Sorry if this sounds like I’m claiming to know things about you that I obviously don’t, I just wanted to offer another opinion on the matter for you to consider, because I don’t like to see anyone upset, and the truth is there is realistically nothing you can do about what the external world thinks of you, you can only change your internal world. If you feel conflict and distress about this, then take action to resolve it, take responsibility and admit that there is something YOU can do to stop what YOU wear from causing YOU any stress (your clothes and the stress you feel about them should be an isolated system, external factors should not affect it) don’t place blame on anything or anyone besides yourself, if you do that you are simply trapping yourself, boxing yourself up and allowing your system to be battered and bruised by the incessant stream of energy that is the world.
You must open yourself up, reconnect, and do everything as an end, rather than a means to an end.
If you wear band shirts rather than dresses IN ORDER to not be judged, and that is the reason you like them, then you are not quite being true to yourself and will be treated as such.
If you wear band shirts rather than dresses simply because you feel and look better in them, then that it is all well and good, and people will feel that you are being true to yourself and you will receive no ‘shit’ from anyone.
Again, I do not claim to know you better than yourself Gracie, that would just be retarded, it just seems like this is quite a big issue for you if you made a post about it, and this was the only rational solution I could offer.
Step 1 – wear whatever the fuck you want.
Step 2 – stop giving a shit what other people think.
@gracyfacey719, Good for you for wearing what you want to wear! The only people who are going to criticize you for what you do or do not wear are most likely the people who cannot find the balls themselves to wear what they truely want. Just do whatever you want to do and be happy that you actually have the guts to do so!
And a for the “Barbie” thing, that’s probably because they think you are so damn gorgeous girl ;) Not necessarily because they think you always have to be perfect. (or whatever you want to associate that title with)
This very much reminds me of the time from 7th – 9th grade. What literally every single girl cared about back then was fashion, make up and their crushes. I guess it’s normal for that age and I didn’t have a problem with it; i just didn’t give a fuck about which lipgloss brand could last the longest. So, as a protest (and because it was the MOST comfortable and amazing thing that exists) I only wore wide clothes from then on. You could say I kinda dressed like a guy. I didn’t care about my weight or what was going on in the life of some crazy celebrity. I remember isolating myself from those girls, because none of their conversations were deeper than “Do you think he will like my new haircut?”.
Anyway, kinda drifting off here. What I’m trying to get across is: Dress the way you like to dress. Conformity can be dangerous.
And here a scene from “Dead Poets Society”. Highly recommend that movie ;).
Im not a girly girl at all and i love wearing dresses and skirts. Purely for the fact that i feel like i can move so freely haha but I think its awesome that you just wear your band tees and jeans. I still do that and was all about that in high school. Like i said, i wear dresses and skirts because i think theyre comfortable and iiii love the way i feel in them. If your tees, jeans, and beanies make you feel your most comfortable self then go for it! Gender is simply a performance of what society has expected us all to adhere to. And can i just say that a chick in a band tee and jeans is sexy as hell… so to hell with the rest of them.
@gracyfacey719, I don’t where girl things either, I like them and I wish I could, but I jsut can’t make it a day in something totally girly. I wear my jeans and T-shirts (Often mens T-shirts.. ) and the only person who is really truly bothered by it is my mom. She blames herself for my lack of girly-ness and the fact that I HATE make-up with a passion due to a childhood experience I love her dearly and I would love to be her girl, but I just can’t. It’s not a problem that needs to be fixed or changed. It’s simply you being something that others aren’t. My sister is totally girl, I never have been. I try to be more girly for my boyfriend but other than that I just stick with being my tom boy self. I like it and most other people do to because they just know its who I am.